How do you know if you're falling in love?

[falafelany1]

My boyfriend and I have known each other for some time, but we've only been in a relationship for two months. I feel like he's falling in love with me because of the way he looks at me, things he says to me, etc.. But I'm not sure how I feel. I know I don't love him yet.

What are some ways to know if you're falling in love? Also what are some ways to know if HE is falling in love?

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+1 y

We only make out, we haven't done sexual stuff yet.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

It's hard to explain but when you do, you'll know.
It's the way you think about them. Every moment you're not distracted, you're thinking about them. Not worrying about what they're doing but maybe missing them, wondering what they're doing etc.
It's accepting them for their flaws and encouraging them to become a better person as they try to improve themselves.
It's supporting them in their decisions but letting them know when they're being a dumb fuck in a decision.
It's getting through all the negative, not letting other people come between you.
It's how your heart feels as if it is swelling with love when you simply look at them. When you feel like you're at home when you smell their cologne/perfume or hear their voice.
I don't think you can ever really know when someone else is in love with you unless they tell you themselves. It's different for many people so you'll know when you do.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty hard to miss. It's very annoying and crippling. You can't do anything. You can't concentrate. You can't think.
All you do is think about them and daydream. It feels like being drunk. There's this euphoric feeling for no reason. You're constantly anticipating your next encounter and you can't help but feel lucky to have found such a person. You play various scenarios in your mind as how your life will be with them in it... Besides you will hardly notices any flaws they have.

[classicroyalty]

I think when you're in love , there would be no question , if you even have to question being in love then you're not tbh but you'll know when you are , you'll find yourself changing and you'll realize you're in love

[classicroyalty]

About him being in love , it may be suggested that two months is too soon to be In love but you have known each other for a while , how long has he had feelings for you? Cause it's possible he may have had feelings for you for a while and now that you are in a relationship with him you have given those feelings to opportunity to grow into love

[falafelany1]

He's had feelings for me since we met. I liked him a since we met but I didn't see him in a romantic way for a while.

[classicroyalty]

Well the feelings he has for you maybe stronger than the feelings you have for him , so the conclusion would be that he's in love but you're not there yet... give it time

[falafelany1]

Thanks

[misswierdo]

When the thought of them being unhappy is more unsettling than them leaving you...

[falafelany1]

That's difficult because I don't want him to leave me.

[275153]

First, if you are unsure about your feelings, don't become intimate. Sex intensifies feelings and you may mistake the release of your hormones regulating pleasure for being in love.
Falling in love means different things to different people. It even means different things to the same person at different points in her life. You have to try to understand what it means to you.

[falafelany1]

We only make out with each other. Would it be wrong to give him a hand job or let him touch me without being in love?

[275153]

From a lega standpoint, any sexual act can get him into trouble. If you live in America or anywhere that follows the English system of justice, any sexual act can be bad.

from an ethical standpoint, you really have to ask that question from yourself. What does your sense of ethic say to you? Sexuality is how the human species has propegated and become strong. It depends not on love, but if you are of the ethical sense that you want your sexual experiences be an expression of something meaningful, then yes. It would be wrong. On the other hand, if you see sex as a biological need that needs to be satisfied such as hunger or sleep, then it isn't.
It really depends on you. I might suggest that if you are too young to know that about yourself, you should wait until you do know yourself better.

[SnapTsch]

how may months do you mean when you say a few?

its common, it called the honeymoon phase
you'll know if its love, if its love.
the real test of it is after the honeymoon phase
dont over think this 😊
enjoy what you already have and roll with the flow

[falafelany1]

We have known each other for 6 months and have been in a relationship for 2 months.

[SnapTsch]

give it somewhere around 3-4months and then analyze it

[redeyemindtricks]

The honeymoon phase doesn't **have** to end. If (a) you have explosive chemistry to start with AND (b) you put conscious effort into interweaving intimacy and commitment with HOT dirty nasty fun... it can be a "honeymoon phase" in perpetuity.
If, on the other hand, you take the all-too-common hands-off approach and just allow that lust to cool off... then, yh it won't last forever.

But? 18 years with my man, more than 16 years married, and we got more of that all-consuming magnetic desperate furious obsessive hatelust than EVER. Oh fuck yeah.

I mean, ok, I suppose it might all go south after, like, 26.7 years. If that happens I will gladly eat ma words.
But otherwise -- If the honeymoon phase ends, that's your fault. Just like if you never, ever do car maintenance and one day yr car turns into a flaming orange fireball, that's yr fault too.

[falafelany1]

@redeyemindtricks nice analogy at the end haha

[redeyemindtricks]

Srsly tho... it's weird how many people think of "working on yr relationship" as something you only need to do once the relationship is already in trouble. That's as stupid as waiting until yr car is on fire to change the oil.

[coachTanthony]

I think the big one is if your tempted to say "I LOVE YOU" and it feels natural then you might be in love. If you don't feel that way... you may not be. Of course everyone is different but that is my opinion.

[MarkGerrits]

when he's on ur mind 24/7 good and bad ways. that feeling of wanting him with you. these kind of stuffs.

[falafelany1]

Couldn't that be infatuation?

[MarkGerrits]

oeh that's a fancy word. and yeah it could be. that's why it takes time for women to realise "do I love him yes or no?". for guys it's easier. if we like yah and then get to know yah and we like you even more. it goes from liking to a form of loving. for girls it just takes a bit longer cuz they are more "carefull". they wait longer for them feelings to become more clear. So is it weird that you don't know yet If you love him? no not at all. eventually that switch might turn on. ull know when the time is right. and if it doesn't happen then ull know he's not the right person for you.

[tomd93]

I've fallen in love twice out of like 5-6 relationships, the other times although I might have said it at the time, looking back I know it wasn't true love. So to me, when you know, you really just know.

[Totally_A_Dude]

When you feel like your heart is slowly burning in you chest and you don't even care.

[falafelany1]

Deep

[jennyem]

its hard to explain, but im sure everyone knows the feeling :)

[falafelany1]

I've never been in love, only infatuated.

[james_mark]

Short answer: If you buy Falafel and Shawerma for each other on a daily basis.

[falafelany1]

Haha nice

[momo770]

if he wants to be with you all the time, he's constantly touching you in a non-sexual way, he's texting you all the time.

[Blonde401]

He's in lust. Not love. Love is way way deeper than that. You'll get there.

[falafelany1]

I doubt he's in lust since we don't do anything sexual. We just make out and most of our time together is spent talking and doing activities.

[Blonde401]

Lust doesn't have to be sexual. Lust can just mean being super infatuated with someone.

[falafelany1]

Well then how would I know what he's feeling?

[Blonde401]

Nobody truly knows what anyone is feeling but at the end of the day you've not been together long enough for love. Love is tested.

[Decentguy]

when all my senses stop working and i become non sense

[Decentguy]

maybe you are in denial of your feelings

[Anonymous]

You just feel it. It's a feeling you'llnrecognjze when you experience it

[boochie0]

Thinking about that person all day

[falafelany1]

Couldn't that just be infatuation?

[Seppelson]

It's a strong feeling. I guess if you have to ask you aren't in love

[Anonymous]

Gypsy women are excellent fortune tellers, look for one

[Feels]

I say to myself

"Godamnit"

[Jerobrian]

When it's the last thing you think about at night

[Midget_Hug]

You eat more chocolate.

[falafelany1]

What?

[Midget_Hug]

Well, you, me.

[Midget_Hug]

Not you*

[Uday154]

you'll know

[Anonymous]

he is more like friend with benefit

[falafelany1]

What?

[Opinion Owner]

if you are sleeping with him for sex only he is friend with benefit, relationship involves feelings

[falafelany1]

We only make out, we don't do sexual stuff.

[Opinion Owner]

then just friends

[falafelany1]

No... we are in a relationship. He's my boyfriend.