My boyfriend spends alone time with his female friend. I'm usually okay with that... but this is unsettling. Do I have a right to be suspicious?

[Anonymous]

Im okay with him hanging out with female friends he has more than one and they usually get coffe or lunch and that fine... like I do my male friends.. I personally hang with my male friends in the day or evening. Building opposite sex friendships are fine... except, for his one specific female 'buddy'. She comes over to his place at 10pm to 1am and they watch movies and talk. Like wtf... i would never spend time with a guyfriend that late unless we were with other people at a party or with friends camping. Never alone at his house when in a relationship because I care about my BFs feelings, and am trying to be respectful. I would never tell him to get rid of his female friends either because i have no right to... But I just want respect. Now... here's the kicker... when I (his girlfriend) go to his house we will hang out and then at around 10:30pm he will get tired and pass out or say he is sleepy and go to bed.. ill beg him to stay up a little bit later and he will say he's to tired, (i do stay the night... but still)... but for this chick, he will stay up untill 1am (from what i know... F*** she could be sleeping over for all i know)

He texted me last night 12am and said "Im hanging out with Jenna watching a movie and my cats were laying down in a funny position" then he texted me the picture. I know he did that so he would feel better about him and her hanging out at 12am. I love his cat but comeon...

I only see him once or twice a week because he lives 45 mins away in another town he says he's moving to my city... but its no excuse.
Im pissed... i need some advice before I highly concider breaking this off and getting someone who respects boundries when in a relationship.

Updates

+1 y

He just recenlty told me he loves me too...*roll eyes* i dont believe it one bit.. weve only been dating for 6 months.

[madhatters4]

it does seem a little sketchy that with you he can't stay up late (although i guess if he has to make the 45minute drive home that may be a reason) but for her he stays up super late.

when you two do hang out and he ends a date earlier (like 10:30pm) does he go home and go to bed or does he still stay up?

[Asker]

Sometimes he is awake and others im guessing he's asleep but i wouldn't know for sure.. only what he tells me over text.

[the_rake]

If you are at the point where you would consider ending the relationship over this then you need to have a serious talk and present him with an ultimatum (stop doing her so late or you will end the relationship). I'd you mean anything to him, he will stop seeing this girl.