Why do women leave when a guy is financially struggling?

Question

shouldn't love be primary in a relationship instead of money

maybeatadgay · Accepted Answer

Well, honestly, I shouldn't say much about it because I myself am struggling financially.
But I have to say, it also does matter how the person deals with it. I see an end to my struggle, and it hasn't been long.
I would only leave a person if they were struggling and did absolutely nothing to better it, only because it shows a carelessness I find hard to deal with.
I wouldn't say it is a deal breaker though, it is just really straining when one person has just about no money.
It does not mean that love does not come first; I'd like to think that I would try to work with it first and bend around it in every way possible.
But if it is too straining, and the person does nothing about it, well. It just doesn't work.
- Also, money does play a big part in our every day lives, so it is hard to go around.

iratherbeamermaid · Accepted Answer

Personally, I haven't left a guy while he was financially struggling. My ex was struggling for a while, but I never left him. I actually lent him some money (and he paid me back), but I never left him. However, I have heard from some girls that they leave the guy because they believe it is solely the guy's responsible to pay for things in the rs. It's crazy though because we are talking about women empowerment and equality, but here some women are wanting men to pay for everything. I think it should be equal in rs (as well as everywhere else).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

it doesn't mean the lack of money is the reason but how it affects their character..
when I lost my job I was down and irritable, I would get mad over stupid things and then sad AF. of course it doesn't affect everyone in the same way but dealing with that or dealing with a partner struggling with that must not be easy

witherwing · Accepted Answer

I'd never want to be the sole supporter of us, but I can surely chip in, if he is struggling. I've paid my boyfriend's rent when he didn't have enough money, but if I'd have to do that every month, it would become too stressful for me.

meowcow · Accepted Answer

How do you figure that love will hold the relationship together when you're struggling to put food on the table and a roof over your head? For low income people, the stress and frustration of working all day and living paycheck-to-paycheck will erode most relationships... particularly if one person is not pulling their weight.

IAmBlueThunder · Accepted Answer

Women, whether they will admit it or not, want a man to provide for them and their potential children. Women "love" very conditionally.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Dude if they get with you for money then of course that'll break the terms of the relationship for them. Other than that I think it would weigh heavy on a chick about the reasons you're having money issues. I simply can't blame a chick for leaving a gambler, substance abuser, or a financial retard... especially if the dude's failure is going to be bringing her down.

With that said money is a big deal in a relationship. Especially if the two are financially tied in some way (if not tied, again, was she there for the money). It's just as important as sex in a relationship where it matters. So just like a partner that "whoops, I cheated" get's dropped like a bad habit, so should a partner that "whoops, I blew all my/our money and don't have a way to replace it" needs to get dropped like a bad habit.

RealandGenuine1991 · Answer

I won't... I've struggled myself, know what it's like... our finances are not perfect but if or when we hit rock bottom, I'll still be by his side and I know he would have my back too.

kaylaS91 · Answer

yes, love is an important part of being happy in a relationship.
However.. nobody wants to be with someone who they'd have to support entirely, be it by funding their expenses, being an emotional crutch, etc..

So.. just like no sane guy would date an unemployed girl, or a girl with really bad credit history (without bitching about how she's a complete golddigger who used him for his money), no sane woman would start dating or remain with a guy who she has to pay the bills for entirely on her own.

ThatDudeWitt · Answer

Trust me on this one, I counsel couples frequently that fall on hard times financially.

When men can't provide or they feel inadequate, most of the time they start to display that insecurity and frustration externally by treating their lady differently and that begins the separation. Most men become neglectful, guarded, irritable, accusatory, and sometimes just plain mean.

It really starts a downward spiral.

Anonymous · Answer

Great question.
Chris Rock once said men cannot go back in life sexually, and women cannot go backwards financially. So a lot of women like a certain standard of life so when the guy gets into financial trouble they leave.

*not all women are like this

DizzyDesii · Answer

I'd never leave someone for struggling with something I've struggled with my whole life. I'd only leave him if he gambled away our house or savings or something

Anonymous · Answer

Because women don't feel love I guess. Men will be happy to support a woman but women won't support a man, unless she's rich. A poor man will still support the love of his life with what few dollars we have. How many women are out there working at mcdonalds while hubby takes care of the kids?

Abraham1231 · Answer

Sadly, there are people who are like that. They disgust me. If my girlfriend was struggling financially I wouldn't turn her down. A relationship is about acceptance, tolerance and most of all love.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

"Women" sounds like a lot of people to me. Beware of generalizations.  Anywho, to answer your question, that woman who leaves simply because of that never really loved the other person imho.

Justinaveragedude · Answer

That I can explain easy...

fashionguy17 · Answer

Because love isn't unconditional. Women will only be around if you have money and if you are healthy.

Love is a symbiotic relationship. They feed off each other... and if you can't provide the right stuff... the woman will see you as useless

seryleme · Answer

You have to consider. Women are the ones having your child. They have to worry about that said child or many children. If you're struggling then you're struggling to feed her children.

linds34 · Answer

Financial problems put a lot of strain on a relationship, and can worsen whatever existing problems you have.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all girls are like that. For me my ex was fincanically struggling but I never left him for that and he didn't even have a place to live after a while since he couldn't pay rent but I still stayed with him and had his back and helped him to the best of my ability but guess what he cheated on me and that's why we broke up so it seems like guys take advantage of you if you're too nice

lovelyhoneybones · Answer

Being in a situation where you're struggling financially is very hard and it can put a lot of stress on a relationship. Often times it's too much and the woman walks out.

Anonymous · Answer

I am with a man who is struggling. I am a rare one.
What worries me is, since i am paying most of the stuff and putting more effort in, I fear he would take me for granted.

I dont know about other women.

Chanel1981 · Answer

It depends on what the reason is for the financial problems and how he intends to rectify the situation, says a lot about a person

Sluthater · Answer

My sister in law left my brother in law like that. But he was lazy and stupid as fuck with money. Spent money he didn't have. Who wants to be married to a stupid motherfucker. She wouldn't have had shit as long as they were together.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the female brain is hardwired to find financially struggling men as losers. They're hypergamous. The more you study their behavior the easier it'll be to understand the psychology behind the female mind.

anmari2001 · Answer

yeah love is not about money, if a woman leave you because you don't have money and you work hard then she doesn't love you

ShyGuy201 · Answer

Either she feels like the guy isn't trying hard enough or she was a Golddigger all along

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

I didn't, my boyfriend became unemployed in the early stages of our relationship and I stayed.

Anonymous · Answer

When he can't pay his even half of the bills we share as couple because he's paying for two kids he can't even see, it makes hard to believe I can have a real future with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, but I guess if they start to lose respect for the man and how he is handing it, they might look for someone stronger.

easilypleased69 · Answer

Money is scary. More than likely the woman was not financially stable herself.

JCT666 · Answer

Because now no one can buy their dinners, fancy jewellery, handbags and shoes.

NajemEddine · Answer

bc its their nature

Anonymous · Answer

Only disloyal gold diggers are that way.

Anonymous · Answer

these women only care about money

Anonymous · Answer

money is important it seems.

COCOCHANEL · Answer

it's a sad reality.

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