Do you think it's unfair that women are ridiculed for their preferences in the opposite sex? (Page 2)

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- Women like taller men, men like shorter women. - Women like men that make more money, men like women that make less money. - Women like men that are strong and muscular, men like women that are weak and soft. - Women like men that are dominant, men like women that are submissive. It seems unfair to judge women, when men biologically have preferences that are opposite to women's. The only differences are that men's preferences, by nature, are easier to attain, and men might be more lenient in their preferences due to the fact that their life might be better if they dated someone who... makes more money, for example, despite the fact that they don't genuinely prefer it.

art84 · Answer

Everyone has their own preferences when looking for a partner whether it be male or female. For me personality I would want someone who is below 5'7 as that's my height. As for weight maybe lesser than what I weigh, they don't have to be a model just in shape. As for money, makes less than what I make or about the same. As for a women being weak and soft, maybe the soft part but not weak. I would have to be the strong one in the relationship which I wouldn't mind as long as the girl isn't weak minded and needs someone strong by her at all times.

Anonymous · Answer

I answered that it is unfair because I think women's preferences in the opposite sex are largely out of their control, just as men's are. But in a sense the criticism is actually very fair because women have brought it on themselves by all their criticism of men, male behavior and masculinity over the last 30 years and their horrendous double standards. In a sense women are just getting a taste of their own medicine.

I think that's sad and would like to think we can reach some sort of understanding between the sexes where we recognize and respect our differences, but I think women / feminism have dug a pretty deep hole that they are going to need to begin to try to dig themselves out of before we can make any progress in that area of society.

RandomMay · Answer

Everyone has their preference. I think a lot of men just like to nit pick when it comes to females going after males who are the opposite of what they are. It's natural for a female to want a man that she can relay on, and like wise with males. It's completely understandable that men want females who make them feel masculine.

asheslee · Answer

I think women are too often stereotyped. I out-earned my husband for much of our relationship. It never mattered to me. We split domestic responsibilities down the middle for many years, as well. Also, for what it is worth, I don't think women are predisposed to choose older men. I think that we begin dating men around our age and have negative experiences, pushing most of us to pursue relationships with men who are older than us. This is my experience, anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Im personally not to fused about the others though i'm not short and have a fair amount of muscle so im not really hit by it. The 2nd however if i where a millionaire Id have to watch my back and if i where running a failing company and in debit id do terribly dating wise and if i was dating it would probly cost me money i couldn't afford.
Men don't prefer women that make less money unless there rich or insecure in which case if its a genuine preference it's not the money but the greater degree of control it gives them so the relationship revolves around them and a greater ease of finding some one.

Generally women put much more emphasis on money but that doesn't mean guys don't care we do and if we have any sense we try to avoid women that place a lot of importance on money. Placing to much emphasis on it suggests your in it for the wrong reason and there's a very good reason for guys to be very wary of that.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

If anything I always thought men got more ridiculed about their preferences than women. A man might prefer a girl who is thin with big boobs, and he'll get called shallow.
A man could say he prefers a woman to make less money than him, (even though i've never heard anyone say that) and he'd probably get called sexist or something.

RedThread · Answer

Am I a weird guy if those aren't my preferences?
-don't care about height
-doesn't have to make less than me
-doesn't have to be weak and soft
-doesn't have to be submissive

Women shouldn't be judged for their preferences. I don't think most men and women share identical preferences within their gender.

vonasaurus · Answer

and this, ladies and gentlemen, is why generalizations are so dangerous. these are stereotypes; *you* are an individual, and what you (don't) like is unique to you.

Phantomium · Answer

If she's soft and gentle and submissive then she's a gold digger and wants to be taken care of.
If she's strong and independent and dominant she's a rabid lesbian feminazi.
You westerners have no idea what you want, do you?
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Maxenios · Answer

Those are just socially and evolutionary motivated tendencies, fuelled by the clichés purported by "the media" (advertisements, sponsored programs, commercial shows, sports, product placements, gender-targeting) and those are the same parties who "ridicule" people (directly or indirectly) for not being "in-role".
Nobody should be ridiculed for that.
Individual people have individual needs and individual preferences.
If two people aren't compatible, they should just move on.

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

Yes, I think that it is unfair that women are ridiculed for their preference is wanting someone who they find attractive. The guys and women who are complaining are usually the ones who noone wants and finds attractive. people can date whoever they choose to.

MlleCake · Answer

Preferences are really quite individual, and you will find, out here in the real world, most people are pretty flexible if they meet someone who really clicks with them. Some preferences are based on rigid gender roles, and while I don't think they need to be ridiculed, I think they are worth examining and abandoning when they are found to be baseless.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

Yes it is. Everyone has preferences. Even the people who are judging you unfairly will too.

I would never change my standards just coz someone didn't agree with them.

Usually the those who don't like you having preferences are the people who are insecure , they feel inadequate in themselves

manmore · Answer

It's unfair to men because men need to do all the work while women do nothing and think they deserve hot guys.

Tony1974 · Answer

Turn that question around and answer it.

Of course it's fair; we have equal right to be as critical as women are.
Men have been lambasted for YEARS because we "supposedly" prefer Barbie dolls as opposed to what the vast majority of women are: fat and overweight.

meatballs21 · Answer

I have been ridiculed because I like women who are petite and skinny with small boobs. Yet if I were to instead go with what women think men want (ridiculous curves like Angelina Jolie or Beyoncé or a Kardashian) then I'd be ridiculed in that for unrealistic demands of hard to attain bodies.

The short version is that girls get mad if whatever you like isn't them.

Nightinggale · Answer

No. I for one have had enough of these cunts who think they are worthy of a 10/10 6 figure income man. Listen sweetheart, ya gotta ask yourself what do I bring to the relationship? Exactly. Most women dont bring shit

evenlift · Answer

I wrote a myTake a while back that addresses some of the essence of what you are saying:

ThisDudeHere · Answer

"The only differences are that men's preferences, by nature, are easier to attain, and men might be more lenient in their preferences" -You answered your own question, ma'am.

Tarvold · Answer

Women aren't ridiculed for their preferences in men. Women are ridiculed for their hypocrisy when they talk about their preferences in men.

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