I like her A LOT, but she keeps friendzoning me?

[Anonymous]

I met this girl, she's absolutely amazing! She so beautiful (long brown hair, big brown eyes, clear skin, rosy cheeks, plump rosy lips) and she makes me feel a way that a girl has never have before. Her personality is perfect. I can tell her everything and anything and she handles everything so well. She can reach out to me whenever, which is something no one else can do. I'm crazy about her. But she keeps friendzoning me and telling me that she only likes me as a friend. We're planning to hangout soon. How can I make her like me?

[Tephra]

I think the fact that's she's unattainable makes you even crazier so back down a bit here. Sounds like your the "nice guy", now there's nothing wrong with being the nice guy but it's easy; girls love a thrill, excitement and something different.

>Firstly, you might want to play down your feelings for her, I know its hard and especially when you like someone but as I mentioned - it's easy. She has you and she knows it, you cast aside as a friend.
>Start putting yourself first, by that I mean start saying no more often because you have other things on. If you value your own time, she will start to value yours and you as well.
>As I mentioned, value yourself, girls know when a guy is insecure and that's a big turn off. You end up getting used as a doormat and further makes you feel like shit.
>Quality vs. Quantity: Your texts should have a lot of quality to them, however make them minimal. Make yourself scarce. Show your flirty side, your cheeky side, joking side - different sides of your personality!
>Start getting a life: Basically, make a life YOU want to live, then when she sees your life she will want to be apart of it! Travelling, sports, parties whatever.

However I don't recommend showing off in front of her other girls; that will make her want you for all the wrong reasons because she wants you back, but not for a relationship. Plus girls can pick up on when they are trying to be made jealous. Don't do it. But all in all - less time with her and more about you and your life - make yourself a priority and she will see you in a different light

[Asker]

I think I phrased the question wrong or something or I gave some wrong vibe on my explanation. I'm not an insecure dude guys, I have a life, I have friends, I say no to her many times when I have something to do or planned already, many girls like me, many are attracted to me too. I'm not a loser 😂😂

[Tephra]

That's usually the common reason why a girl would friendzone you! :P Besides looks of course but there's nothing you can do about it if you not her type. As I said, make her see you in a different light, be a different guy and show her you can add value to her life, whether you make it exciting or adventurous, up to you!

[Asker]

I mean she's like a 8 and I'm like a 6

[Tephra]

What does a 6 look like in your opinion? lol I never follow the number system, I see something and I like or dislike :P

[Asker]

Like average facial features, skinny and average height

[Nmalinova]

I'm sorry but I fear you won't be able to change her mind... I doubt you would really be in love with her... she may just be a positive and caring person, which really attracted you and made you open up to her and like her 'energy' :-) there s still a difference with love, so you may call it a crush! In any case you're probably just hung up on her because you feel comfortable around her personality and maybe you haven't met many people with such personality traits as hers before...
Maybe try to join her to some activities, such as dancing or paintballing or shooting or whatever and maybe see if feelings develop for her, because it is not impossible, but quite inprobable... good luck :-)

[i_research]

How does she make you feel? Explain it in words. : p

? She can reach out to me whenever, which is something no one else can do..." Do you mean she opens up to you? Or you open up to her?

If she has repeatedly told you that she only sees you as a friend; and if you show signs of more than being friends, and in response she distances herself even if slightly, then know that she is serious. She does not see you more than as friends, and nothing would change her mind about that.

[Asker]

When I said that, I meant that I open up to her, I've told her things no one else knows because I feel like I can trust her with anything. And she has tolde one or two things too, but I'm confused if that's out if friendship or something more

[i_research]

I think you opened up to her because you like her, not because she did something that made you open up. You chose to open up. So it's one sided thing.

[Asker]

Actually I began to open up to her in the first week because she just made me feel so comfortable about telling her anything I wanted to. She's just so classy that its crazy. I actually started liking her about three weeks into the friendship.

[i_research]

That's what I am saying. She didn't do anything to make you feel that way. It's your own self. You feel comfortable around her. Your personality feels comfortable with her. But that doesn't necessarily mean that she is the only in the world you can open up to.

[Asker]

I feel like I'm in love with her now, I'm so confused.

[i_research]

you're not in love : D dude chill

[Asker]

How would you know?

[i_research]

Because you can't fall in love just like that. Love takes time to develop and not just a month or two. You two only talked or hung out together; you did not see her in bad times, in times when she is her true self, to really know who she is. You did not travel with her. Etc. If you are in love, you are in love with the idea, not her.

but either way, I would say create your distance before you fall deep, because rejection will hurt when you deepen your feelings for her

[Asker]

Too late for that

[i_research]

lol nope. You can still move on now. I feel you dwell on her too much.

[Asker]

She's just everything I hoped to find. And it sucks so bad that after looking and finally finding her, I don't get her wtf? I'm gonna have to become forceful if she keeps this up.

[i_research]

lol good luck

[Anonymous]

I think she thinks of you as a nice guy. When you are too nice they don't feel any of those kind of relationship attractions or desires for you. Here I googled it for you on how to avoid being friend zoned: www.google.com/#q=how+to+avoid+being+friend+zoned

[MadeInAmerica]

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I don't think you can do any more then what you did and you told her how you feel. You can hope one day she changes her mind but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for that and let time pass you by.

[Asker]

I tried moving on, but just can't. Every other girl I meet, I just start comparing her to my friend. And I see what the girl doesn't have that my friend has, and keep reaching the same conclusion that I want all of her.

[Littlesebastian]

My best friend is kind of in the same situation except she's the girl that is just friends with a guy.
He's not a bad looking dude but she's just not attracted to him. She feels bad but also enjoys the friendship.
She doesn't want a relationship with him.
Gotta tell you the truth. Unless this girl is playing games, it just sounds like she doesn't feel that way about you. It's not worth it to pursue her in that way.

[Kataclyst]

Friendzones you once, bummer man, Friendzones you twice, Dont do it again, Friendzones you thrice. She doesn't like you the same way accept it.

You can't change her feelings, if you truly like her respect her answer and live with it. You can't make someone like you. and its cruel to manipulate them into doing so.

[Anonymous]

Stop chasing her so much dude, have some self respect, give yourself a break from her and I mean A LONG break. Cancel the hangout without explaining, stop texting her, just go full no contact if you want to get rid of those feelings towards someone you can't have or possibly give it another try in the future, because you can't change her feelings towards you from day to day.

You gave her an image of yourself and she just can't see you suddenly as a more than a friend. Your best bet is to go no contact for couple of months, live your own life and let her know how great your life is by posting photos, change yourself, go to gym, focus on other girls and on YOURSELF, then come back to her and show her what you've achieved. I'm not saying it will 100% work, but it will help you get your shit together.

Wish you luck and remember, you're doing this for yourself, not for her.

[Asker]

So I should just delete her from my life to better myself? Not gonna do that bro

[Opinion Owner]

Do you really want to see her how she's making up with other dudes? If you're willing to be just a friend with her, then leave it like this. I'm not saying to delete her completely, just start living your own life, stop texting her, wait until she texts you. I know how you feel, I've been in that situation and basically I'm still in. Everyone told you here, that you can't just make her love you so why you don't give this a try?

[Asker]

I'm afraid that if I do that, she might not text me back and just think that I don't want her to be friends anymore and delete me instead. She has a lot of self confidence and she doesn't take shit like this from anyone. She isn't the type who goes after people who play hard to get, she just leaves them and forgets.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand you, but look at it from different perspective. Would you rather lost someone you truly love or see her with someone else? If you stick to her, there is very little chance something would change. If she values your friendship, she won't delete you. You won't be playing hard to get, no contact will help you to get things in your head together, neither you will be playing with her feelings, you just dissappear for sometime and work on yourself. Then make a big comeback with your new yourself and see how things goes. As I said, it's not 100% sure that it will make her like you, but you will go no contact not to get her, but to feel better (even tho first month for me was pain, but it was faster then still be around her and hoping she will change her mind).

[Sunflower19]

You can't make anyone like you but just be yourself. If it's meant to be, then everything will fall into place. If she doesn't like you then you need to move on. I was in your spot at one time and I REALLY liked this guy last year but I had to move on.

[Anonymous]

You can't really push some one to like you if she set the record straight already, maybe there is some one else she is seeing or likes, All you can do is be yourself dont force any thing because relationships start from friendships too just let her get to know you and if she still only likes you as a friend then at least you have her as a friend

[Asker]

We've actually known each other for 8 months now

[Opinion Owner]

Ai thats pretty much long enough for her to know by now what she wants, if its hard to continue staying friends with her when you want her to feel more for you do you think its really worth staying friends? Its gonna be hard for you if she finds some one else, tell her how you feel and ask her to give you a chance, ask her why does she only see you as a friend and how can you improve it, im sorry i hope it helps

[Asker]

I was planning to stop being friends, but I don't wanna lose what we have, I mean I still want her in my life.

[Opinion Owner]

Is she not ready for a relationship? You shoukd ask her what her reasons are and what is it that doesn't make you boyfriend material to her so that you can try to be that way for her

[Asker]

I'm just not her type physically and I guess personality wise too. She's kind of like sweet but spicy if that makes sense. She likes super sweet caring understanding and amazing but also with a bit of sass. Like a sexy kind of sass, not the rude kind. And I'm more like the awkward kid

[Opinion Owner]

If you like her so much and are willing to change yourself to impress her then you should get some sass too try to change urself up a bit, you need to put yourself out there and try a new haircut and change of style with that sass you need to have confidence in this situation , girls also like bad boys play hard to get etc , she can likely see you like her so much and some times it can come off as smothering or irrtating so try to be different than you have been

[Asker]

Shed not like that. She doesn't like it when guys try to be something they're not, especially guys who try being bad boys just because they think girls go for it. If I was a genuine bad boy, she would appreciate it since it would be genuine, not a try hard. She likes genuine guys she's told me. And she doesn't really have a type. She just told me that she doesn't have a type, but she knows what she likes when she sees it.

[Opinion Owner]

Ai i dont know what you should do because you have been genuine and been yourself and like she said she knows what she likes when she sees it and told you she sees you as a friend, maybe its just not ment to be , its up to you to stay friends with her or to rather move on, because if she ends up liking a guy then you will have to listen to her going on about him and that won't be nice for you, if she won't give you a chance in the future even then you should move on , i wouldn't stay friends with some one i like so much it will just hurt you its like staying friends with a ex you love, i hope you make the right decision

[Asker]

I kind of deserve the pain of her talking about other dudes. Since I always talked about how pretty other girls were, about tits and ass, and all that to make her jealous. But she didn't even get mad, total fail.

[Opinion Owner]

If you can handle it then stay friends with her but try to hold back ur feelings so that you dont fall for her more, you dont deserve it thats just how guys are most guys talk about that, dont blame yourself, and you might feel like she is the only girl for you but trust me she isn't, i felt the same about guys before then met other guys i never thought i would like, its all in ur mind because you like her , if she doesn't wanna be with you then its her loss because a guy will eventually hurt her then she might look to you

[Batman_Girlfriend]

You can't make her like you if she doesn't sees you in that way. At least you can be a good friend until she decide. Maybe she will see that you like her very much and who knows.. But don't insists

[nevermoregirl7]

You can't change peoples feelings about you. Just be a good friend to her and find a girl that does want that type of relationship with you.

[Dim1213]

Well you don't cause if you keep pushing her then your going to lose her as a friend.
Don't make the mistake that I made. Take the lose of the dream over the lose of a good friend.

[madhatters4]

i don't know if there is anything you can do. if she has repeatedly made it clear that she only wants to be friends then i think you are rather stuck in that spot

[tyber1]

Tell her that friendship isn't enough for you anymore and let her decide what to do with that. If she doesn't want more, then live your life without her in it.

[jahmie]

im very sorry man but it ends at the friendzone and it hurts getting there but you'll get over it my man

[Anonymous]

You can't I'm sorry but believe me she isn't interested and if you keep pushing you will lose her as a friend too

[Prof_Don]

U gotta move on. Next time be more responsible with your emotions. Don't allow yourself to get emotionally attached to a girl that isn't even yours.

[Anonymous]

what seems to be missing here is the attraction level. You need a makeover man. look for hairstyles girls like, clean your self up and take care of yourself, workout etc.. Also, stop chasing her for a while people dont know what they have until its gone. At this point you have to focus on you, and something to motivate you

[Browneye57]

You can't 'make her like you'.
She's just not romantically attracted. You cannot negotiate attraction - it's either there or it's not.

A girl that wants to bed you will break every rule in the book to get to you. If not, they'll make up a new rule every day why they can't.

I would NEXT her. Unless you want to be her beta-orbiter, hanging on hoping one day she'll give you some sex. pfft

[Asker]

I'm not after sex. I'm after a relationship pfft

[Browneye57]

A man-woman romantic relationship without sex is simply not. And with that attitude they will ALWAYS friend-zone you. They are looking for a guy to lead, one that wants them. They want sex, just not with you.

You really need to work on your game.

[Asker]

Dude you're a rusty 60 year old, odds are you haven't seen pussy in years and you're telling me to work on my game? 😂 stick to the old folks home brother smfh 😂

[Browneye57]

Don't be such an ass. Don't ask the fukkin question if you don't want an answer.
This isn't about ME - it was about you. So let's keep the shoe on the right foot.

I will tell you that I have FORGOTTEN more game that you've learned yet. I've had more pussy than you'll ever have. So either ask the question and listen, or STFU.

You've got this disney-fantasy idea about what a relationship is with a girl and you're simply clueless about it. You need some GAME. Go here and read at least the first two years of Rollo:
www.therationalmale.com

[Asker]

Dude you wrote a whole freaking essay trying to persuade me that you got game, I got bored reading just the first sentence. You're a old dirt bag who probably paid to even get any pussy. Like I said, stick to the old folks home.

[Browneye57]

I'm not trying to persuade you of jackshit. You're such a punk you can't even reveal yourself - anonymous. And ya got nuthin', no game, no talent, no experience. So you shame and insult. FU.
You're a weak-suck little boy. Go cry to your momma. LOL.

[Asker]

Lol you're like 60 and you talk like that? 😂 I know 14 year olds with more class than you. Hop off my question and leave bruh, I don't wanna violate you more than I already did. Bye.

[BanterBlitz]

Dude you sound so smart and charming, why the fuck doesn't that bitch want to date you?

[Asker]

@BanterBlitz ikr! I'm like the total package dude!

[Gray_Wolf]

Lol man just leave it be, maybe she doesn't find you attractive so you should move on or you should be more attractive person. Just don't be so needy to her, that will ruin everything.

[Anonymous]

Do you go to the same school? Do you have any classes together?

[Asker]

We go to different colleges

[Opinion Owner]

Do you see each other? The way you describe it is making me feel bad since I'm acting the same way as that girl but I really like the guy. So, I think there's a good chance that she likes you

[Asker]

Yeah we hang out all the time. I've told her I like her and she knows I get jealous whenever she talks to other dudes, but she still says she likes me as a friend.

[agirl537]

Stop chasing her!!

Trust me, that will make her see

[mystintri]

You're too available. She wants a guy that has his own life.

[Anonymous]

are you good looking?

[Asker]

Well in my opinion, she's like a 8-8.5 and I'm like a 6. I still can't believe she talks to me tbh

[Opinion Owner]

okay well how is your style/ hair?

[Opinion Owner]

if you are doing your best with what youve got and have a great personality you should be good, maybe you are just not her type or she could like you and you might be misreading her signals

[Anonymous]

She's NEVER going to get with you. Be an adult and move on.

[momo770]

you can't, move on

[Asker]

I've tried, but I can't get her out of my mind

[momo770]

I didn't say it would be easy, I feel for you.

[Anonymous]

try to show her something you are good at and she doesn't know about you?

[BanterBlitz]

Not going to happen, dude. Forget her.

[Deathraider]

Well, just be honest.

[CT_CD]

Find another girl and get rid of her

[Anonymous]

being forceful will help?

[StainedClass]

Drug her.