How to make your boyfriend chase you again?

[Anonymous]

These days I feel like I'm drowning him in attention. In the past it was more balanced and we would both put in equal amounts... I think he was actually chasing me hard even after we started being official.

7 Months in now and he's not as expressive anymore. I feel neglected because we don't have sex anymore (stopped because he told his strict Christian dad about us so for him our relationship is more serious now) we rarely make out because he thinks he'll lose control... We see each other every 2 weeks maybe because of me working shift (and sometimes on the weekends) and he's working in some weekends too...

I think he's too relaxed and I feel like I'm being taken for granted. No intimacy, no attention, very rare occasion of affection...

What would I have to do for him to treat me more like a passionately loved girlfriend again? I can tell he really likes me and is serious about us but it's too early for me to feel like a neglected wife of 40 years.

[Heythere2013]

There is nothing you can do, I personally believe once a person loses interest in their partner, the relationship is done. Even if he does chase you again, once he "catches" you, it'll be the same old thing. I have learned (from past experiences), I want the attention to be consistent (not over the top obsessive, but not nonexistent). Being in a relationship where you have to get him to chase you is not healthy. Nothing you say or do will change anything in the long run. Been there, done that, never again.

[ThatJarHead]

You don't want him to chase you. You want him to be your lover again not just your "boyfriend" sit down and have a serious discussion with him about it. Throw an ultimatum if you have to. But ultimately if you aren't happy, end it.

But I can nearly promise if you sit down and express to him that you feel neglected as a person within the relationship and express to him what you want he will probably be more than happy to provide if he is indeed as serious and dedicated as you suggest.

[Browneye57]

Hmmm... a brand new relationship that has already died. Consider that it may just not be a match.

Date a LOT. Just don't have sex with them all. This way you'll have enough experience to actually discern whether they're worth your investment in time and emotion. Whether they're a good match.

Choose wisely, treat kindly. _Dr. Laura

[TheEnvy]

If he really thinks you're taken for granted, you can pit a price on yourself. Distance a little, it always works.

It is also my duty to inform you however, that there's a chance he will lose interest in you if you do so.

[KyoKyo22]

He's probably confused about some things, spirtually, I mean if anything getting married would probably solve your problem. It may be too soon but it seems like you already rushed things so why not. Ha life's short you're not getting any younger

[thisGUYknows]

30 year old guy here.

you can't.

he either wants you or he doesn't. despite what he's told you there's only 2 choices he's thinking about.

I GUARANTEE

[robi007]

talk to him and be open. find what he likes and kind of research to know a little. also try to share fantasies or watch porn together maybe even imitate them. good luck

[reptocarl]

Nothing. It won't change so you have a decision

[Haemoglobin]

Make her feel like losing you.

[CT_CD]

Steal something from him

[Anonymous]

Ask him to chase you