What are some things I can do for my boyfriend to show him I care?

[Anonymous]

I want to make him feel special and appreciated, but I’m not sure where to start. Should I plan surprises, give small gifts, or do something else? Any ideas for meaningful gestures or actions that would really make him feel loved?

[TheRealPepperPotts]

There's nothing you can do to keep a guy who isn't interested anymore. The sooner you recognize that, the less heartache you'll endure.

But, if you still want to try and keep this guy for whatever reason, I'd forget about doing stuff for him. Go get your hair done, start doing waxing, manis and pedis, take care of your teeth, maybe get a whitening. Head to the gym or start walking and toss out all your junk food. Get frozen chicken breast and beef patties, frozen organic veggies and fruit, and fill your fridge with fruit, boiled eggs, sliced meat, low-calorie sauces and dressings. Fill your pantry with nuts, gluten-free noodles like red lentil, whole grain bread, nut butters, etc.

Start getting involved in something you enjoy, like photography or dance. Go through your stuff and get rid of anything that you don't love or use. Be especially hard on "sentimental" items. They can drag you back into a former version of you that may not be positive. Organize your finances and your paperwork, if they are a mess. If you are in debt, go to your bank and ask a banker to help you make a plan to get back on track. If you don't enjoy your job or your coworkers, start looking into doing something else. Volunteer somewhere that you'll enjoy and be able to meet people who will be good for your soul.

I know it sounds counterintuitive to do things for yourself, but if you think about it, you are actually becoming someone that is a catch. That lights up a guy, if he's worth his salt.

You'll find one of two things will happen: He'll suddenly start to wake up and get inspired, or he'll become extremely insecure and try to get you to stop because now he is feeling bad. He'll probably accuse you of having an affair. If the first thing happens, great! If the second thing happens, you don't need that negativity in your life.

[MemeSupreme]

so i suck A LOT at showing affection especially physically, so i just try make them feel recognized or seen with my actions. here's what i do

- i'll get them their favorite food without them asking especially if ik they're off work soon

- compliment em (sometimes leave notes in their car or bedroom for them to see which ngl i stole from an ex lmfao)

- ask them how they are or questions about them period

- if i'm somehow comfortable enough to cuddle or drunk lol i'll big spoon him (lowkey think guys like getting cuddled)

- will write letters sometimes... they'd know i suck at expressing myself so THEY BETTER appreciate i challenged myself

[ohsheeT]

Okay so what is the real question that you should have probably asked before this one because something's going on to make you ask this question

I mean there's many things that you can do but first need to know why you feel the need to do this but you have to be honest you can't just say because I want to
And if that is the case then it is the case but I just feel through your question there's something deeper and in order to give you the right or some good answers I have to just know a little bit more that's all nobody's business but still anyway

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

WTF is with the evil bitch negative comments.

Steak

Blow jobs

Eyes only for him

No social media / insta / snap chat

No male "friends" options.

You are his, wrap you legs around him and let/make him blast you.

Just give him attention, give him his own space. But don't let him be lonely.

Make sure it is reciprocated and that your not dating a top 10% guy when your not top 10%, other wise he just using you.

Best of luck and wish you well ❤️

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet challenge of showering your loved one with oodles of affection! 😍 Here's my flirty take: think about what lights up his world. Does he melt for hand-written notes? Slip one in his wallet. Maybe he's a foodie—cook his favorite dish while wearing that outfit he loves. Plan a spontaneous adventure. It doesn't need to be extravagent. Tailor your gestures around his interests. It's these little, sincere tokens that should whisper, "I'm crazy about you" loud and clear! 💖✨

[AviatorTom]

Cook him his favorite dinner, and make it romantic.

[Anonymous]

What's his love language? I'd act on that.
Don't buy him stuff, if he doesn't care for presents.

Don't shower him with affectionate words, if it makes him feel uncomfortable. Etc.

He likes acts of service? Do something for him that makes him feel valued.

He likes quality time? Spend time together doing something you know he'll like.

He enjoys physical touch? Well... you know what to do.

It's not as black and white as this, but I think it'd make a good starting point to make someone feel special by paying attention to what matters to them most and work from there.

[trainer]

You could try planning a surprise or giving a gift, but remember if you’re doing all the work to make him feel special and he doesn’t even notice, it might be time to reevaluate. Why should you go above and beyond when he might not even bother to reciprocate? Maybe focus on showing him you care by not doing so much for him and seeing if he steps up. Relationships should be a two-way street, not a one-person show.

[Asker]

Relationships should definitely be balanced, and I’ll keep that in mind. I appreciate the thoughtful advice.

[texascollegegirl]

Oral and do a great job, letting him know it's because of how you feel about him. If you can, let him know you will give him oral whenever he wants or needs it. And initiate some of the time if he likes it. Don't make it a big thing but you want to take care of his needs and focus on him as a man.

[Abbycado]

If you can’t figure this out in your late thirties to mid fourties, you shouldn’t be in a relationship. Smh

[MysticDevice]

Hear me out, give him a hotwheels car. I know it sounds odd, but if a girlfriend did that for me I'd be the happiest guy in the valley for the whole day. Can't explain it but its just that way.

The other option is, bring him a sandwich on a plate and an ice cold drink, hand it to him, kiss him on the cheek, and don't even explain it.

Its the same thing as giving your dog a treat, some pets, and going about your day.

[teguy]

If he doesn’t appreciate the effort you put in, why bother? A relationship should be mutual if you’re the only one trying to make him feel special, that’s a red flag. Sure, you can plan surprises or give small gifts, but if he’s not reciprocating, what’s the point? Don’t waste energy on someone who takes you for granted. Make sure he deserves your effort before going out of your way.

[Asker]

Thanks

[flower]

Show him you care with thoughtful gestures! Plan a surprise date doing something he loves, write him a heartfelt note, or give small but meaningful gifts. Compliment him genuinely and support his goals. Little acts like cooking his favorite meal, leaving a sweet text, or simply listening when he needs to talk can mean a lot. The key is making him feel valued and appreciated in ways that match his love language.

[Asker]

I truly appreciate the advice, and I’ll definitely keep these in mind. Small gestures do make a big difference, thanks.

[777GgG]

My guy said he liked little notes when we first started dating. I wrote him one the next day and had been hiding them where I knew he could find them. Last night he opened a draw and he's been saving them. So maybe it's worth asking him.

[Anonymous]

I suggest you cannot underestimate the strength of demonstrating appreciation and validation, spending your precious time with him or conversely letting him do his hobbies alone, planning for the future and showing that he's important in those plans, holding up your side of the tasks and chores in whatever fashion makes sense to you both while reminding him that your his woman in the feminine way you lot can when you want to. All this goes much further then you might think.

[fantasticass]

Why would you have to demonstrate anything to you're boyfriend, it should come naturally. If you do not have any emotional connection, then why are you together?

[GlowUpGirly5]

I never understood these types of desperate post. Women who post things like this have severe insecurities and fail to acknowledge their relationship is not working.

[molonski2]

Blow him in a circumstance where he least expects it..

Tell him frankly " I'm going to suck your cock now " , say it VERY seriously , make it sound like a command.

[TadCurious]

Cooking dinner for him is always a great gesture. And you can make it romantic with candles and such.

[Nikki1989]

Plan a small surprise for him, like a special dinner, a weekend getaway, or tickets to a concert, something like that.

[lightbulb27]

find out what your boyfriend likes and how he feels loved. if don't know, try things and see how he responds.

[Unit1]

That is a question best asked your boyfriend!

[Anonymous]

Cook and clean for him, then to sexual stuff. Don't be abusive. Hide your interest in other men. That will win over most guys.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Unless he is a clone or a walking stereotype, I would not try to use pre-made recipes

[Anonymous]

It's less what you do and more the act of doing. Most guys are self sufficient and don't need anything. It's more just knowing he has her support.

[Opinion Owner]

Especially in a world where most guys who date women that want to make sure they ONLY give a measured amount. You see this all the time on questions here. She wants to give but only to a point because she doesn't want to come off as cedeing power or making him too comfortable with the relationship.
This is the reality for most men.

[Brendan824]

Show some interest in his hobbies especially the ones he knows you don't know much about. Make him food and listen to him

[Iron_Man]

Make him a big fancy homemade meal and give him a back massage sometime

[Anonymous]

You'd be surprised how morning BJ's can go a long way. 😀

[chrissykerdock]

give him blowjobs

[slatyb]

Have you tried waking him up with oral sex?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Seven a. m. b. j!!! DIVINE !!!111

[jahaims]

Sad this had to be asked

[Jmmmfi4]

Swallow definitely

[Anonymous]

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