There are different types of clingy girls, but they boil down to two main types: "You are staying with me" (YWM) types and "I am staying with you" (MWY) types. They can be a mixture of both as well. YWM types require you to be with them at all times. It doesn't matter if she (and by extension you) are going to the most girly place that you would find zero enjoyment in, she will drag you to it. They are the more dominant of the two types in general and are more likely to control your actions. MWY types will attach themselves to you at all times. You could be trying to go to a complete dude zones full of strippers, guns, and destruction and they will try to join you. They are generally more submissive and will try to get completely.
Both of these types of clingy girls are not healthy. People need their space apart from each other and time with their friends to make the relationship work well. A clingy person is someone that doesn't want to live their own life or let their partner live their own life. Now that doesn't mean that time together is a bad thing, but if one or both of you aren't allowed to be individuals then its dangerous. That also doesn't mean that being bossy or compromising is bad; it just depends on the context and how often they do it. Bossing someone every moment or surrendering at every chance isn't healthy.
In my opinion, just wanting to talk a lot doesn't necessarily make you clingy as long as you know how to let him talk and not overstep him. If you feel like you might be overly clingy, ask him about it. As long as you are willing to take criticism, ask him to point it out to you.
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I wouldn't say you're clingy, just very energetic, which may or may not be a turnoff depending on the guy. Clingy, at least in my opinion, is a someone who doesn't understand the importance of space, wanting to know what the person is doing at all times, hating it when they go out without you, tagging along everywhere them go with or without an invite, and not having any interest anymore. For example, if a person is really busy and needs to go do something and she makes an effort to not let him go and keep her company then that I would consider clingy. Don't get me wrong, a little bit clingy is perfectly fine. Moderation is key. Another example would be constantly messaging the other person everyday asking about what they're doing, where they are, etc. It's okay to worry about the other person and ask those questions, but if it's every minute everyday, that's too much. However, in your case, I think you just like to have conversations and that perfectly fine.
No honey, you're not clingy at all. You sound a cherry girl with a cherry attitude. Besides, those who are clingy will appreciate your attention LOL! ( Cherry= cheerful)
But a clingy girl won't understand/respect other people's schedule (s) or lifestyle. For example, let's say you work full time, you go to school full time, then there's that final exam, you study 4 to 6 hours, and your girl just keeps spamming you " WHY ARE YOU IGNORING ME!!!" and leaves you with a long ass speech about how unappreciative you been. I guess you can say, it is someone who has too much free time on her hands and needs to have a hobby such as reading a good book or do something else such as cleaning/organizing her room/apartment/home. Rather than seeking attention from someone who's probably busy doing something important. Trust me, there are guys who can be like this and it is very annoying.
I'm a lot like you, where I get really excited when I meet or talk to someone I like, and I have been misunderstood as being clingy, which hurt :( I've since learned to curb my enthusiasm a bit and see how the other person is and then I just match it to their level. It's sad and unfortunate that I feel that I can't be myself, but oh well...
To me, a clingy person is someone who needs you to always communicate with them and have you tell them who you're with and where you are at all times... and it's usually because they're insecure or have trust issues and whatnot.
It's all subjective and perception based. If you are with the right person, I don't think there would be any push back. My boyfriend says he loves it and always wants to talk to me. Even when I think I might be too much, he'd never say it because he cares and it would hurt to hear that. We text a lot, so it's not just me. He once even asked about being clingy, and if there is any "clinginess" I want more of it. Understand space though... when there are issues he's going through, check in periodically, but don't overwhelm. That's what I've learned.
My ex was super clingy~ he wanted to text me every hour of every day, talk to me on my way home from work every day, spend every minute with me and go everywhere with me, it was way too much!
I can be clingy and I found it flattering at first, but then it got irritating >.<
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In your case, I wouldn't find you clingy. I'd appreciate your enthusiasm, perhaps even find it a big turn on.
Too clingy for me would be if I wanted some alone time, told you that, and you got upset about it. Clingy to me would be if you tried to change me, stifle me, prevent me from doing my own thing from time to time. I'd still want to go on frequent adventures with you and still want you to be my companion. To me, that isn't clingy at all. It really depends on if you come off as hyperactive or if you come off just very enthusiastic and attracted to me. Hyper, being 100% every single second might be annoying. I like a woman who is a bit of both; introspective but also assertive. A woman who can be bubbly but also have moments of silence where we can just stare into each other's eyes and cuddle.
Clingy behavior like always expecting me to solve your problems, that can also be a tough one. Guys like to be protectors and problem solvers, we like to help out, but at the same time, we also are just as impressed by a woman who somewhat has her stuff together. If my woman can change a tire, that impresses me, but she doesn't have to. Just so long as she doesn't constantly keep giving me jobs to do as if she can't figure out anything on her own. hahaha. Intelligence is attractive too (not saying you are not!)
Anyways, the right guy will absolutely fall for you. He will be so flattered and thrilled with a woman who gives him so much attention. If the guy doesn't, then move on. I know I would appreciate the assertiveness and the positive attitude, especially if it extended into our love and sex life.In my opinion from experience the definition of a "Clingy Girl" as I have run into many of them is when they are only interested in the size of your wallet and how big of a meat that I have and those types only wanted me to bang them and spend endless amounts of money on them. I even remember going back once when I was in club I started talking with this girl and I had asked her what do you do for relaxation when you are not working? She replied, "I don't work and I only fuck guys with cocks bigger than a foot long for money". I heard that and paid the bill and left. Thanks but no thanks if you follow...
That's not clingy. To me, a clingy person is someone who doesn't give the other person space. You sound just like my girlfriend, to be honest. If she contacted me 24/7, always asked me where I'm going, who is going with, when I'll be back and wanted to be around me 24/7, that would be clingy.
My girlfriend doesn't contact me when I'm at work and I don't contact her while she's at work. We only see each other on weekends, because we both work, but we text everyday. When I'm out with my family (parents and brothers) or she's out with her girlfriends, we don't bother each other.It really depends on the guy and his personality. some guys like to have the girl all over them and clingy.. etc. and some others like space. It is best you talk about it with the guy you like so you know ahead of time whether he likes it or not.
Also, another good way to think about it is put urself in their shoes. Would you like your man to be like that? or is it a turn off?I would chalk clingy up to nagging basically.
If you're having a conversation its all good, but if you're just constantly messaging them random crap after general conversation has run its course, that's when you start going into the clinger category. Everyone likes some space sometimes to decompress and relax.My definition of a clingy girl is like this:
Picture Spongebob, but he's not a dude he's a chick.
To me clingy girls are the girls who want to talk your head off every second of every day and won't let up until you do everything they want you do. Clingy girls are unintentionally your slave owner.Nah, you’re not. You’re just affectionate, and conversational. If anything you’re just slightly affected with the affliction.🙂Wish I could find a really clingy girl where I’m the center of her world. Talks with no one else but me were we would talk for hours and when we don’t talk to each other we keep each other company. Doesn’t go anywhere without me by her side, can’t keep her hands of me and always wants to have sex and cuddle. Would marry her in a blink.
I for one like that type of girls they keep the relationship goin they keep the heat
But i wouldn't say ur clingy;clingy people actually bother u and u just wanna get rid of them they're like stalkers or like leaches they just keep suckin the life outta u!
Soooo ur not clingy that's for sureMe and my boyfriend are clingy with each other. We text all the time, see each other at work once a while, see each other basically everyday. We're affectionate with each other a lot. Whether it's holding hands in bed, kissing. All that good stuff. I don't think it's annoying at all! 🙂It just depends on the connection you have with the other person.
writing too much can't be clingy... she can be described as tryhard.
too clingy is when you are overattached.
and to me overattached is whena girl wants to know things she doen't want to answer herself. i. e when she asks where were you but when you ask her she gets upset. or when she wants tolook into your stuff and says no for her stuff because "girly things" or when she says why do you not respond when she has a past of replying lately...I like my alone time, it depends on how much time he wants to himself and I would respect that time if I were you. But you two need time with each other. Talk to him. Talk about how much time you two want alone and how much time you want with each other
I think a lot depends on the guy and how he feels about the girl - Basically a "Clingy" girl would be someone who seems to be in your personal space too much - That said the description you give sounds a little OTT for me.
Clingy is when the girl or guy wants the others full attention all the time. It's like they are his/ her world. What you described is an outgoing fun personality ( nowhere near clingy). Also clingy denotes a very high level of possessiveness.
A girl who doesn't let me have my own space, even if we're seeing each other a lot. Also a girl who constantly needs reassurance, even if there's no sign of distance on my part. That's more insecure but clinginess stems from insecurities.
"clingy" is subjective.
If the other person thinks you are, they need a lot of space.
Some people like what others call clingy.
You shouldn't think of your own love as a bad thing.
Just that the other person wants more room.
It says more about the other person than about you.A clingy girl is a girl who is seeing a player or commitment phobe. Since she actually wants to act like they're a couple, he calls her 'clingy'.
There are a few people who are actually clingy, but most commonly, its the above.Clingy is a matter of attraction. Does he want you as much as you want him? No? You're clingy in anything you do pretty much.
The only kind of "clingy" I dislike is the kind that involves trying to control me or acting like a crazy fool if I don;t constantly keep her updated on my every action.
Personally I would prefer that kinda relationship with the girl replying a lot more, or putting in a lot more effort than she should. That just always reassures you that she's the one for you.
Some peoppe really love clingy girls or boys. But i dont think you are clingy, just really interested in that person. But some men will run away because of this, it happens to everyone.
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