My boyfriend forgot the date we started our relationship? What should I do?

[PearIyn]

date we started our relationship aka date at which people celebrate anniversaries. we've been dating for less than a month and yesterday i asked him, "let me test you, when did we started our relationship?" AND HE FREAKING SAID THE WRONG DATE. i feel so annoyed and angry. plus we've only been a month into the relationship so the more he should remember + since it's the honeymoon period where people are into the relationship most? does this mean our relationship doesn't mean anything to him? he apologised and said that he's "not a romantic person and is not good with dates" but it's not about being romantic, it's about putting in the little effort to remember just ONE date? furthermore, he mentioned in the past before that we should celebrate our 100th day together. how tf we gonna do that if he doesn't even know the day we started.

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+1 y

those saying that a date doesn't matter and what matters is the relationship, so i take it that you won't care if your SO forgets your birthday too? since its just another day. if your answer is that you will be bothered by it then you're being double standard af lmao.

[DarkWasTaken]

Haven't read the whole paragraph, but already know you're over-exagerating the issue.

Not everyone remember that date, it's so insignifiant.
Even more if it's been less than a fucking month.

You're angry at him for not having a perfect memory?

There's no effort to be put here, if you mark every signifiant part of your life with a date it's gonna bury your happiness and you'll hardly be able to live freely afterward.

Today it's was the first date, tomorrow it'll be the date for your first time together, the day after it'll be your first gift, and so on.

[PearIyn]

so its okay if he forgets my birthday? since its just a date

[DarkWasTaken]

I don't even know my own birthday, I have memories issue, alright?
It is just a date for me, for everyone.

Like I said, don't spend your days locking yourself behind dates.

What's so important about getting older?
Is it the gift?
The 2 hours celebration?
The happy birthday song?
The cake maybe?

Is it really worth throwing your love for him up and over because of those insignificant things?

[MrPopLakaZ]

I rather remember first meet or first kiss with my girlfriend then starting date or marriage.

Because it not spacial day for some. Ask him which is his spacial day.
Maybe his first kiss, sexual conversation, moments, baby...
Everyone is deferent.

[PearIyn]

he doesn't remember anything lol

[MrPopLakaZ]

Old guy : have memory problems or meeting a lot of peoples at work!

Guy guy : he is not serious or he don't all this matter!

[Anonymous]

To be honest every relationship I have been in I have never remembered the date... People have a lot going on as long as he treats you well don't grill him to much not everyone remembers that sort of thing it doesn't mean he cares any less.

[PearIyn]

so it doesn't matter to you if he forgets your birthday?

[kaylaS91]

umm.. shit happens.
I'd be more worried about how you're that shaken by him forgetting a date rather than focusing on how much fun you're having (or are you?) in a relationships that is still very fresh.

[kaylaS91]

re: your update
correct. I might be a bit peeved if my birthday slipped my boyfriend's mind. Not to the degree that I'd make posts ranting all about it online, though. I mean, I'm happy enough with the bulk of our relationship that I won't make a huge deal out of him failing to remember one date. I prefer relationships to be built more on how secure, happy, and loved we actually manage to make each other feel rather than getting all riled up about petty shit like our 1 month, 2 month, 3 month anniversary.

[Claire2017]

Learn this now and prevent yourself some heartache. Guys are just like that. Don't take it personally and make it an issue. It's just not important.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he was weirded out that you were talking about anniversaries and all that when it's only been a month. Ask him this in 6 months or so. Not now

[VirginiaBeachBum]

Most guys don't think that way. I deal with numbers all day so it's in my nature to remember dates. My wife was extremely surprised that I could remember the date we first met, our first date, etc., because I can associate the dates with other dates I can remember. She, on the other hand, could remember what she was wearing and what other people were wearing at the party we went to on our first date. I didn't even remember what I wore. You are worrying about nonsense, to be honest.

[spaceshuttle]

I am not good with dates either.
Life is not a fairy tale and neither is your relationship. You are upset because it matter to you a lot. I get that very well but still, if you believe that this guys is real and genuine then you need to move on from this little set back and see whether things materialize for you better tomorrow.

[Neyila]

i definitely agree with this

[slatyb]

It means you are insane. One month in and you are upset about trivia like this? If you are still together in a year it might mean something.

[PearIyn]

lol if he can't remember now, you think he will magically remember the date suddenly after a year or two? bruh

[slatyb]

It's NOT IMPORTANT. How well you work together, how much you enjoy being together is important. Remembering the exact date you met -- not important. I remember meeting my wife. I don't remember what she was wearing. I didn't remember the exact date but she did. Now I remember because it's important to her. But she didn't get all weird and sad because I didn't have it tattooed on my ass. She just reminded me of the date. Now I know.

[PearIyn]

so you're saying forgetting her birthday is not important too? since all that matters is the time spent together

[slatyb]

Birthdays are generally considered noteworthy, and so are wedding anniversaries. The date a couple first met not so much.

[TheUglyMonk]

I don't do anniversaries, why would I celebrate my relationship once a month a year or whatever the period is when I can celebrate it everyday by enjoying the company of my partner. I barely care about my birthday let alone an anniversary.

[PearIyn]

so u dont remember her birthday as well?

[TheUglyMonk]

I said my birthday, I know people care about their birthday so I tend to remember everyone's birthday but anniversaries aren't my thing.

[mjz00]

hey in all honesty everyone is different it took me quite a few years to remember my own childrens birth dates lol xx

[trob0135]

Shit I can barely remember my son's birthday sometimes. Give the guy a break. For starters y'all have only been together for a month.

[Anonymous]

Most guys don't remember the first date. It's been 2 years for me and my boyfriend doesn't remember ours.
You shouldn't focus on small things like that when it's only been a month to begin with

[PearIyn]

doesn't it affect you? it seems like he doesn't care

[Opinion Owner]

Not really. Why should dates matter if they make the effort for you to begin with?

[Opinion Owner]

As for the update. Birthdays are different. Even though a month in I wouldn't expect them to know that anyway

[ats934]

If it's that big of a deal to you, remind him what it is and tell him it's important to you.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Wow, why do I feel like you're the type to get angry about petty things as well?

For the record (update), I really don't care to celebrate my birthday. To me, it's just another day. I remember other's birthday's though.

[anoddtod]

Well, don't worry about him forgetting a wedding anniversary, if this bothers you that much, he'll dump you soon enough.
Go right ahead and pour gas on that flame.. should blow up in your face nicely.

[bluegee]

Lol I don't think it really matters. What matters is you guys' relationship.

[lMike]

Not give a shit... Oh wait thats right he's like the only guy to ever do that, huh?

[lMike]

Lol ur update is ridiculous. There really are people out there that dont give a shit.. My birthday? Lmfao if my SO forgot my birthday id be glad!

[lMike]

Not ridiculous tho. My bad.

[Anonymous]

How little do you know about guys?

We forget dates like that. We forget birthdays, anniversaries, etc... It's practically a comedic trope and stereotype for a reason.

[Opinion Owner]

Regarding your update - you're right, I wouldn't give a shit if she forgot IF she was the sort of person who forgets all the dates all the time.

It's not a double standard - it's knowing what a guy is like versus knowing what a girl is like.

If she remembered all sorts of dates all the time (like most women) but forgot my birthday, i'd be annoyed because I'm the exception to her standard behaviour. If my brother, my dad, etc... forgot my birthday, I wouldn't give a shit because they are men, and I know what men are like.

[pinkzoesbb]

I don't remember my wedding anniversary. Shit happens.

[Sadika]

Ours 10yrs relationship still he doesn't remember our first meet, dress, or place. Not even my birthday & marriage date. Feeling as most unfortunate one in the earth!

[roy_ricky09]

So what? Why are dates so important? He matters or his memory?

[Vacuum-Rats]

Any man who can't remember his anniversary date ought to get slapped.

[PositiveSky]

Chill it's just a date. xD

[PearIyn]

so its okay if he forgets my birthday too?

[PositiveSky]

If he likes you it's okay. Listen there are way bigger problems in life. See for example I am extremely lonely and I live some painful days because nobody cares about me. You should be grateful for having a goddamn person to kiss.

[PearIyn]

i dont believe in stuff like your problem becomes less severe because there are bigger problems out there - which is what you are implying. for example, i have clinical depression and am suicidal. just because there are bigger problems out there like starving African kids, doesn't make me miserable any less.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

Guys don't keep track of those things very well

[Anonymous]

Not that serious. Just remind him

[Pink2000]

It's just a date.

[PearIyn]

so its okay if he forgets my birthday too?

[Pink2000]

Does it really matter? Yes it's okay people forget things. He's human. It's just a date !!! Just numbers...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Don't be so petty.

[Map4Territory]

Completely agree, my wife and I can never remember the date we started dating. It was sometime around Halloween. Relationships are built on stronger personal connections, not remembering dates.