Is it wrong if I ask my friends with benefits if he's seeing someone else?

[Anonymous]

He said in a group chat that he's starting to love someone (but didn't say who). Is it my right to ask for details?

[Victoria-Anna]

Of ourse it's not wrong. Even though it's just a friends with benefits relationship you still have a right to know if he's seeing someone else.

If I was in a friends with benefits I'd let him know I wouldn't be seeing other guys at the same time and I'd want to know his stance on that too.

I'd mention it to him then you can make a decision of whether you want to continue the relationship or not... based on his response

[Darkfairie17]

Did you two agree to be exclusive? I would be hurt too if a guy I was seeing was seeing someone else. But if it's a friends with benefits and we agreed to let each other see other people, then there's not much I can be mad about.

I can see why it would be hurtful. But I would just talk to him. If you don't want him seeing other people, make that part of your agreement.

[moodyamygdalae]

Well in my opinion, it seems that you entered that kind of relationship fully aware of the kind of situation you will be in. It's not bad to ask if he's seeing someone else but it wouldn't really change anything not unless you make it official if you both want to.

[Anonymous]

If you feel that you are having feelings, what's best for you to do now?
It's inevitable that one will start getting attached.
And or one start to find love elsewhere.
Be open and honest with your own feelings and needs so that you know what to do next.

[WrathTECH]

It shouldn't matter mentally I wluld think but there is the possibility of of contracting STD's from his other partner if they are sexually active.

With that, by all means do what you feel is right and not out of jealously or anger. All good things come to an end.

[MazeOfLove]

From a relationship coaching lens, here are my thoughts.

Wrong to ask? No.
Wrong to ask and ask again? Yes.
Wrong to ask and get upset at the answer? Yes.
Wrong to ask and not to answer if you get asked in return? Yes.

[matheus_mb]

I don't think so in this circumstance. If he's starting to love someone and you're having sex, it has to stop sooner or later. How can you know if he doesn't tell you? Since he mentioned it, I think that asking would be appropriate.

[Blonde401]

friends with benefits is no strings. Sti status is all you need to know. If you want a relationship with him you should have been clearer in the beginning

[rascalRAH]

You should know because if he loves someone else itd be unfair to them for you guys to be hooking up. Id ask so you can evaluate whats going to happen

[mrinalashesh007]

O well.. u may ask him just like that.. but lemme know... are u starting to love this guy?

[Asker]

Yeah i think i have some feelings for him.. I don't know if it's love tho

[mrinalashesh007]

Well.. unless u r too sure about it being love.. don't dare to propose or tell him bout ur feelings.. u may end up blowing him away..

be patient.. hang around with him a lot.. more than earlier... be outspoken to him.. in a certain ways.. n hav a frnd.. who may help u to make ur love interest jealous of u n ur frnds closeness.. if u know what i mean? 😊

[Asker]

Yeah i know but i just dont want to end up getting hurt you know

[mrinalashesh007]

of course.. even i dont want u to get hurt.. nothing is worse than a heartbreak. but then u hv to b strong.. can't afford to b soft at this juncture

[mrinalashesh007]

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[Elastephen]

You can ask but you might get hurt if you don't like what he has to say if you've got some feelings for him.

[Honeystick]

Who knows, maybe it's you. He only said SOMEONE, not someone ELSE. I'd definitely ask him.

[truthbeknown]

No, you have the right to know for your own personal health.

[OlderAndWiser]

What if it's someone else?

[Asker]

Then i'll cut what's going on between us

[OlderAndWiser]

This sounds like so much of what happens with friends with benefits. Some people begin with the plan of just casual sex but it becomes more ; others begin hoping that it will develop into more than just sex.

[Stone_Fizzlebeef]

Ask away. But you have no guarantee he'll answer. You only cross the line if he gives an answer you're jealous over and try to fuck it up for him.

[cupidkisses]

it is not wrong to ask but it is weird as you are just friends with benefits.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Yes it is right, you should ask him but be prepared just in case

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's wrong. And no, it's not you. You're slop material. You can't possibly be loved. It's impossible. Because you're bad. You're just a bad person.

[realworld2017]

he should say but not details. nothing good comes of details.

[Anonymous]

just ask. not like you're in a legal contract or anything lol

[Anonymous]

Nope your friends with benefits all he owes you is a good pounding every now and then nothing else

[willwhitez]

Yes of of those benefits is anonymity

[jacquesvol]

It's healthier to know it.

[Justin85283]

Why ask? Assume his is and get over it.