Good advise. I have told him I understand his situation ( our simular surcomstances is part of what brought us together). I have also promised to always be at his side and have his back and I want to that. I just need a patner in all this. Not just someone else that expects me to carry the load because they are tired. I'm also afraid of getting hurt or him thinking of me as another burden in his life.
We did. I called in sick ( the only time I have ever done that. Next day I was sick for real and had to work. Carma is h*ll). He hurt his back that day, so wasn't feeling good and was kind of grumpy, but I will have to say, he came anyway. He tried. He could have just said forget it.
if he is willing to work with me on scheduling, I will sugest setting up more time together.
I just did - just this week. After I first wrote this 2 months ago I talked with him, let him know how I felt & how his acts made me feel. He promised to do right be me. Even improved for a sgort while. Then started back sliding. But this time I held my ground better. Said "hey treat me right.". I still adored him & treated him like a king in many ways, but I started taking a tand on some things for the first time. He did NOT like that at all! He became more distant and blocked me out more and m
I asked him if he wanted out of the realtionship. "No! Just hang in there babe. Things will get better real soon". They didn't . He wanted me to text daily, but he only answered if he felt like it. We saw each other when HE felt like it. If I backed off he was "hurt". Then he would get all chatty & nice for a few days, but as soon as I would think we are moving foreward and alow myself to hope. He was off running again. I was a slow learner I guess, but I finally figured out he ejoyed having me
chase after him. He liked the idea of having me "around" waiting in the wings, but he didn't want to waist any of his time on me. We almost broke up a month ago because he was being such a jerk and I was starting to see how he was using me. But we agreed to give it one more shot. I told him I would give him his space. But I would no longer beg . He would have to meet me half way on things. He really started playing the head games then. "come here. No! Go away!". I finally got enough.
I told him time to say goodbye before we could hurt each other any more and ended up hating each other. At first he thought I was bluffing (even though I never threatened to leave him once. Always tried to find a way to SAVE the relationship). When he saw it wasn't a bluff he acted all shocked and hurt, then angry. He didn't understand that you can't play ames with someones heart and emotions and not expect them to eventually get enough and walk away. I only thought I was his girlfreind .
in truth - I was only his play toy. Now the toy is gone and the selfish over grown child is left crying. I am free now and ready to start healing my wounds. The sunshine has returned to my life :)
I did. First he pretended to listen. Would change for a week or so, then back to the same old stuff. I talked to him again & he acted like I was stupid. Started playing head games with me. Asking to meet, then never showing. Saying one thing. Then doing something totally different. Treating me really bad. I finally left him & $e was convinced I would come running back. I didn't. He tried to get me back, but I stood my gorund. I think he finally saw I didn't like being treated like a game
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have a breakup, then wait for him to come back to you
I don't want to play games. That is wrong. I we breakup - it will not be a game. Hearts will get broken
but he should not be taking you for granted... even if he has a lot on his plate dear... :)
Just tell him that you Know what He's going through and you will always be there for him but tell him you need the same and your not getting that
Good advise. I have told him I understand his situation ( our simular surcomstances is part of what brought us together). I have also promised to always be at his side and have his back and I want to that. I just need a patner in all this. Not just someone else that expects me to carry the load because they are tired. I'm also afraid of getting hurt or him thinking of me as another burden in his life.
I will talk with him. Thanks
Thanks. if its possible try to set a date with him and say this is our day to be together and do what we want.
We did. I called in sick ( the only time I have ever done that. Next day I was sick for real and had to work. Carma is h*ll). He hurt his back that day, so wasn't feeling good and was kind of grumpy, but I will have to say, he came anyway. He tried. He could have just said forget it.
if he is willing to work with me on scheduling, I will sugest setting up more time together.
thanks again.
How? you get yourself someone who doesn't take you for granted, dump him.
I just did - just this week. After I first wrote this 2 months ago I talked with him, let him know how I felt & how his acts made me feel. He promised to do right be me. Even improved for a sgort while. Then started back sliding. But this time I held my ground better. Said "hey treat me right.". I still adored him & treated him like a king in many ways, but I started taking a tand on some things for the first time. He did NOT like that at all! He became more distant and blocked me out more and m
I asked him if he wanted out of the realtionship. "No! Just hang in there babe. Things will get better real soon". They didn't . He wanted me to text daily, but he only answered if he felt like it. We saw each other when HE felt like it. If I backed off he was "hurt". Then he would get all chatty & nice for a few days, but as soon as I would think we are moving foreward and alow myself to hope. He was off running again. I was a slow learner I guess, but I finally figured out he ejoyed having me
chase after him. He liked the idea of having me "around" waiting in the wings, but he didn't want to waist any of his time on me. We almost broke up a month ago because he was being such a jerk and I was starting to see how he was using me. But we agreed to give it one more shot. I told him I would give him his space. But I would no longer beg . He would have to meet me half way on things. He really started playing the head games then. "come here. No! Go away!". I finally got enough.
I told him time to say goodbye before we could hurt each other any more and ended up hating each other. At first he thought I was bluffing (even though I never threatened to leave him once. Always tried to find a way to SAVE the relationship). When he saw it wasn't a bluff he acted all shocked and hurt, then angry. He didn't understand that you can't play ames with someones heart and emotions and not expect them to eventually get enough and walk away. I only thought I was his girlfreind .
in truth - I was only his play toy. Now the toy is gone and the selfish over grown child is left crying. I am free now and ready to start healing my wounds. The sunshine has returned to my life :)
take him for granted
talk to him
I can ever g et him to agree on a meeting I will. I know he is busy, but we must talk
Talk to him
I did. First he pretended to listen. Would change for a week or so, then back to the same old stuff. I talked to him again & he acted like I was stupid. Started playing head games with me. Asking to meet, then never showing. Saying one thing. Then doing something totally different. Treating me really bad. I finally left him & $e was convinced I would come running back. I didn't. He tried to get me back, but I stood my gorund. I think he finally saw I didn't like being treated like a game