Is it ever OK to yell at your spouse?

Is it ever OK to yell at your spouse?

  • Yes. It's OK to yell at your spouse very often
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  • Yes. It's OK to yell at your spouse once in a while.
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  • No. Yelling at your spouse is NOT OK
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Most Helpful Girl

  • Only if the other part yells back and you need to prove a point. According to plenty of women, they all say that a yelling boyfriend or husband is more or less attractive because it puts women in their place and the man feels free to express himself. If the situation is serious enough and the other half feels like their side is not taken into consideration, perhaps shouting is necessary.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Yes, but ideally there has to be ground rules. Calling him or her names constantly, insulting his or her intelligence all the time, alienating family and friends, that doesn't HAVE to be yelling involved, but it's not gonna make a heathy relationship. and yes, Doing all of this during fights (and yelling) should be avoided.

    Other than that, I think it's pretty healthy, so long as both know it's not going to escalate to something horrible.

    I think picking battles is also important. Constantly screaming over leaving the toilet seat up (or down), getting into nasty screaming fits for 5 hours and bringing up every thing that person has ever done wrong is not healthy. Once in a while, it's going to happen. But not 14 times a week. If you're that unhappy, I think divorce might be needed if no one wants to do counseling (or more importantly, change how they act).

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What Girls Said 19

  • Yes, its normal every now and again.
    but if its on a regular basis that is a problem.

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  • I think and for me, it's healthy to just release all the stress once in a while. As long as it's not physical.

    But I heard it's important to talk and try to resolve problems as a couple before going to bed.

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  • It's not OK, but it happens. We all have bad days, we don't have nerves of steel. We all can slip, but it's important to realise that yelling is not the way to communicate.

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  • Occasional fights are a part of every long term relationship. It’s understandable that they sometimes get pit of hand and the two yell at each other. It should definitely not be the norm though.

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  • It isn't necessarily unlawful and at times it can occur, but it is never okay. Again, it may happen at times but anything more than that is a huge red flag.

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  • I think once in a while for valid reason hurts no one. As long as you don't call them names.

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  • If your mad

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  • No unless she did something life altering 😂

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  • Its okay to yell once in a while.

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  • No. Even if they yell, I wouldn't.

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  • No, it is just disrespectful!

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  • Ok? I can only speak for myself.

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  • every once and a while

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  • She looks like his breath stinks

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  • No, never. Don’t yell, spouse or not

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  • Not okay

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  • No it's not. Things could get worse

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  • It is not ok.

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  • No. I hate people yelling at me. Dad sometimes do that when he is angry and it scares me so if anyone yells at me, I am just gonna leave and I don't wanna talk with them anymore. Like, you don't have to yell at others. No need. It would be so hard for me to forgive and talk again. So, yeah.. lol yelling is not okay.

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What Guys Said 17

  • DON'T FUCKING SCREAM AT ME IN PROXIMITY!!!
    I have ears and I am sensitive to loud sounds.
    You can just tell me what you want. The loudness of what was said won't change how I will think about it. Except yelling will make me want to distance myself or plug in some ear protection!

    Having said that, it's not OK to yell. I don't yell and I don't want to be yelled at. Unless we are far away or can't hear.

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  • yea i think the picture makes it worse but yea its ok to yell and be angry and sad otherwise ur relationship will end based on built uo emotions

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  • Of course. Human nature always needs to be permissible. It's insane so many people said No, Never. Is it OK to go 60 when it's marked 50 on the highway. Yeah it's called error. Sometimes you may get a small fine for it. I don't want to ever yell at my wife but sometimes your blood boils and you yell. The next day you feel bad and apologize and have great sex and everyone is fine. You promise you won't do it again, just like you told that cop you won't speed again, but hey, to err is human.

    But as someone said, if it's on a regular basis, well then that's a different story. That's when you lose your license.

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  • In general terms, it is not OK to yell at anyone. Losing control over yourself, no matter the reason, is immature and can render your truth invalid. As a expample, if you found out your SO cheated on you and you started yelling at her like a maniac, that would only enforce the theory by which some would think "that's why she did it".

    Try always to keep your temper in order, even in critical situations. If someone does something to you that diserves yelling at, that does not mean you should, overmore, not doing so would prove maturity and a very strong character, and will leave the person commiting the "bad act" in evidence.

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  • Consider this... your spouse is about to set her hand down on a hot stove... do you shout to warn her away or do you calmly say "Honey don't put your hand on that hot stove." Anyone in their right mind will yell to warn her.

    If your spouse is ranting about something is it okay to shout that you love her? Duh. The matter is not the yelling/shouting... it's what you say when yelling and shouting. To do so just for the sake of it is foolish and it isn't okay. HOWEVER... that doesn't mean there aren't times for it.

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  • Yelling
    & losing one's cool
    always seems to "bomb" one's self sooner or later
    best to leave and cool down a bit or forever if it's not a match

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  • Yell at me and I'll just walk away until you're ready to act like an adult.

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  • Unless your spouse knows your doing it to make it dramatic, no.

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  • No...

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  • Try and find out.

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  • Not unless your drunk

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  • yeah, if the circumstances warrant it

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  • No..

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  • Yelling conveys a message. It's fine if used in the rmorning got context.

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  • Yes if she dresses like a whore, becomes a whore, slut or pornstar and has our children aborted. I would divorce after fucking her once more.

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  • No, yelling is not OK in a relationship in which we are supposed to respect each other. Things like yelling erode that respect a little bit at a time. They do irreparable damage. There are better ways of resolving conflict than yelling.

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  • Women can sure as hell drive you to it. If they do, nothing wrong with it.

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