Boyfriend and I haven't spoken for nearly a week after fight?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I had a petty argument five days ago. It was honestly over nothing important, but we had been arguing a lot a week before this took place. That night ended with me asking him if he just wants me to leave instead of hanging out and he said "you can go" so I took that as I should leave, which I did. We texted a little more about it later that night and it basically ended with him saying "this arguing is old" and me saying " I am done trying."

He ignored me until later the next day where he said "Hi" and nothing more. I was still upset, so I ignored his hello. It has now been nearly five days. I have not responded because I don't know what to say. A part of me is waiting for him to say more than just "hi" and another part of me honestly just doesn't feel like talking to him at all anymore. I do love him and when we have good days they are amazing, but I'm not so sure at this point.

I hate having the break up conversation and I don't even know if I want to break up, but if I come to that conclusion, Should I just continue to ignore him and never reply back to his hi? Also, how do you think he is feeling? Has he given up considering he hasn't really put a lot of effort into contacting me?

[ThatUnknownGirl]

He may have written only a hi to see if you would reply to him. He probably assumed that you wanted to leave or he may have thought that you would both be over the argument by the next day which is why he said you can go. I'm sure if you talk to him he will discuss the situation with you. I think you should at least be kind enough to let him know if you decide to break up with him and let him move on with his life instead of leaving him wonder if you are both together or not. You also need to think he was the one to text you first and you haven't replied at all so I don't think you can really argue that he hasn't been the one to put effort into contacting you. I think you should talk it through with him before breaking up.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. If you want to save your relationship, stop focusing on who is suppose to say what first. That is a silly blame game and it will never help your relationship.

2. If you are fighting often about petty things, that usually means that there is an underlying conflict that you are not addressing. You must identify the real conflict to determine whether it is something that can be resolved.

3. Should you break up? Read my advice on that issue: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22390-when-is-it-time-to-break-up

Good luck!

[Asker]

If I think we should break up, do you think I should just never talk to him again or should I message him that I no longer want to be together? I am only asking because I feel like having the break up conversation will be so much more painful than just letting go. I am sure he will get the message soon anyway if I do not reply in the next few days and he hasn't put any more effort into talking to me.

[OlderAndWiser]

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11588-some-practical-advice-for-how-to-break-up

[dph4997]

he is probably waiting for a reply and is wondering if u will ever forgive him. most men believe it or not think the same as women in these situations but dont openly express it so it jus seems like we dont care.

[Asker]

If I think we should break up, do you think I should just never talk to him again or should I message him that I no longer want to be together? I am only asking because I feel like having the break up conversation will be so much more painful than just letting go. I am sure he will get the message soon anyway if I do not reply in the next few days and he hasn't put any more effort into talking to me.

[dph4997]

look u r srry right? if so then try to talk to him if he doesn't open up then it , ight be time to end it but id save that as an absolute last resort cuz he sounds like a generally nice guy

[NajemEddine]

u him to do an effort while u do nothing wake up princess