Do guys mean it when they say to their partner "you look better without make up" or "you dont need make up"?

[Anonymous]

So guys, do you actually mean it when you say to your girlfriend or wife "you look better without make up" or "you dont need make up"? I do put make up but not as much like those girls on instagram or whatever So yesterday i wanted to try something new and i put abit more make up than usual And then i went to see my boyfriend He saw me and he kept looking at me and said: "Babe why did u put so much make up?" And i said "coz i want to" And he said "oh.. you look better without makeup. You look better naturally. Im serious" And i said "but i like to put on abit of make up and i want to" And he said "yea ok fair enough. But im just saying you dont even need make up. And i dont care about that stuff anymore. Like you can come out with me without make up and i wouldn't even care." Does this seem genuine? Or maybe coz he's used to seeing me without more make up?

Yes of course I would mean it

Nah i would just say it to make my partner happy

Im a girl/results

[AEther]

I think it might come across as a pretentious "nice guy" thing to say, but it's also something that genuine nice guys fell it's important to make clear. cause if you love the person, then it feels very sad to think that they don't feel uncomfortable in their own skin.
my ex use to wear a lot of makeup all the time, and was embarrassed whenever she didn't have time to put it on before I saw her, and I hated the idea that she felt she wasn't good enough without covering her face, she was always beautiful to me.

but I also get that it could come across as an insult to someone who likes makeup art, like we're saying "your makeup is shit, even your plain old face without it would be better than that!" but that's very unlikely to be what we mean. though that is exactly how my ex took it..

[Astoriana]

Wearing makeup doesn't mean you hate yourself.

[AEther]

@Astoriana yeah, I get that. i'm just trying to explain how some guys see it.

[Astoriana]

Well, some guys are narcissistic idiots. It's not all about them. Other people have agency to make their own choices.

[AEther]

@Astoriana yeah, that's fair.

[ThatDudeWitt]

I personally hate this new trend of five layers of makeup. I am very glad that I met my fiance when the "natural" look was in. Don't get me wrong, it is very sexy when my girlfriend makes her eyelashes darker and her eyes really stick out. But most of my friends have said that there is nothing more disturbing than a girl that looks completely different from when she had makeup on. It's just not necessary to wear that much. We don't notice if you get your hair cut, so what makes you think we will notice if your brows aren't perfectly plucked or your cheek bones aren't contoured.

And just food for thought: A girl can look amazing with a bunch of makeup on, but the girl who is confident and doesn't wear as much is always going to be sexier.

[pooper89]

When has the natural look ever been "in?"

[renogaza]

Most guys are simple and girls often misunderstand them thinking theirs got to be an ulterior motive or hidden meaning behind their words or actions, but most men are just simple, if they say it they mean it, especially when it bothers them.

(actually made a topic similar to this way back about the consequences of makeup, you'd be shocked by its long term effects..)

[SirenDep]

They like beautiful women. But prefer natural beauty. They see too much makeup as deception. They even think it acts like a mask, covering her true beauty.

Similarly, my boyfriend has commented he likes long nails, but when I asked him what he thinks of face nails (because mine take forever to grow), he said that's pretentious and what basic bitches do.

[EmmaT]

What he said was really mean 🙁

[levantine99]

i don't even get what he likes in nails. its just protruding dead cells that gather dirt and germs underneath. mine likes them clean cut like a man's and i do it not for him but because i like them this way too.

[SirenDep]

@levantine99 @EmmaT Relax! It was just an example. I haven't worn any fake nails anyway. I still try growing my own longer. Because I like them that way as well.

[SirenDep]

Thanks for mho!

[lumos]

If he genuinely thought you were a whole lot less attractive without makeup on, he probably wouldn't urge you to use less of it. I guess there's like 1% of guys who'd say it just to get brownie points, but I doubt that your boyfriend is one of them.

[rjroy3]

Personally, I prefer less or no makeup because
1. I'm already attracted to her without it and
2. I don't want her makeup getting on me or my clothes.

I'm fine with her being 5% less perfect if it means I won't get glitter all up on my face and shirt lol. Plus, I want my girl to really know and feel that she doesn't NEED that makeup to be accepted/loved/feel pretty, because she already is pretty. Not telling her to not wear makeup if that's what she wants to. Just reinforcing that I like her, not the makeup, clothes or the rest of the superficial extras.

[rjroy3]

That said, I do like in part what it says when a girl does get all dressed up for you. Because she likes you so much she wants to impress you so she is doing everything she can to look her best. But there's that line of wanting to impressed and feeling like you need to do that in order to be loved. Don't want the latter.

[rjroy3]

Most honest way of putting it is, "I like you better without make-up" rather than "you look better without make-up". Because he's expressing something specific to what he's feeling, rather than an objective reality.

[enirikiu]

Wow, that's really well-said, honestly. Thanks for explaining that in a really understandable and clear way!! 👌 The amount of thought you out into that response is much-appreciated.

[rjroy3]

@enirikiu no problem : D. I try to be clear and practical with my answers

[GingerGuy]

Society/media want women to believe that you're "ugly" without it because they make a lot of money off you but this is not the case and it's all we guys are saying. As far as 1st comment, sometimes women wear too much make up, so "you look better without it". "You don't need make up" is just that. Does a little look nice? Sure, but you don't "need" it and you certainly aren't "ugly" without it.

[jansoka]

Your boyfriend noticed that you are beautiful so you dont need to hide Your real Facebook between colors!
Makeup often makes people Look Like dolls or Girls who discovered their Paint collection.
Both is Not very attractive.
So if you can "afford" it Just leave the Makeup away and Show that you are really beautiful (Being "beautiful" with Makeup Just Shows that you learned how to handle Your Makeup even if you are ugly)
Your boyfriend tries to Tell you More or less the Same so maybe try it without makeup

[Anonymous]

In general, as a guy, we mean what we say.

USUALLY girls look better with bare minimum / no makeup at all from my experience. Sometimes when I'm walking around the city and I see girls with "potential"(potentially to look great) but they go and put on tons of makeup and I'm here like"Dafuq she's thinking? I bet all my money that she'll be above 8/10 if she just didn't cake up so much". It's like she got beauty advice from a clown or something (no offense to clowns, lol).

Again, make up is fine but please make it minimum (I prefer my girls with none really). Ever heard of less is more?

[EmiliaB]

RHW is still wearing a lot of makeup in that "no makeup" picture, like most celebrities are.

I used to get ready to go out, and then my ex partner used to say " why have you got loads of make up on? " I've never worn "loads" but even a layer of foundation can make me look completely different. He never liked the made up look. Guy's like to see a girls face as it is, I think. That's why they brush your hair away from your face when they're talking to or getting intimate with you.

[estoydorado1]

I think he was just unused to your new look. Makeup can really change the dimensions of a face. I think he truly meant that he thinks you're naturally pretty and it sounds like he's understanding of you trying different looks. He probably just needs some time to get used to the new look.

[Canuck37]

It's not necessarily that you look better without makeup; it's that when you're wearing tons of makeup you look fake. We want to see the real you. When you're open and honest with us, including with your face, you are more beautiful to us than when you're hiding behind a mask.

I should also point out that makeup does a number on your natural balance, so if you usually wear makeup and take it off, you'll look a little worse than if you never wore makeup to begin with.

[ldchamp]

Right on the money! My thoughts exactly!!!

[10dsw]

In general, no. Women do indeed look a lot better with make up.

Here's the thing though, a lot of women put on x amount of make up and are y amount attractive. So they think that putting 2 times the amount of make up will make them 2 times more attractive. Guess what? That's never the case

[soul1112]

Trust us when we say, WE FUCKING MEAN IT. 300% of the time. It's literally how it is. We don't care about tiny-ass imperfections only probably you can see or are too fixated on. I don't even think the picture of the model is a fair example, because it really really isn't the same to see a person in a picture as it is in actual real life- or at least, in actual movement.

Seriously, trust us when we say we genuinely prefer you as you are.

[Alan180188]

first of all make up smells like shit, second it leaves marks on clothes and skins, and makes the girl always worried and careful while doing anything she thinks of not ruining her make up, plus a closer look will disgust you, so yes of course a natural looking nice smelling not nervous girl is way more attractive and beautiful !

[Gayview_Mahat]

I would mean it because it would be true. I found my ex extremely beautiful without makeup. When she wore makeup, I couldn't really kiss and hug too much because I would have smudge the makeup which is really annoying.

[VO1D_Entertainment]

First of all that model is INCREDIBLY unattractive! Bigger man-jaw than most of men.

Second - men are liars. Women always look better with make-up. The only reason any man says otherwise is deception VS deception. Make-up by definition is a lie, visual lie. So men will say BS like "noo princess you look better without it" solely to bait her into showing herself what is she really like. Without make-up. Without no-makeup makeup.

[Anonymous]

The only time I've told girls they look better without makeup is when they put on wayyyyy too much. Putting on makeup is fine, but it should only be enough to accentuate your features/hardly noticeable. I actually have a rule to never date a girl who puts on too much makeup, been there and don't want to go through that again.

[Nihilego]

I would never tell a woman she looks better without makeup because its just not true; the purpose of makeup is to make you look better.
However, I WILL say that a girl looks beautiful without it, or that makeup isn't necessary for her to look gorgeous. I love makeup and love when girls use it to interesting effect, so I'd never tell one not to use it.

[Astoriana]

Listen. It doesn't matter what he thinks. He doesn't own your face. It is YOUR face. If you want to put makeup on it, then put makeup on it! He can deal.

I HATE when people try to control their partners for no reason beyonf that they can.

[Arcari]

when people try to control? so know saying to your girlfriend she is beautiful with or without makeup is control? you seem to have self ssues here... I tell my girlfriend she's beautiful anyway and encourage her to not use it so often, because: 1) she's that beautiful. 2) When she uses too often makeup, she feel ugly when she's not wearing any, and thats something she told me. 3) At tge same time i encourage her to use or be anything she want, wear any cloth she likes without care what ANYONE (men or woman) else thinks. Even me.

[EmmaT]

Yeah he was basically telling her that she didn't look good with that makeup and that she should wear less because that is how he thinks it is better.

[EmmaT]

So it is control

[levantine99]

@EmmaT you have issues indeed like the dude said. thats not control thats just his opinion and he has every right to share it.

[EmmaT]

@levantine99 you have the issues sweetheart

[levantine99]

@EmmaT ehhmmm... nooope. you can't just reverse what i said.

[EmmaT]

@levantine99 It turns out that I can 😂

[Astoriana]

@levantine99 it is controlling to share his opinion when he wants her to do as he says.

@Arcari you want her to do as you say. You don't care what she wants. That is controlling.

[Arcari]

Really? did you read all i wrote? or just what you wanted to to read? when i say i wanted her to do as i say? Perhaps you are used to people trying to controll you or jus paranoic even, but thats not the same with everyone, keep that in mind

[levantine99]

@EmmaT noone cares about your issues bae. solve your problems with men yourself we ain't your therapist.
@Astoriana as a partner he can have preferences. he forced nothing, you are just being hysterical. we have preferences as well. how many times did we try to "manipulate them" by saying honey this shirt doesn't compliment you etc? we want to see our partners in certain ways as well.

[Astoriana]

@levantine99 changing someone's behaviour to suit your whims is controlling. Full stop.

[TacosRAwesome]

In my case I look better because my make up skills suck.

[lyannamormont]

Same lol. generally end up looking like a prostitute

[Phyllis91]

I dont care. If he loves me he loves with or without makeup. I dont use that much but what I do use is up to me. My boyfriend has seen me both ways and he is fine with it. To me its almost a control thing. Maybe some guys really mean it but see what happens when the girl wears none at all.

[Arcari]

A control thing? wow.. really?

[Phyllis91]

@Arcari I said almost. Would you want you girlfriend to tell you whether to shave or not?

[Arcari]

Shure I would like, i apreciatte her opinion!. An opinion is not control. If my girlfriend told me she likes my bear or not or even if she told me she want i shave my balls i would truly give it a shot. Diferent subject would be if she TOLD ME that I HAVE TO.

[Phyllis91]

@Arcari And a girl's decision whether to wear makeup is her opinion - of herself.

[Arcari]

Thats' your anwser? Like you said and like i answer you an opinion is just that. My girlfriend can give me her opinion of my look anytime she wants, same way i can. Because at the end each one has the decision of his own life.
I think here you have your own issues to deal with

[Phyllis91]

@Arcari Oh so now you are a psychiatrist telling me I have issues? Funny. I didn't invite you to attack what I said but I can sure as hell keep it from happening again.

[girlinthemirror]

I use heavy make for photoshoot only.
I like when i have a bare skin, i use only some conciller, eyeshadows, mascara and lightvlipstick or lipgloss, sometimes lipliner too, but i hate foundations, contouring and so on, that u put on ur skin.
I keep my skin glowing and healthy from inside...

[NaultD]

It means he has no clue what he's talking about. Most guys can't tell you what or how much make up on someone and what it does on a personal level. Unless they know movie or stage makeup take what they say with a grain of salt. Myself included.

[front2back]

Most women rarely look *better* without makeup, otherwise, the makeup industry would cease to exist.
However, the girl you look is just as beautiful to you when she takes it off compared to when she has it on.

[dmac111]

Yes he means it. If he brings it up then he actually means it. Most guys won't lie about it to make you feel better. If he thought you looked better with it on he would never have said that you can stop putting on make up.

[Kuraj]

I don't believe anyone looks better without makeup, unless the particular makeup is tacky and overdone.
But of course there are women who "don't need makeup", it's the 8s and above who always look attractive.

[hanhan3817]

wish i could look good without makeup haha... not that i wear it anyway... too expensive and takes too long

[genericname85]

I think makeup makes you look better in pictures but in person, natural is better.

[Anonymous]

Why would we say it if it wasn't true?

It doesn't make women happier. It usually gets us in trouble. There's no upside to saying it when it's true, there's definitely no upside to lying about it.

[Prof_Don]

Makeup is like photo-enhancement; she will ALWAYS look better with a well-done job.

Makeup may make her look better, but she may not NEED it to look good in the first place. The makeup just enhances her already good looks to him.

[steveguitar]

If we didn't mean it we wouldn't say it. BT of course everybody is going to have differing opinions. I would say that the left pic with makeup make that girl look like an alien

[Soph09]

What d'you mean by alien?

[steveguitar]

@Soph09 she looks fake or phony. It seems like I could go up to her and see her makeup rather than skin. That is sad

[lyannamormont]

Is this Rosie Huntington-Whiteley? Eww she is ugly even with makeup. Blake Lively would be a better photo for better judgment. Lol.

[heclinybad]

You know when it comes to appearance women gets real superficial. Why is that? I'm going to post that question to girls.

[lyannamormont]

No not really. i care about looks if that i what you refer to and i dont deny it.

[ThisDudeHere]

I have come to the conclusion that most men generally just say it to sound nice but don't really mean it. Personally, I would most definitely mean it. I prefer no makeup at all on a woman.

[witherwing]

He has no reason to keep saying it, and he knows I feel ugly without makeup anyway, so I don't know why he would lie about it, because he will never change my mind about it.

[J-Rock]

ALL women look better with makeup. Whoever says they don't is saying it because they are a liar or it's some religious rule.

[kitty71]

I dotn look good without make up so I like to wear some it enhances my features.

[Prof_Don]

I agree.

[levantine99]

who wants to kiss a toxic artificial paint? natural is the way to go.

[pusyok12]

you?

[Anonymous]

He probably meant it but you wear makeup for yourself and because you like it. If you like makeup have fun with it and try new things. People think that we wear makeup to hide ourselves but we do it to express ourselves and our style. Even if he means it don't stop wearing makeup just because he said so, do whatever makes you happy with your body.

[Anonymous]

I think the problem is OTHER women pressuring women to wear makeup.

Ladies, why do you try to look pretty? Who is assessing your attractiveness? Common sense it would be for what men prefer (unless you are lesbian... which is a completely different dynamic). But seriously why do you care more about OTHER women's opinions then men?

Light makeup is always the best. You should spend 5 minutes tops putting it on.

[WalterRadio]

"you look better without make up"
It means she doesn't know how to put it on right.

[Aguamarina]

In most cases, they don't mean it. Most of them are bullshitting if they say something like that. Almost every girl looks better with makeup on and most girls aren't pretty without makeup on...

[Cuddlemonster]

This is so true 😂but I'd say at least for me that I'd prefer a girl who doesn't wear makeup all the time just to see her natural beauty but saying she looks better without make up is just a lie.

[kitty71]

I agree with you even if guys deny all what they want, they rather see a lady with some make up on cause not all ladies look pretty all natural. I dont think they mean it when they say "you look better without" that is a big lie.

[Arcari]

Perhaps you truly are ugly. And stop being so pretencious as to think you know what "we" guys think.

It is true that many girls look nice with makeup and many girls look nice without it. But when a guy says that it is because he feels that way, otherways he says nothing. Myself, i told my girlfriend many times she looks beautiful without makeup because she does, because also using makeup all the time make her feel unsecure when not using it (thats something she told me). And last I dont f** care about being a "gentleman" and shit. So when I say she's beautiful with or without makeup it's because she is.

And please stop that shit of thinking you know what we guys like or "truly" say.

[kitty71]

@Arcari I dotn look good without make up as not ALL women in the entire world were born naturely pretty sorry that does not exist. SOme girls are lucky to look preetty with no make up but that is not the case of most women. The make up is to enhance a Little the person features.

[Arcari]

@kitty71That's not my point. I'm okay with makeup. As a model I even have to use it on more than once on many photography sessions so I get it. My point is you're arguing most guys lie about it. I know makeup can make you look gorgeous but that doesn't mean we lie.

Subject aside, what worries me, personally, about makeup is when someone let his entirelly self confidence depends o that

[kitty71]

@Arcari Well I feel much b etetr when I wear make up as I dont like when I dont have make up

[kitty71]

@Arcari and people notice me more when I wear make up rather when im without.

[Arcari]

@kitty71 Perhaps you are much beautiful than what you think. As ever crossed your mind that people looks at you much more when wearing makeup becUse you show more self confidence? and thats something that for me, always makes someone shine.

I really want that you dont depend so much on makeup as to forget how beautiful you naturally are. Make up its okay anyways.

Same happens to us, guys with clothes and and bear and our hair. More than once i used so much nice suits or nice cloth that when using something common i felt ugly. I started to depend on the cloth for my slef steem so much that i was horrible. I had to force myself to not use so many of those cloths to remember the things i like naturally about myself. It may soubd dumb, but it's the truth

[levantine99]

if you don't own your ugliness then what are you doing with a partner? putting a constant facade for life? i can't get girls who are obsessed to not be seen without makeup 100% of the time. like they are playing chase with their men... .

[LionelMerelGlisem]

Actually, my girlfriend is really ugly with make-up. I don't like when she was to wear some, and she neither.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'm pretty sure I know when a woman does or doesn't need it. And I've seen girls who look better without it.

[neoagent1]

I wouldn't say "you look better" without makeup. Women that don't *need* makeup to look good are awesome. Some women need it because their face is very blah without it.

[Pomegranate139]

Nope. They don't mean it.

When they say natural they really mean "natural makeup" not no makeup

[psylent1]

Not all guys are like that. I think natural is more beautiful. I preferred my ex in the morning waking up with no make up. The more real the better in my opinion.

[Arcari]

Are you a guy? It's kindda funny because this question she made was for guys. Also, how can say what we think? How you feel everytime you hear a men saying that he knows what womans really think?

Just so you know. I believe my girlfriend is beutiful with or without makeup. I even encourage her to not use it so often so she can appreciate how much beautiful she naturally is. And i mean not makeup at all.

[psylent1]

Yes, I'm a guy.

[Arcari]

@psylent1 It wasn't meant for you the reply rather it was for pomegrabate139

[Pomegranate139]

She left it open to both genders. I put my two cents.

[jackthebear131]

I feel like I want to see a girl without makeup first so I can see the true them not someone they are trying to be.

[Dargil]

I'd rather sleep with the face on the right. The left face looks airbrushed and unapproachable.

[apple24]

I fuckin love make-up. I honestly wouldn't stop wearing makeup because a guy told me not to. Fuck that. It's one of the few things that make me happy.

[pusyok12]

why you love it?
wearing make pu is gay, right?

[Paul09]

But why is the real question? Why do you like looking like someone else than yourself? Why do women change everything about their look , yet men don't do anything, we'll some acceptions. When is the last you show the world you really are, instead of hiding behind make-up and fake stuff? You say it makes you happy, then are you sad without it?

[apple24]

@Paul09 I don't need to explain but I will. I am not sad without it. It's just something I love. Like how most men love sex. Can you live without it? Sure but it's more fun with it. Is the guy fake if he decide not to have sex forever? No that silly. Just because a girl does a certain thing doesn't mean she trying to deceive or at least for me it's something fun. As for boys. lol I have no guys interested in me. I am a fat women who never ever had a decent boyfriend. Weather I wear make-up or not it will not change how others see me. This is sold for my entertainment and joy. I don't understand what's wrong with trying to look pretty and work out and be girly and flirty. Why is that so wrong with guys? I mean would you date a huge fat women like me? I would guess you wouldn't even look at me twice. The matter of fact is looks are important for men and the world. I personally love to apply blush. I love how it bring my feature out.

[Paul09]

Lol well you can not compare human nature to products that ruin your skin. I love to wear make up to but on on Halloween , when I'm actually trying to be someone I'm not. That's good that it makes you happy I guess.. but I still will not get a good enough answer. You should make yourself happy and care for yourself and no one else. I'm sorry but you are right, I'm not into bigger women. I'm into fit women, with a good personality, want to be fit till the day I die. But I'm not perfect I got my own problems that will keep me single too. I'll never change the way I look, just maintain myself as much as I can. I'm not trying to lecture you, I just like good explanations.

[apple24]

@Paul09 like I said I just love make-up. It's something I do. It's not meant to trick you. I really don't care for guys enough to trick them. My parents are at war and I can't move out. A boyfriend or trying to attract a guy is not my main priority. I don't care if you don't like girls who wear make-up. Normal girls don't usually wear make-up to deceive men it's just something feminine we do. Just cuz a women want to look her best and look pretty doesn't mean she out to get you. I feel like you have a imagie complexity. I hope you marry an ugly women that got plastic surgery and is pretending to look pretty. I hope she gets super fat and ugly. Maybe it will teach you a lesson on how beauty works.

[Paul09]

Lol yuck plastic women. Healthy and natural women only for me. I hope every thing works out for you. And you bloom into a happy healthy woman. Find a man that completes you and live happy ever after.

[apple24]

@Paul09 i rather die alone. (-;

[madgoat]

Yep. She had strong features and people think she wears make up anyway.

[Anonymous]

I'm a girl but I've noticed that wearing makeup attracts different guys. If a guy treats me the same without makeup i see it as a guy that's really into me for more than looks

[Paul09]

Or we respect a girl that respects herself. No physical changes needed.

[Opinion Owner]

@Paul09 good to know! Thanks for your insight 😊

[Nice222]

I really mean it my wife has not worn make up since our wedding 17 years ago. I love it.

[Anonymous]

isn't it a fraud if a girl with make up and without make up looks very different like two different people? Just saying 😅

[pusyok12]

why you think so?

[Opinion Owner]

@pusyok12 because they look like two different people tbh

[pusyok12]

why do girls do that?
are they cheaters?

[Opinion Owner]

@pusyok12 literally my question 😂

[Anon-ymous1]

Usually he means it if he says that, but not always. Usually though.

[CasaNorba]

yes obviously since even a cavewoman will always look good with makeup on

[Sabretooth]

I live q life were i gotta worry about making enough people happy

[angelica453]

Whats funny about this is guy will deny saying they don't admire fake looking females with unatural beauty when on the internet a female could be wearing fake ass lashes with layers of makeup ew.

[angelica453]

Guys *

[Naydyonov]

Well shit if I like how she looks without make up then in my eyes she'll look the women on the left

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he knows saying it will make you wear it less, which he wouldn't do if he thought you looked better with it on

[NICKELMAN]

If I were a girl, I'd never wear makeup. Too expensive.

[YHL6965]

in my opinion, the girl on the picture looks way better without makeup

[didigo182]

Means you look better without make up or you dont need make up.

[Anonymous]

I'd still deeply love the girl in the picture, she's a beautiful person, makeup on none.

[Anonymous]

less is more.. but, i still need to see at least SOME makeup

[jacquesvol]

Yes of course, I would mean it

[Nahid1234]

i would mean that. i don't Play Games.