How can I get my boyfriend to be ok with my body goal? (Page 6)

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Hi everyone!  My boyfriend and I are together since 2013. I started going to the gym as my 2015 new year resolution and I got addicted after I saw how my muscle grew and how hard they become lol I took it more seriously for the past two years and I grew a lot. I talked to my boyfriend and I told him I want to grow bigger and more defined. He wasn't as thrilled as I hoped (he loves muscle on women). I'll post pictures to get a better idea: I am like her in terms of muscle amount and definition And I want to be bigger and more muscular like this girl ore more: How can I convince him, I don't want to lose him neither to stop myself from doing what I like?

Fallahad · Answer

Is he really against it? If he is, you'll have to decide between him and your golas. In which case I recommend you to choose your goals.

danielitaahh · Answer

Do what u like the most and please don’t you ever trust your heart, it can betray you🖤

mimi101infinity · Answer

I say just go for it. it's your body and your choice so he's just gonna have to suck it up.

ash9876 · Answer

Just follow your heart. If he leaves , there will be another guy who'll be better than him.

EpicFunWin · Answer

I mean, if he can't handle that body, he doesn't fit you.

Adream · Answer

Do you whether he likes it or not do what makes you happy if he can't accept you for who you want or who you are he's definitely not the right one

DaTruth01 · Answer

thats not evne remotely hot, dont listen to the shit others say, the girls in teh pics are more manly than most men as a guy i find that repulsive

TallAnon · Answer

You can't. Each person has its own preferences. Either of you two has to give in, you can't change a person.

Thomas88 · Answer

Power girls will be able to choose their partners. A real partner will never cut you down in your ambitions. He is just not the one for you. But i would date you!

Violet92 · Answer

He should accept you for who you are snd support you in any goal you have!

Marcoanf96 · Answer

I think you should go slow with your body, and get him used to imagine you with this type of body.

Goodman1960 · Answer

Let him know how much he means to you an how getting bigger means to you. who is more selfish when it comes to your relationship. Some one has to be the "bigger person " pardon the pun

RetroMan2002 · Answer

Not all guys want to be feeling like they are with another guy, is he muscular? If he is he certainly doesn't want a girl with more muscles then him, it's a guy thing, we like dominance.

BanksRevo · Answer

There's a point where masculinity on a woman is automatically taken as a turn off to most guys think it has to do with two things;
One bigger muscles lol
Two, you dont look like a normal lady anymore or who he started dating

kieran56 · Answer

Is thiz possible without steroids? I'm guessing you're natural?

AC8961 · Answer

A little muscle not as much as what I see in the photos displayed. If your firm in all the right places without losing your feminine look that's cool but the abs an the legs are too much. A flat belly a firm butt and breast are my type of woman.

Danish_Junejo · Answer

Dang women... I definitely wanna see you now.. I love women like those 😍😍😍

stevost · Answer

I think going to gym will not affect your relationship, bt b4 you grow more muscles, please talk to him and see how he react.

busterpark1234 · Answer

Find someone who supports you. In long run you will be happier.

Eleni98 · Answer

I think it be pretty plus I think Great for a woman to workout.

SebShaw82 · Answer

It's not a matter of convincing him to accept your body goal. If he's not OK with it, move on.

Witchhaven16 · Answer

And y'all tell me girls are normal huh smh I'm disgusted

Sahil-Mughal · Answer

Don't change yourself self just to make Someone love you, be yourself and Let the Right One Fall for You

veeman13 · Answer

Honey, you shouldn't care what he thinks about YOUR body. He will either love you for you, or he will take a walk. You go do your thing girl!

ponnetst · Answer

That are just to much muscles that shit ain't attractive no more

Anonymous · Answer

If I was a guy, the first one would be my max. In our society, more muscle would be perceived as a bit too masculine. Are you sure you want to take it farther than that?

Spacepope · Answer

disgusting. sorry. if i want sex with Arnold Schwarzenegger, then i fuck Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Craimz · Answer

Whoooo... I like the first picture of the girl rather than the two other pictures below. Its too muscular for me.

winterfox10 · Answer

It sounds like he wants to see where you go... Just push ahead, and if he stops finding you appealing then just take it easy for a second.

Decentguy · Answer

you shouldn't do much work on your chest. and remember, you can't have both things, you have to leave either 1.

anuragk033 · Answer

the present one is fine enough, you don't need go further if you're not taking part in contests

girlknows10 · Answer

Eew why would you want to look like a man?

iguessillanswer · Answer

Guys aren't always into ripped women, it reminds them too much of men, personally it's fine with me, but some guys just can't get on that train

aboringuy · Answer

I find it unattractive for a women, it makes me think of her as a man. There are traditionnal gender roles for a reason. #SJW Trigerred

Tron5678 · Answer

Do you want me to be polite or truthful? I will let you know what I think.

temporaryuser12 · Answer

Find the biggest guy he doesn't like and beat em up. You will forever earn his respect

lordgrifis · Answer

You can't. If he don't like girls like the ones you've showed us, he don't like you. You have to choose what's more important for you: your self-esteem, or a boy that can leave you for your look.

nearly · Answer

I say: you do you. If he sticks around cool, if not, don't stop doing what you feel. You look good, but overdoing it is nasty. Remember Donatela Versace and her face surgeries?

lohannogueira · Answer

The people are differents, but you need understand that he can or not like of same like what you've... This not mean what he not love you! Always there's a half term, and a way of reach agreement.

ChiefsMatrix · Answer

You look great to me? As close as (I’d say) would be perfect, while maintaining your femininity.
It’s your life, and if he doesn’t support, I have little doubt you’ll find someone who will.
Good luck 2u.

FrenchyRomain · Answer

you can't, you can't make him like what you're becoming. You're gonna have to choose one

hried · Answer

Why you wanna convince him why you dont think about yourself again
Why he have to change after your change

Tell him exactly what you wrote here face-face and he will understand and you together find out what will happen

silverxy1991 · Answer

You should do want makes you happy and if he can't respect or support your choice then he doesn't turly love you but if he does love u and does support you just remember to show him how much u love him that his just as important to u

jeremythedrummer · Answer

A lot of guys have insecurity with this. Cuz a lot of guys dont even have abs.

MontagueB · Answer

Those pictures are photoshopped you know right? Thats not a realistic body type for women. You can still get a good body type but it won't be anything like that. It all comes down to how you feel about yourself and how confident you are

yudishthira876 · Answer

If he really loves uhhh then no u no If you do not know how to do it, I do not know how to change it, but I do not know what to do with my body. I do not have any changes, but I do not want to use it again or you can accept it.

JSmuve · Answer

Its nice to see the trans community getting into the gym and staying fit.

chris2109 · Answer

He may never truly like the body type you wish to obtain but will have to accept thats what you want

Valiric · Answer

Both no, that's sooooo much muscle. That's crazy. That's like me in a woman's body.

lilmissumshine · Answer

The first pic looks very nice girl and it still looks feminine. id stop there and maintain it

mikenowsky · Answer

Don't do this... If he don't loves you, never love you

evilrainbow · Answer

Ahh don’t u think the pictures tht u uploaded r both boys? U want to b a boy?

sajjanbh · Answer

Well, it's your call to decide which one is more important in your life. You know both relationship and body shape may not last forever. Just choose what makes you happy (now and in forseeable future). Even better, try to find a common ground.

pmurphy · Answer

Hard spot to be in for him. It could make him feel emasculated if his body isn't similar. My personal opinion is women this defined are a big turn-off. I just don't see the need to be that defined. Some men dig it. Not for me.

Anonymous · Answer

If you dont have long hair then i couldnt tell the difference between you and a guy while going at it doggy style

_serendipity_ · Answer

I think that both you and your boyfriend should talk about. In a relationship both people lose something. Try to find a compromise: maybe you can try to train less and he could try to train with you or just accept who you want to be.

leeeeroyjenkins · Answer

You have to take steroids to look like them. Women cannot be naturally muscular

Anonymous · Answer

Eh... I can't blame your boyfriend for not wanting to date someone who'll look like a man soon.

kamkill · Answer

Tell him that your outward appearance shouldn't matter. He should love you for more then your body. And this is something you really want to do.

carlsgold · Answer

The problem I have is this look is to masculine for me, it's great you have this goal but most guys want a smooth but not muscular girl

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