Do guys really fall in love or is it what they say to get in your pants?

[Anonymous]

Well, Do Guys really fall in love? For Is it more of a " I Know her, I know what she likes and what she does not like, I can stand to be around for a few hours. Her cooking is good" Type of thing?

I mean When you tell a girl You love her, What does that Really Mean.

Like Ex. You are with a girl you knew a few years back, been dating for about 3 months, You have fooled around had sex a few times. She has been a good friend for over a year, You two have a lot in common. She puts up with your welll child ish moments. And even when you mess up or say the wrong thing, or whatever, she can still look you in the eye and tell you your the perfect man for her and she loves you. Would you reply " I love you too"

If so What would that mean to you.

My man sucks at explaining emotions. Like he tries and just hits a word road block. It drives me insane. Like I will ask him what he likes me about and his list is

You're :

Pretty

Funny

Silly

Then a 10 minutes of Um's

So is that all I am to him? because when I look at him, Or we kiss or I am near him, I see he is :

Smart

funny

has good values

Sweet

Kind

Comforting

Stubborn

Silly

Great kisser

Cute

A bit childish

Its an overwhelming feeling of joy and happiness, I am Excited and Calm, Its like the world around fades and its only me and him for a second when I look at his face. Its forgetting how breath after a kiss. Its the fact he is the only man in my life I really fall asleep in his arms ( I have faked it before) He is that one piece of your favorite board game that's been missing for years and you finally found it and now you can enjoy that game once again.

Its like It one glance my day goes from pot too wonderful.

And its always been like that since I have known him.

And when he looks at me and tells me he loves me, Something in me wants to say its true. But at the same time, he may just being using me as a stepping stone girl. ( Aka, Using me to get some form of a game and then dumping me for a girl he really likes) But I do n;t see that in his character. Like he is very up front on most things. And he thinks out his actions. Where I am more free... I guess you can say.

I dance in the rain while he would sit inside...

I Decide I want to go swim and I strip down right there, he wants to know two days ahead and start planning

I am the I feel like doing, where he is more of let me think about.

So is his love true, or him just trying to get in my pants

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+1 y

like He has told me many times he wants to spend a lot of time with me, when my hair is amess and I look horrible he still says I am pretty. He wants to spend every moment he can with me. If I am late ( like really late) he worries.

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+1 y

well we are still together and no fights yet, and I think he might really love me

[ArtistBboy]

To be honest, I didn't read your question other than the title.

I find it REPULSIVE that women think "all men want is to get into a woman's pants".. Jesus christ?!? What are we f***ing 2?

Girls don't have "koodies" (f*** trying to spell that, I'm p*ssed) anymore

Okay - away from the rant and answering your question based off the title alone:

- Women constantly say: "Are there any nice guys out there?!" and when they find them, the woman is either not interested in dating them, hates them, finds them annoying, or has befriended them. Therefor, most men convert to being sexist pigs that just want the giggity; only a select few remain that are still nice-guys.

You want to avoid the baby-raping faggots of boyfriends that TONS of women choose on a daily basis? Easy, get standards and live by them. I'm not trying to offend you, I'm stating fact. Think back to your last boyfriend, the boyfriend before that.. keep going until you make a list of what you knew about him before you were dating, while you were dating, and after you were dating... In the end, you'll see one pattern - He does whatever it takes to get in your pants.

That will continue to happen until you start using your conscious mind to choose a suitable mate; bitching about it won't change anything.

Sorry if it hurts your feelings - but I am SICK and f***ing tired of hearing it.. I strive every day to be that nice-guy, only to watch women get used and abused in an undisputed torture. You have no idea how many women I've torn my heart out over, that I've cried over, and they still choose the douche.

I know it's not correct to place the blame on you or anyone else - but you need to see how much it's bothering the "nice guys" your pursueing - that way you can relate to how they feel when you do indeed find someone that's suitable for your desires.

~ArtistBBoy

[DoggyDude]

If your post is an example of a "nice-guy" post I can't blame the girls for running off with the others *rolls his eyes*

You ONLY read the title then give a long reply!

I personally know, many women do seem to get bored of nice guys and chase bastards. We ALL get it, we really do. Just please don't go alienating the rare good women who are trying to find someone decient man and work it out. You make it worse for the good guys.

[Asker]

One, I am picky dater. I date sweet nice guys, the guys no one gives a chance, and I get walked on and used, so for once I choose a guy I really liked, and not one who was sweet and soft spoken. So one who can handle me but still be on edge.

I really like him, but it worries me that he can not express to me what he likes about me. He can never label off things even thou he says he has a list. So its more of is he dating me because he likes me or because I am the only girl who ever liked him.

[Asker]

Oh and My REAL QUESTION Was Do guys really love girls or Do they look for some they can "Put Up" with

Like She is cute, she can cook, you have one or two things in common, okay in bed, you know she likes pizza and football, but hates ATV's and cars. She smart in her own way. Like Its when you know a person very well, or is there more to a man;s love?

[missymoo]

Ha, ArtistBBoy I like your use of the word 'giggity' lol, and also I agree. You can't generalise all men into the nutshell of 'not being able to fall in love', if you've never given half of them a chance to show you! And also, I'm sick of people sitting their whinging that they can't find a decent guy/girl who lives up to their standards when they are not willing to improve or change themselves to get these 'great people'. Other than the fact that I'm pretty sure they don't exist.

[ArtistBboy]

@Doggy - so what? the good guys are supposed to be walked on, including their reputation? I'm not a nice guy, I'm a good guy. You want respect, you earn respect.

@QA - I appologize for last night, I took it too far based on a judgement of your character. As to answer your question, there's different types of people in this world that vary significantly. Most men (in my eyes) seem to take the chicken way out and just meet women at parties/bars/etc.. Some live their life as best they can.

[ArtistBboy]

@QA - So as to say, the really great guys: "Won't be looking to impress you or find a girlfriend".. They just find how to be happy in their own lives, and offer you a chance to partake. It's almost impossible to determine someone's character before you know them, so like you've noticed, we sometimes make mistakes.. I know it's not reassuring or helpful, but there are some different guys out there; some that are pursueing women, but that blend in action with these "bad guys"

[ArtistBboy]

Congratulations :D

[DoggyDude]

Yes, guys do fall in love.

Sadly, also, yes :(.. many guys do just want to sleep with a girl and not want anything more.

Sometimes the ones who fall in love are the same as the ones who just want to just sleep with the girl. Its all very complicated (sometimes even, the ones sleep with the girl are doing it because they fell in love with someone else and are desperately trying to change their lives and genuinely feel maybe sleeping with someone else is the answer, then afterward realize its really not).

From what you have wrote, you seem to have chosen this guy and he hasn't really chosen you? (he's just accepted your choice). If this is true, you knew who he was when you chose him with your heart and shouldn't expect him to be able to describe you like he had chosen you. Maybe he will choose you back in time, though its the risk you take when you become the one chosing and not the chosen.

[Asker]

Well To put my love story in a nutshell.

I am his only girlfriend ever, He has lost his V-card to me. He wants me to spend as much time as possible together ( like I keep on asking him if he needs space, or a day off from me and he just holds me there and won;t let go till I say, I'll be there tomorrow)



He has told me he wants to spend "10,000" hours just cuddling me. and idk, I just I guess its to good to be true. He Is my match in life. But then again I am his first.

[Asker]

Like for you to tell a girl you love her, What does it mean to you.

Like That my life would end without in it, Your cool, I am comfortable with you...... I mean love has a different meaning to everyone, but I was hoping for a general idea of what men think love is.

[DoggyDude]

Put it this way, I still tell my ex-gf I love her :). She understands now what that means.

I think girls often mix up the use of the word love and the meaning of "your the one I want to be with forever, I can't be without you".

When I say I love someone, I don't say it lightly but I can say it in several different contexts. It doesn't always mean the strongest version of the word.

These days I know how the word love is perceived and tend to only us it in its "most strong" context.

[DoggyDude]

Love, used at its weakest context means 4 me being with someone who makes me feel ammazing, welcomed & loved who I feel love (the deepest possible care) for.

The words, "I love you, I want to marry you" (using love at its strongest context) would mean (Impossible to describe fully though):

1) I care for her more than anyone bar none

2) She makes me happy and I am sad when she is not arround

3) We share deep emotional connection

4) I would be miserable if she was with someone else

[toulouse]

even baboons can love :)

Yes men have feelings men can feel happy sad hurt love angry stupid surprised wounded etc etc etc if they didn't the world would have a hell of a lot more prostitutes. & women would be raised not to love but to find a good sperm bank. we live together we can't be polar opposites. you just may be with a polar opposite- but guys fall in love. I grew up with multiple dads brothers male cousins guy friends & they all have a broken heart story at least once -sometimes multiple times.. My dad still isn't over my mom- they broke up when I was 3 - she left to get a phd. she did it worked she's successful etc etc .. she decided not to love- my dad couldn't do it.

My brother married the first girl he was in a serious relationship with at 18. he was brokenhearted from a girl when he was 14 & I guess he healed by 18 & voila married baby etc etc my uncle asked me to find him a wife when I was 6. it worked he found her- she wouldn't talk to him so he came back to ask me again, & I said I found her you got to take care of the rest - they married 4 kids. I have NO guy friends who have not been hurt and/ or do not want to be with someone they love. None of those experiences were about women wanting money and men wanting sex it was a very deep connection. I get a long great with guys and that wouldn't be the case if they were sociopathic- the way they'd have to be to be impervious to love.. its one of the many affects humans are blessed- or cursed depending on your view - with.

Basically you are asking if men are human0 yes they are or women would be be giving birth to Chimps with 9 heads.

:-) :-) :-)

[ArtistBboy]

Wow I am always impressed by your answers and this one just hit the right spot.

[toulouse]

Thank you. That means a lot to me coming from you :-)

[Anonymous]

some times it is what they say so they can get in your pants.

some times they really say it to get in your pants and to keep you.

some times they will fall in love a few months later on after getting in your pants

that is just my honest opinion

[fsqwerty]

It's scientifically proven that women are better at expressing themselves verbally than men, so he can't express what he feels very well. Of course this is not a rule, it changes from person to person. I assure you that because he doesn't express his feelings so well, the good feelings are kept and grow even more. This is my opinion if he really is a nice guy. There are a lot of nice guys out there, but because they're nice, they expect reciprocity before they open up, and so it seems like there aren't more of them around.

[Anonymous]

Yes.