Does actively maintaining an online dating profile count as cheating?

[Political_dude]

Yes It does

No it doesn't

I don't know/other

[MandyRuth]

Well, if that means you are actively using your profile, you are actively looking for other women. Are you reading their responses and replying to them? Is it attention that you are seeking?

This sort of behavior most likely falls under a new trend called "micro-cheating", which includes flirting with other people online while in a committed relationship. If you experience guilt or feel a bit "off" about doing it, then I would say it is definitely cheating.

[lumos]

Definitely. It shows that neither your heart or mind is really in your current relationships and you're looking for something else through your dating profile. Once exclusivity has been established, you should not be using your account anymore. Being active on dating apps or sites is for single people only (or those in open relationships). Not for those who are monogamous and taken.

[PrincessPie]

Well i didn't bother to delete my account when i was taken but i never used it.
If you're using it yes i'd consider that cheating, if you just couldn't be bothered to log back on to delete it i don't think that is cheating because you aren't using it.

[Goodwifie]

It's always a good idea to delete your profile once you know where the relationship is heading.
So many people have been accused of cheating because their profile is still up.

[OlderAndWiser]

If your partner is aware that you are maintaining your profile, you are not violating any confidence. However, most sites give you an option to hide your profile when you are not actively looking. If you are maintaining the profile as a fall back plan if this relationship does not survive, that is understandable. But if you don't hide it, that means you are still looking.

[englisc]

I'm not sure if it could be classed as cheating, but at the same time if you have one and you're actively maintaining then obviously you're looking for someone else or you plan to, so you probably have the intention of cheating. There's no other reason to have one.

[Florancerose404]

Yaaaas! 🙌🏻

[LikeARiver]

What would someone be trying to accomplish with this behavior? As long as they're not messaging people I wouldn't consider it cheating. It's still actively fantasizing about cheating which is immoral ( and a possible warning sign about the health of the relationship).

[onika97]

I count it as “What the heck are you doing?”
It shows you are not serious about the relationship, and also make it hard for me to trust you. Also shows lack of commitment.

Merely because there is no point of having a dating app when you are in a relationship. It’s like planning your backup because you have no faith in the relationship, so why bother with it anyway?

Which brings me to another point, it shows you are wasting the girl’s time.

[purpletarantula]

Maintaining and actively using it, yes it it. Not deleting and forgetting about it, nah.
If one person in the relationship belive it is monogamous and the other person is looking for someone else, at the very least it's betrayal, even if they don't actually meet up with someone.
Poly/open relationships could be the exception, obviously.

[crazy_eyes]

Yes, because you're literally send the message: "I'm on this site in order to find a date" while you're dating someone. Being active on the dating profile is cheating because if you translate it into real life you can interpret it as flirting or worse- adultery (think sexting).

[justmeme]

If it is being used then that's not ok. If it is just there and ideal it isn't cheating but doesn't mean I'm happy about it.

Personally I think apps should at least be deleted if not the profile, if things get serious then they should be deleted.

[ladsin]

I said A, but I think the scenario need to be better fleshed out. If a fella, or lady simply doesn't deactivate their account but say deletes the app I find no problem with that. However, if you and your partner were in a monogamous relationship and you kept up with an app and talked to people on it I would consider that cheating, or at the very least a good reason to stop dating that person.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I put other because it depends on the agreement of the couple. If it's not an accepted practice or it's something one partner is having to hide from the other... I'd say it's cheating.

But my wife and I made profiles together for a school project to show the differences between male and female activity online... It had nothing to do with cheating.

[DrJo3]

1. Are you in an exclusive relationship with the other person?
2. Does she not know about the profile?
3. Are you maintaining the online profile with the intention of meeting up with someone else without her knowing?

If the answer to any of these are yes, than yea, I'd say so

[MlleCake]

If you have to ask, assume it does. Does that mean all couples feel that way? No. But if you didn't bother to have a conversation with your girlfriend or wife about *exactly* what you each expect of monogamy, expect that she probably has a lot different idea of what she's going to find acceptable than what you're going to try to get away with.

[DaxandCarmen]

Yes, if you are meeting up with people and you have openly communicated you are a set couple. If early in the dating phase with the person and no commitment yet then sure you should be able to keep the profile open. Problem with online dating is people are always looking for something new and better.

[madhatters4]

actively maintaining it like updating it, responding, chatting or generally interacting with people

... yes this seems like cheating.

generally speaking, in my opinion if you are doing something that you don't want your partner to know your doing and/or hide from them in regards to interactions with the objects of your desire then it basically is cheating or at least dishonest and unfaithful behavior

[Bananaman177]

The fucked up part is that it technically ISN'T cheating, but it's 99% of the way there, and why would you be in a relationship with somebody if you're just looking to "upgrade" at the soonest opportunity?

If somebody is doing that to you, stop letting them use you like that. It's disgusting, you have no idea. Those people are total trash, get away from them, or they'll turn you into trash, and they'll bounce on down the road and leave you in a trash heap.

[UltraGamer]

I would say no, my girlfriend has a profile on tinder and hot or not and we just got through the people on there together, she always shows that she's in a relationship and everything. She just looks to make friends, yet most are per vs that get deleted immediately.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It would be cheating especially if i had a special girl in my life and
we were in a active relationship.

[Political_dude]

Thanks for like :)

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You're welcome :)

[AzureGirl]

I think it shows intent to cheat if anything. There is absolutely no reason to have an active dating profile while in a relationship.

[samhradh_leannan]

If you are using it, then yes, absolutely. If you have the account but you don’t use it, then no, it’s not cheating, although it makes more sense to disable your account if you’re in a relationship

[HereIbe]

Not just yes but "Hell, YES!". If you're maintaining, you are STILL LOOKING and have ZERO real commitment to the other person. You actually don't give a damn about the other person if you maintain a profile. Indeed, if you have not deleted them all, you aren't really committed. You're just parking for a while until you get back on the road.

[Guanfei]

Dating app aren't only for finding a bf/gf, but also friends. That said, we perfectly know that you don't hope to find a friend there, even if it's possible.
It's not cheating, but it's a hint that the other could cheat someday. And that he's actively looking for someone. Which isn't nice for you.

[BlueSpark]

No I wouldn't call that cheating because you haven't really ended up with anyone. Clearly you could be looking, and that could mean you're no longer interested in your current relationship, but I wouldn't call that cheating

[Imafreespirit]

Depends. If you just forgot about it then that’s fine but if you’re actively using then yeah, that’s very disrespectul.