Does she like me, or just good friends?

[Anonymous]

There's this girl I like. Currently, we live together in a share house. But she seems very hot and cold with me. We joke a lot together, have deep convosations until late into the night, we often share food and cook for each other, and she often will touch my arm or shoulder. I recently got hurt and she insisted on bandaging me up. But sometimes it feels awkward between us or she will suddenly feel very distant. We recently were going to an event together with friends ( i offered to pay for her, but she refused), and the friends pulled out last minute, and she seemed tense about it ( still seemed to enjoy it, and we joked and she was touching my arm often). But our texting is very limited, even though she's always on the phone..

Am I miss reading the situation?

She's Tiawanese if that makes any cultural difference.

Added, I think one of our mutual friends is crushing on me too... so maybe this is a factor?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude this is a tricky one for sure. On the one hand, it does seem like she's into you a bit - like the prolonged deep talks late at night, caring for you when you got hurt, touching your arm and stuff. That screams attraction.

But then the mixed signals of getting distant sometimes and only limited texting throws it off a bit. And the fact a mutual friend likes you too adds another layer.

A few things that make me think she definitely could see you as more than a friend:

- Asian cultures can sometimes be more subtle with showing feelings, so the physical signs she gives off could mean a lot.

- Any girl living with a dude she's not into probably wouldn't get THAT close and personal, you know?

- Getting tense just you two could mean she likes you but is afraid of moving fast or what people will think.

My advice would be, next time you're having a meaningful moment, just go for it - tell her how you feel. Like straight up say "I really like you, is there any chance you'd want to go out sometime?" Rip off the bandaid. Then you'll know for sure dude! I think you got a solid chance. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take and all that.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem man! Dating can be tricky, especially with housemates. Just focus on building your connection with her through quality time and little gestures. Show her you care without pressuring for more. If it's meant to be, she'll come around in her own time. Don't stress, just enjoy what you've got for now. Keep me posted how it goes! Fingers crossed for you.

[Asker]

I am. She has a few exams today, so I brought her some chocolates to celebrate once they're done. 😊 I know it will be what it will be, and I know it takes time. Just can be confusing at times I guess.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that's so chill of you to bring her chocolates after her exams. Girls love that little thoughtful gestures. I'm sure she'll really appreciate you supporting her studies too.

Don't even stress about the confusion - just keep being a good friend to her. If it's meant to happen romantically it will, but for now enjoy the time you spend together. Seems like you've already got a pretty dope connection just from hanging out so much.

Let her focus on acing those exams, then maybe take her out for a low key dinner celebration just the two of you. Some quality one on one time could help clarify things. But don't put pressure on anything either. Just follow your vibes and see where it leads! You're doing great man.

[In_Trance]

Move on

[Horse-girl]

It kind of sounds like she likes you, maybe you could try and flirt with her a bit and see if she reciprocates. Good luck with everything!

[Anonymous]

She's probably respecting the fact you live together.

[Asker]

What do you mean sorry?

[Opinion Owner]

You said it was a shared house? She probably doesn't want to damage the house dynamic by creating drama with a relationship. You don't live in a brothel.

[Asker]

That's sort of my feeling too, which is why I'm hesitant to move forward with things.

[Abbycado]

🔮 I can’t see anything in there.

[Asker]

? What do you mean?

[Abbycado]

That’s a crystal ball 🔮

Meaning it is hard to tell what another person is thinking.

[Asker]

Oh okay haha, ty