I’m not talking about “I want someone who loves, respects, and cherishes me.” Because that is basic stuff! That shouldn’t be a fantasy! That should be your reality! I’m talking fantasy stuff. Like... they make you breakfast in bed every Wednesday. They like the same very specific shade of teal as You do. That kind of stuff.
I think mine are a nice man who will help me wash my hair occasionally, try to rub the knots out of the small muscles on my neck and head, and will grill foods for us to eat at semi-regular weather permitting intervals. I don’t think that’s too much.
Honestly my ex was the definition of my fantasy she was cheerful upbeat down to earth even though she came from a rich family she made plans for us didn't just rely on me to make them we gave each other massages after a hard day of work we loved each others interests we had a great romantic/sex life she cooked for me without me expecting it even like we used to take in turns but some nights she'd set up like a whole date night out of the blue she was amazing. I think that's why I let her drag me through hell when I came to her I was confident I trusted my gut and if any girl did me wrong I'd drop them like a hot stone but her she had me guessing if I wasn't enough stressing when she just went silent and wouldn't talk to me for no reason for weeks. Since day one she always made me feel a little inadequate about how she loves my friends hair and that her friend Jamie gives the best hugs and that she loves tall guys and that my other friend Richard was so funny always picking out things that she liked about my and her male friends and in the end all that love she gave to me she seemingly took back in an instant I felt unloved so I told her that maybe we should break up she ask me really? Sounding so shocked and at the time this was the only way I felt I could get my feelings across as my mind was a mess I replied with no I wasn't being serious but that's how you've been making me feel she said she was so hurt so heart broken and that we were over and then swiftly got with a friend of mine two weeks later.
Don't feel bad about it really, it would happen sooner or later. She just gave you hints about what she needs in that phase of her life, when she told you about those things she likes in your friends. So you'r good. Better off than being cheated with your friends. It's just how it is, just try to learn from it really
Yeah I learned from it alright I didn't want to believe she was like that but I learned, me and her were on and off for year after that she kept getting with guys and then when she was done with them she'd come back to me, last time she did she said "I've missed your outlook on life it's rather interesting" and that kind of made me feel sick like I was being used so I cut her off. Anyway thanks man I appreciate people who point out the good in a bad situation
She will sometimes be the big spoon cuddle me, play with my hair and whisper sweet things to my ear. Feeling comfortable around each other while saying or doing nothing. Have laughing fits in the middle of having sex. She would be child minded enough to build a fort with me. She'd surprise me with a grand silly romantic gesture as I would sometimes.
I would be cooking everyday. I'd wake up early and make amazing breakfasts for everyone, and also make extravagant bento box lunches for everyone (husband and kids). The house would always be clean, but of course I'd make the kids clean up after themselves. I feel like I would want my husband/kids to do dishes, sweep and mop, clean the bathroom, take out the garbage, and do the yard work. I would clean all the other rooms in the house, do the laundry, etc. When things are clean I'd work out then relax and play a game or two. I'd cook dinner regularly, and also always have home made snacks available for if the kids have friends over. I'd want a small garden in the back to tend to and grow fresh herbs and some fruits and veggies to use in my dishes. I want my house to be the house everyone wants to have gatherings at. The kids friends always want to come over. My husband always wants to entertain, having friends over, or coworkers, or even the boss and the boss' spouse, and I would always make amazing food for every occasion.
I of course want to travel and go out to eat sometimes, but when we're at home I want things as I described. It might be difficult, and it could very well be a silly fantasy. Maybe I wouldn't be good at keeping up with everything... but I really would like to do it.
Oh my god so like, yo, I've been dreaming of living this super comfortable life with the person I love. We would have two perfectly trained and gentle doggos. We'd live in an amazing apartment with an amazing view, and with something quirky about it that makes it unique. And we'd be filthy rich, so we could wake up at 9 or 10 every morning and have the most chill breakfast where we'd both eat super healthy but yummy food while watching a show or reading the paper. And we would have our coffee delivered to us every morning from the best café in town. Then we'd kiss each other bye, head off to work and come home at a reasonable time. Then we'd spend lots of time in the kitchen while preparing some amazing food together. Like chef level because we're both just amazing at cooking together. Then we'd eat in peace, watch a good show while cuddling with the dogs on the couch, take a long walk with the doggos together, and have really good sex at night. The!! Dream!! Imagine sharing a life like that with someone you love!
This is a very good question. I've been fantasizing about just getting the basics in a relationship for so long I haven' t thought about true fantasies.
That we run a marathon together, that we visit Antarctica, Vietnam and Japan together, and that we learn Italian together.
Because I can learn it quickly and enjoy the great literary and musical works of art written in that language, read about football tactics (this is a really big deal in Italian football, especially on defense), and read technical documents written in Italian (I do technical translations as a side pursuit). And... operas!
If Japanese were not so difficult to learn, it would be my first choice of another language to learn. Alas, it is, though.
A guy who values my time and listens to me and sacrifices himself for me by spending time with me even when he is extremely sleep deprived or has exams or mid terms going on. Nothing sexier than sacrifice!
He wants to travel everywhere with me, we have the best conversations, he has really high ambitions, doesn't cling on to me, gives me freedom too and never asks twice for something
haha! I am not sure weather you call this a fantasy or not, but this is how my story went
I really loved a girl in my college and i proposed her 2 years back. she was really a practical person and she rejected sweetly saying that I too like you but we have a caste problem and my parents won't accept it.
I told how i would convince her parents and her religious heads, i told her i would try to get a good job and settle within 2 years after my U. G and come for her;After a long session of mind washing she told me the truth.
" i would get married just after my U. G (under graduation) and I am engaged to my close relative (Aunt's-son). If you can really come just after U. G and convince all my parents and relatives i am ready to marry you or just forget me and move on."
i said " ill try my best and ill come for you." [maybe that was the mistake, i should have listened to her and moved on]
Two years passed, I really worked hard to get the best resume... tried to improve all my skills and i have got all the tools I want to be the best individual but you know (practically speaking) settling just after the U. G is close to impossible :( .. . one year left and now she will be getting married. :'(... I can't speak to anyone neither their parents nor mine because i have nothing to prove myself. i need time i knew from the start it was not possible but i didn't give up and now i am suffering internally.
Past Two years i was in my own fantasy world, thinking i would get her. I made my efforts to get her but now i am really close to my defeat. Now i regret why did i opt such an result-less effort. Every-One after their valediction, they will be having their own sweet memories and future goals but i will be the one leaving with pain and my fantasy relationship goal.
I have to say almost all fantasies I used to have when I was single have already been fulfilled in the form of my wife. As cheesy as it may sound, there's really very, very little I can complain about. The only "improvements" I can think of are: - I wish she was more sexually adventurous - I wish she was a tad more interested in natural sciences and/or politics (she is interested in them, just not quite as much as me) - I wish she wouldn't snore (I suppose it's cute but I am terribly sensitive when it comes to falling asleep... I need perfect silence).
Someone who will hold me still when I want to fight and just tell me "it will all be ok baby girl", who will give me the freedom to progress, but always defend the perimeter. Who says "this is what's going to happen" and will always make it happen. And will lie in bed and have sex all weekend and at least twice every other day. Will teach me things, and take me places I don't want to go because all I really ever want is to stay in bed. Will push me into the fire but always save me, will throw me over his shoulder when I'm being obstinate... And who won't steal from me... I think that covers my fantasy 🤔
Oh man where do I start... I'd love to have: - someone to travel with - someone who likes similar music as I do and would be willing to attend concerts with me - someone who loves roller coasters - someone who likes to stay in bed and watch movies and cuddle - someone who has a naturally warmer body heat than me (bear with me, I know this sounds weird but I get cold easily and you know what, it'd be nice to hug or hold his hand and get warmed up at the same time) - someone who can make me laugh
I'm cheesy but find a woman who doesn't judge me for my flaws will opt into a long-term relationship with all the ups and downs help out with home rearing whilst I spoil her with gifts and affection. Also just being honest and committed my work is gonna put a strain on the relationship but if we could hold though it would be wonderful.
The last part is the most ambitious but I also wish for the commitment after either one of us is long gone, a friend of mines mum lost her husband to cancer and she is still faithful after death it's one of the sweetest things I could as of a woman to be mine forever. My aunt and uncle bought side by side plots and he got a new wife, sold on the plot now my aunt will be buried next to some randy. Its sad to imagine that bing me some day forgotten about by a partner.
Mine are i'd want a guy who can cook for me but also lets me cook for him and we can go out to eat too without being judged, i'd want a relationship with no judgement and to be closer than close like you can literally do anything with conscience without freaking the other out or forcing anyone to leave, i'd want a guy who could literally carry me when i got tired of walking like that would be so great just any time just carry me yeah but thats not happening lol but yeah plus the whole washing your hair thing would be cool too
If when he made me a cup of tea it was *perfect* exactly how I like it. Everyone likes it different, and though he logically knows he doesn’t like tea so doesn’t get how much tiny things make a difference. But I’m too grateful for the fact he makes me tea at all, that I don’t want to correct him 😂 And if he would share the window seat on airplanes, I’ve travelled more than him so when we go away I want him to see everything even though I love the window seat, and he’s annoying always wanting to get up and down.
Haha man those are some top tier, first world relationship problems 😛
I have this recurring dream, where I am with the love of my life, and basically its early in the morning, and we are making breakfast/dinner - it changes. The kitchen is brightly lit, and we are laughing just having an all round good time. Other parts in the dream have us going out on fun dates - paintball, abseiling, travelling the world etc pulling me out in the middle of a thunderstorm to play in the rain and then coming back in drenched laughing, and warming up by taking a hot shower together.
I want an Amazon. I want a chick who could slay dragons if they existed. I want someone who understands me intellectually so the two of us can start our own private detective agency and eventually become superheroes like Iron Man and fly the skies before figuring out how to extend our lives indefinitely so we can explore the universe together as long as possible.
Not to sound unrealistic but top 3 fantasy goals: 1) Pulse. 2) Isn't a violent psychopath. 3) Actively wants to be in the relationship. (I suppose that makes 1 sort of redundant).
Also good: Shared interests, ability to share some hobbies without sharing all. A girl who likes giving backrubs and massages as much as she enjoys recieving them. A girl who isn't selfish in bed.
Ladies I know, I know. The pulse thing is so unrealistic. But I just can't afford the T Virus and necromancy isn't my thing. Wasted all those skill points in "demonology" and "slight of hand".
Her wearing special lingerie once a week. Travelling once in a quarter and experiencing new foods together. She cooks for me every night so that when I come home from Gym, I can eat immediately (and I cook for her during the day). We know what the other one is feeling by just looking into each other´s eyes.
The ones above would be my fantasy relationship. The cooking stuff is actually reality already so maybe that could be switched to something else...
A girl very like-minded to myself. Someone who would thoroughly trust me to the point where I can do things that most girlfriends would dislike (such as something stupid like chatting up a stripper for a laugh) but still staying loyal to her at the same time. Her to know that I would never leave her.
At the same time, we both know when to be serious/romantic and when we can just have fun.
Finally, it'd she'd be adventurous. I mean like, she'd be willing to run away with you and do anything with you.
A girl like this for me would make something SO boring SO fun!
Realistically though: all the basic stuff but I would look for a girl who's adventurous. Willing to try new stuff. I don't know if I have explained this well enough for others to understand but oh well haha!
My fantasy match would understand my insecurities and reassure me. They would be up to day adventures and nights with romantic dinners with candle light that we've made together. We would be able to spend they day wrapped up in bed just laughing and talking and letting our souls combine. We could spend hours together not saying a word and hours where we just can't say enough. Some one who is willing to try new things. But most importantly some one who will truly love me for my ups and downs.
I think mine is getting my hair brushed? It's something that my partner does for me occasionally and it's something I love, it's a little thing that isn't necessary but it's incredible to have done for me. Obviously I'm perfectly capable of brushing my own hair but it feels so nice for someone else to do it and take care of me a little, it's definitely a fantasy thing I always kinda wanted to happen and I'm glad it occasionally does.
That's the cutest shit I've read on the internet in a long time. Your boyfriend brushes your hair. Did he ask to do it the first time? Or was it your idea? How did it start?
@ImKazumaYes If I remember right, he didn't ask me the first time, just kind of did it. My hair always knots super easily, especially after sleeping (I shower before bed so my hair is still kinda damp when I go, which is probably why) , and I think I was being a little too rough either brushing the knots out on the back of my head and he took the brush from me and started tackling the biggest knots at the back for me 😂 After that, I just started handing him the hairbrush if i got frustrated with it, he picked up on it that I like it and now he'll quite often pick up the hairbrush in the mornings and make a start on it or ask me if I want him to.
A girl like me DOM/sub who loves kinky shit and passionate shit sometimes cuddling every night while watching a new movie listening to music or kissing then every morning one of us wakes up to make the other breakfast and then one day for me to marry her because she’d be the perfect girl for me
Lol, fantasies? Hmmmm... be content to snuggle and cuddle all day long—especially if I’m in pain or sick... wash my hair once in a while, really gentle and massaging... willing to watch Disney movies with me and read aloud while I listen... lol, I like a little coddling once in a while 😂 but, yeah, just fantasy stuff...
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