- Yes. It's OK to yell at your spouse very oftenVote A
- Yes. It's OK to yell at your spouse once in a while.Vote B
- No. Yelling at your spouse is NOT OKVote C
Most Helpful Girl
Only if the other part yells back and you need to prove a point. According to plenty of women, they all say that a yelling boyfriend or husband is more or less attractive because it puts women in their place and the man feels free to express himself. If the situation is serious enough and the other half feels like their side is not taken into consideration, perhaps shouting is necessary.1
Most Helpful Guy
Yes, but ideally there has to be ground rules. Calling him or her names constantly, insulting his or her intelligence all the time, alienating family and friends, that doesn't HAVE to be yelling involved, but it's not gonna make a heathy relationship. and yes, Doing all of this during fights (and yelling) should be avoided.
Other than that, I think it's pretty healthy, so long as both know it's not going to escalate to something horrible.
I think picking battles is also important. Constantly screaming over leaving the toilet seat up (or down), getting into nasty screaming fits for 5 hours and bringing up every thing that person has ever done wrong is not healthy. Once in a while, it's going to happen. But not 14 times a week. If you're that unhappy, I think divorce might be needed if no one wants to do counseling (or more importantly, change how they act).