What causes Asian women to be better for stable relationships more so than white women these days?

[Anonymous]

I've read not only hear but many other places with men that dated both Asian and white women and they all say that they give way better stable, loving relationships than white women with less tendency/rates for cheating.

In fact if you actual look up a lot of western white men are going abroad to get an Asian wife and state they prefer Asian woman to white woman now.

1. And i would like to know why that is?

2. And what influence has resulted in white women being less suitable for LTR relationships these days?

[Anonymous]

1. Docile and submissive? Lol no
Many men are under the assumption that Japanese women are nice, submissive, and obedient. There was a time in Japan where women were expected to behave this way but it is not like that anymore. Japanese women tend to act this way when you are simply dating them. They will cook for you. They will stop by your house to drop off a gift that was bought for you. All will seem nice and well until you put that ring on. When that happens, the act will disappear.
If she seems just like the misguided stereotype that you’ve read about then trust me when I say that she is deceiving you! Trust me on this. You are being lured into a trap and it will come in the form of an “accidental” pregnancy, stalking, and just everything seeming like it’s too good to be true. Do not be deceived. You should be even more alert if she knows that you are wealthy or of high status.
2. No control over finances
In Japan, women tend to manage the money. The husband works many hours a week, gets his paycheck, and comes home only to give all of the money to the wife. This happens even if the wife is not working, which is also common as Japan still has a large portion of married women who are homemakers. When it comes to making financial decisions, is also common for the wife to have the final say. I’m talking about furniture, vacations, transportation, and more. The wife typically makes all of these decisions.
I don’t know about you guys but I have a problem with this. I ran into this problem with an ex of mine. She wanted access to my checking account and began telling me what I should buy with my own money. I told her that I will do what I want with my money and that she has no business asking me about my financial assets. Of course this was a problem so I broke up with her.
3. Extreme passive aggressiveness
Here is a conversation I had with a woman I was dating. I was staying at her house and this was late at night; not too long after we had sex.
Her: I’m hungry. Go to the store and grab me something to eat.
Me: What?
Her: Go to the store and grab me something to eat.
Me: Get something out of the refrigerator. It’s too late and I don’t feel like leaving now.
Her: Fine then. I had a taste for Onigiri [steamed rice balls] which I don’t have here but that is okay. I will just not eat though I am hungry.
I left out the house and never came back. Of course she called multiple times over the next several weeks wondering what happened to me, but I was go

[Opinion Owner]

... but I was gone for good. I just cannot stand such blatant and poor attempts to manipulate me. This is all too common in Japan. The people there do their best to avoid conflict. There is a huge emphasis on this and a strong aversion to complaining, even to your loved ones in private. Being seen as a complainer is one of the worse things possible in Japan. No matter how bad things are going for you, suck it up.
A direct consequence of this is the inability to really speak directly and candidly. In Japan, it is nearly impossible to get someone to be forthright about something. You can ask someone something and they will smile and say “maybe” but what they really mean is a big fat NO. This will include your personal relationships when dating so be prepared for a barrage of passive aggressiveness. You thought American women and their shit tests were bad? Ha! You haven’t seen anything yet.

[Opinion Owner]

4. Mental health
Something that really needs to be mentioned is that Japan doesn’t really have a mental healthcare industry. Many women are running around there with some serious unchecked mental issues and you would not have the faintest idea at first. Problems such as abuse can be seen as normal and that behavior will be projected towards you. There is also the chance of her pulling off a disappearing act, leaving you wondering what the hell happened
5. Your children will be taken away from you
This is simple. You marry a Japanese women and then that day comes when you finally go through divorce. Guess what? She will take away the children. You think it’s bad in the USA when women try to get full custody? In Japan, the wife will take them away from you and disappear. In the United States at least some courts treat some men fairly. Unlike Japan in which the court system won’t even try to help you.

[Opinion Owner]

6. Sex will be withheld from you
Another simple thing that needs to be mentioned is that all too often many men get married in Japan and have their first child. Only to see that his wife has stopped having sex with him. Many men on GAG have said this is a deal breaker so nothing more needs to be said on the subject. There is also infidelity to consider. It doesn’t happen as often as countries like Russia, the USA, or the UK, but it still happens more than you think. Many husbands and wives in Japan have their own mistresses and both are aware of it and don’t care. I don’t think I need to explain why. A belief that isn’t totally uncommon in Japan is that paying for sex isn’t considered cheating.
In conclusion
Does any of what I mentioned sound familiar? I hope so because these are exactly the same complaints men on GAGtypically have regarding women out here in the West. What needs to be said is that all women behave the same way generally speaking unless the culture checks that..

[Opinion Owner]

behavior. That is it. I ask that you be very careful when dating, no matter where the woman is from.

[Cosytoasty]

These poor dudes have no idea what they're in for once they put it a ring on it lol. They think they're in for a low maintenance ride but once they have kids... she will turn into a legit dragon.

The concept of "face" and public image is strong, they will never be rude or disrespectful in front of other people but once you get home, you're going to get both barrels.

[renogaza]

many Asian women are raised with that in mind, family oriented, traditional, conservative, and more often than not hopelessly romantic (caused by Korean/Japanese soaps which are often translated for other Asian countries to watch), while many western women are more.. masculine than feminine, (especially Australian women o_o) and have experienced so many breakups that the concept of love often leaves many of them and only ever get married for financial stability than anything else nowadays..

in the height of the feminist movement covertly converting to feminazism many women ended up destroying themselves, their families, husbands, and other peoples marriages, which pretty much corrupted the states and many parts of Europe whereas feminism in Asia mostly survived while feminazism bounced off like a bitter vinegar soaked egg (lol)

[FeminaziRegime]

That is hilarious

[btbc92]

It depends on how they were raised. A lot of them are structured on family and staying with the person they have children with. Some rarely divorce, and they are far more disciplined. Something that seems like an enigma to out people who never grew up like that. Other women hates the idea of structure so they feel that they should choose who fathers their children and still want a chance to have sex elsewhere whenever they feel unhappy. Many thinks there's a start over button, when their isn't. Very rare they find somebody to have a long term relationship with. In fact in our countries many men don't last long with western caucasian women, and is a rare occurrence if they do, even in marriage. They have to have a like mindset in order to survive.

[dipta]

I think I've seen the guy on the 3rd pic somewhere... maybe the television, lol.

But no, I think that's another myth.
Some Asian women can also become real nightmares despite the appearances, so better not to rely completely on the subjectiveness of races.

[Miss_Behave]

I'm not sure (and didn't know) that white men like Asian women because of relationship stability. I've always thought that they like Asian women because they look exotic... /shrugs

[Roldrake]

OH PLEASE. I can tell you from experience that Asian woman be so much more generous in the bedroom area and not only that they always have my meals ready on time, they mop the floor shiny clean, bathroom always scrubbed and laundry done nicely. NOT like those baggy old white ladies so uppity who can't even clean dishes properly. C'mon man.

[kaylaS91]

What causes Asian women to be better for stable relationships more so than white women these days?

Well.. it definitely helps to have insecure little bitchboys believe this generalization and in doing so, perpetuating it more and more.

[kaylaS91]

Keep the downvotes coming! Your opinions must be extremely valid if you can't even verbalize and explain why you disagree. 👌

[Jager66]

The reasons why I've heard this are cultural. Things like the woman being more committed to marriage and family, more appreciative of their husbands, less confrontational, more kind, less selfish, less materialistic, less likely to get fat, age better, more feminine.

Not saying any of this is true but it's the stereotype. Plenty of guys really dislike western women.

[kaylaS91]

@Jager66 .. ugh. What an excellent example of how ignorant and naive most of the people on this site are.
Asian women are on average, not any more committed to marriage and family + appreciative of their husbands than women of any other race. That's something only people who believe the stereotype of Asian females being pushed on them. That all Asian girls are subservient little lapdogs that will do whatever the fuck you want them to. You obviously haven't met many Asians.

Asian girls can get fat just as easily as other girls, too. Sure, more feminine if your idea of feminine is on average having next to no curves and being child-sized. Aging better is the only truth to that, though applies for all POC. Largely influenced by how much pressure Asians, especially, face to age well and maintain their youthfulness or they will be viewed as 'wasted', but mostly because higher levels of Melanin actually do lead to better aging. If that's why you wish to marry an Asian... good luck with that.

[Jager66]

Ok crazy lady... (or you just salty?)

"ugh. What an excellent example of how ignorant and naive most of the people on this site are."

"You obviously haven't met many Asians."

"If that's why you wish to marry an Asian... good luck with that."

None of this applies to me. Just because I *might* know a *little* on a topic does not mean I support it, agree with it, want it, identify with it etc.. I even CLEARLY said that I'm not saying any of the stereotype was true, and that it's what I've *heard* (not believe).

You must be a blast at parties...

[kaylaS91]

@Jager66 I must be a blast at parties? Way to take this completely off topic.
I'm not salty. I'm not that desperate that I care about what people (including you) on this site, of all places, think about me or desperate for them to fawn over me. I'm simply illustrating how to look at this issue as it is in reality.

[Jager66]

yeah well I agree with your opinion, I was just offering opinions that I have heard from other people on the topic. The comment about parties was because you didn't even bother to pay attention to what I had said but still went after me anyway in your reply.

[kaylaS91]

@Jager66 I did reply to what you said?
Which was basically calling me salty, refuting points that countered this qa's post, then saying you don't know why I'm gearing my own opinion against you, specifically. Which I never in any way indicated, and couldn't type any more due to the character limit anyway.

[Jager66]

I'm talking about your first response to me, I've got no problem with just about everything you've said. I didn't refute any of your points, because I agree with them, I said they had nothing to do with me.

The reason I thought they were directed at me was because of these comments at the ends of your paragraphs. How exactly are these not aimed at me?:

"You obviously haven't met many Asians."
"If that's why you wish to marry an Asian... good luck with that."

[kaylaS91]

@Jager66 oh, my bad. Those were not specifically aimed at you. I would just think that of anyone who says that they think Asian women were 'better' for stable relationships, and have a strong preference for them for those specific reasons.
✌️

[Jager66]

ahh ok cool, thanks for clearing that up for me :)

[madhatters4]

traditionally Asian cultures raise women to be more subservient. more likely to submit to their partner as it is seen as the best way to foster a good relationship and create and maintain a family.

[DianaWest]

i see so many "men" on here obsessed with how terrible and ugly and bad and evil white women are. it is so adorable. move on if you hate white women so much. why are they always on your mind?

[Anonymous]

Asian culture seems to be one heavily into female subservience. Men who find independent women difficult will not have a successful relationship with them.

[DandelionGirl]

I just answered this, why is my answer gone?

[renogaza]

probably because a moderator flagged it as offensive or something.

[DandelionGirl]

@renogaza but I didn't say anything offensive... this site is getting on my nerves.

[renogaza]

you should report it to a mod then, they'll pass it along the heirarchy :)

[JC103]

I'm Asian and I have never heard of this lol

[Asker]

So you've never heard of this? I often come across this quite a bit with men in articles discussing marriage, relationship in the West. A lot of them talk about how Western women suck and that getting a traditional, Asian girl from the East was the ideal.

There actual is quite a bit of discussion of men talking about women in West being markedly upset of men going for foreign women over them.

[JC103]

Ehh... That could just all be situational. Which cause them to just generalize.

[Asker]

For example this comment i came across just this morning

"I've seriously been doing it wrong the entire time. Met her outside of a restaurant on college campus. This girl is the most respectable, family oriented girl I've ever run across and she's only 22. Said she's only had 1 boyfriend.

I am so done with white girls now.

If you all can find an Asian, date one and see for yourself. The difference is night and day."

[JC103]

Yeah but how about if it was a white girl that was like that. It's really situational and people are just generalizing. Because not all Asian girls are like that and not all white girls are like that

[Asker]

Your right not everyone is like that but i don't think people were implying all Asian girls are perfect wife/GF material just the prevalence seems to be higher among Asian woman.

[JC103]

But see that's a generalization. That's not a fact but more of a compliment. You can sad that Asians are more conservative than liberal because that's a fact but white people are too. He just met the right one at the right time and thought something to what he deemed as logical which is generalizing and a opinion

[Maxemeister]

Is that Norman Reedus?

[Anonymous]

Asian women are awesome!

[Anonymous]

No. Just no.

[Dimmu]

Respecting man