What do girls think of the "smart guy"?

[Brando]

Has it changed from the high school perception? I've noticed that I've changed since then. I used to hide it because I would stand out as the "nerdy kid". But now that I've been in college, I don't really care much because hey, it's my advantage :) and looking at me you wouldn't be able to tell, I don't dress, look, act, or speak like a nerd would. but have girls also undergone a change? Or are the girls my age (20) still looking out for the guy who is fun and things are based pretty much on looks alone? If I can brag a little bit, I think that I'm a good looking dude, but in high school the smart dudes were perceived to be nerdy and boring.

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The only reason I'm asking this is because I found out yesterday that I made the deans list for last semester

[kikoworld12]

Well most college guys don't want real girlfriends who they want to last more than 6 months, so I'd say if the guy doesn't pursue girls, it doesn't matter if they are smart or not. Actually, I really don't care if a guy is smart or not. I just want him to be awesome. I like cute guys who make me laugh and one who has chemistry with me. I'm smart I think...idk. I suppose social smarts are the most attractive to me, and also one who is a little quiet (like me). Unfortunately, my last boyfriend (who has now been my ex for a while) matched all those things, and it didn't work (I would get fussy because he would never talk deeply about stuff), so now I'm actually confused what I want. See, he didn't have the most book smarts in the world, so now I'm thinking a smarter guy would be nice.

HOWEVER, I am having trouble finding those qualities in guys with the book smarts too; usually with the added smarts they are either seeming like they are thinking they are too good for me, or not physically attractive enough (to me). THEN there is this guy I know who matches a lot of those, but "has given up on finding a girlfriend in college" and just sleeps around a lot. I actually find that really unattractive. Plus he does too many drugs and is too fickle about girls. So I guess what I said might give you some guidelines? I guess?

[xoxorosannaxoxo]

Girls do grow up, and usually by age 20, a lot of girls are ready to start looking for a guy that they can actually see having a future with. I find that people after high school really mature quite a bit, and begin to see things in a different and more mature way (most people).

Girls do not want to date stupid guys. They want to be able to hold an intelligent conversation with a guy. If you go out, and ask a girl what top 5 qualities she wants in a guy, I guarantee you that a lot of girls will have "smart" in that list.

Things are a lot different now then they were in high school. Girls really do want a smart guy, and if he's cute, that's even better! Don't dumb yourself down (not saying that you do) in hopes of trying to impress a girl. An intelligent girl will want an intelligent guy.

I am sure you have more to you then just intelligence. I'm sure you have an actual personality as well. A girl is going to see more in you then just how smart you are. Don't worry, intelligence is a good thing, and lots of girls look for that in a guy.

[Brando]

Well that's good to know lol. What about smart, shy guys? Lmao

[xoxorosannaxoxo]

I guess it really depends on how shy the guy is. It's okay if the girl initiates some of the conversations, as long as you can hold the conversations for a while, it should be fine. But try to think of things to say to initate conversations sometimes as well, or else the girl might shy away because she will think that you are uninterested, and that maybe she is bothering you.

I think a lot of girls tend to mistaken shyness for not being interested.

[Brando]

Thanks

[jextaimex]

I think it depends on the girl, not the age of a girl. I know in high school and now in college there are girls who see them as nerds.. they're still NICE to them, just not interested in them as much as they are the other guys.

There are girls like me though who have always liked smart guys, and always have. I think that maybe in a few cases its a matter of maturity, but with me and many of my friends... its always been this way. Its been our preference all along.

I think the only attraction that is out of immaturity is when girls go through the phase of liking the "bad boys", but beyond that... whether she likes smart guys, confident guys, shy guys, loud guys, athletic guys, artsy guys... it depends on her and what she values as an individual.

[BlackSuperman]

They (girls looking at smart guys- the best way for a HS kid to remain dateless is to be interested in learning and bettering himself) really don't in general... in fact, most 'smart guys' are overlooked. But as time passes, as life progresses, the 'smart guy' is doing things in life... The average girl is already a mother, maybe divorced a couple of times. The 'smart guy' is enjoying himself (whether or not he has come into his own), NOW he is desirable because of success and financial accoutrements. That's just the way it is... the smart guy doesn't get any in the beginning, but in the end, he does get it all.

[Brando]

Thanks for the answer. I asked this question 7 months ago and I've changed since then. I've started thinking basically what you just said. I jokingly told a friend once that I'm going to get rich one day, then pay all these girls to clean my house! lol

But yeah, I just quit caring about girls and what they think so this question is void now.

[BlackSuperman]

Dude, ya made the right choice... you do you, to hell with them chicks... live a life worth talking about.

[Brando]

Haha I'll see the random pretty girl and be like "hmmmmm" but still stress free :)

[girl89]

People need to understand that college is something to be taken seriously regardless of how smart you are or how good looking you are take it to your complete advantage. Also people should dress however they want, like they say "don't judge a book by its cover."

[Brando]

While I agree with you, there are waaaay too many people who can't stop themselves from judging the book by it's cover. I just didn't know if the smart guy went from being the boring one to the impressive one.

Thanks for answering btw!

[girl89]

I do agree with you on that. In high school I did see the nerds being compared to as "losers" but now it just goes to show that being a nerd in college can be a real blessing.

[Brando]

So what is a nerd to you, dresses/looks nerdy or acts like it? Lol

[girl89]

I've met plenty of good looking, well dressed, smart guys in college. Their really isn't a definition on how a nerd dresses or acts due to the fact that everyone is different in their own unique ways.

[Yurippe]

Smart girls want smart guys.

The rest, you might want to ignore.

Seriously, that's like asking "should I neglect my whole personality to get the girl I want?" Would you really do that? You'd have to lie to her forever and play dumb!

Don't you want someone to love you for you?

Someone who is smart will fancy another smart person so they can have smart conversations (and smart kids later xD)

[kmhco]

Congrats on the Dean's list! I made it too, and imo smart guys are way better than dumb guys. Its kind of like the whole thing about "bimbos." Would you like a smart girl more or a bimbo? My guess would be the smart girl, and it works the same way when girls look at guys. Sure there are hot guys that are just complete idiots, and I would rather not spend a lot of time around. "Nerdy" guys are usually pretty adorable, and fun to talk to.

[miki94]

Lol, you could say I'm a weird girl then. Because I find smart guys incredibly attractive. He can sometimes have bunch of flaws, but his smarts tend to win over for me. Too bad most of the smart guys are shy... =(

[Brando]

Ha the shyness thing is too true lol

[drummerdude25]

Well maybe if you allow yourself into a shy guy's life and give him a chance to open up, you'd probably be very surprised.

[Anonymous]

Smart guys are a turn on. I've never been into the hot guy with a low GPA. It's hard to hold an intelligent conversation with someone who doesn't care about their education. And it's always a bonus when a smart guy just happens to be cute :)