Ok so, my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months now. The beginning of our relationship was a little rocky (i. e. problems with ex-gf, lack of effort on his part etc.). Now, after nearly splitting about 2x's (both initiated by me) he seems to be grasping the whole relationship thing. A little background about him, he is 27 (I'm 25), he has no children (neither do I), we both still live with our parents and aren't completely financially stable. Now my boyfriend has admitted to me that prior to meeting me, he hasn't really had a real relationship (he & his ex started out as sex partners and she also never met his mom or family). I've overcome these obstacles (have met and established a good relationship with his mom & vice versa) and have tried to work with him and accept the fact that he's never been really required to man up. I set my expectations from jump and he has gotten a lot better UNTIL.. my bday this past weekend. He never even asked what I wanted to do or anything & when the day came, he sent a text instead of calling. I WAS PISSED & did not hesitate to express it. The following Monday, he made it up by taking me out to dinner and doing some fun stuff so all is well now. However, outside of this incident, there have been several other important occasions where he has dropped the ball (i. e. Valentine's Day etc) and I also had to express my disappointment to get a result. At this point I just feel like he procrastinates and the effort comes too little too late and after I have had to tell him where he screwed up. I love him but I cannot keep accepting excuses. I know he is still growing and so am I & we both have a long way to go before we reach a point of marriage or anything like that. Still, how can I get him to be more thoughtful without me having to tell him what to do all the time? How do I get him to stop procrastinating and stay consistent?
Signed,
A chick who needs help!
Signed,
A chick who needs help!
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