Ladies why do women bash men so much?

[Anonymous]

I mean lately when you see a bunch of girls together you hear why does my boyfriend do this. Or he is so boring, or guys are clueless. And even the older women my husband leaves the house a mess, all he wants to do is watch football. Yet when I hear guys talking about there girls its usually much more positive unless there's a lot of nagging. But there usually bragging she looked great in this it was so funny when she told this off the wall joke. Even the music is getting more negative women talking about taking there mans credit cards and spending every last drop and dumping the guy. Or smashing his headlights with a louiville slugger baseball bat. Or pinks song about how annoyed she is when she gets hit on by guys at clubs. What the heck is going on?

[sweetvalle03]

LOL, sorry I was reading some of the replies here and I couldn't help but laugh because of what both sides had to say in their defense.

1. I'm not going to lie, I do complain about my boyfriend. Not anything bad really just general stuff like him not being home because he's always working, little things. I don't bash him in front of all the people I know though. And despite what anyone may think I don't try to bash him at all. I tell 3 people tops, the complaints I have with my boyfriend, and I usually do it to get some flipping insight as to what the hell he may be thinking or what exactly it is that I'm not getting.

I'm pregnant, so right now, I have a HUGE! Tendency of overreacting. I have to sit there and really question whether or not my being angry is for a legitimate reason or just because. The best thing I can say in my own defense is that whenever I have a problem I do tell my boyfriend. I let him know what is bothering me and why, then I'll (usually) give him a chance to explain his side and what it is that he's thinking too.

I think it's just something we do to see what other people would do, it's good for people to know that we aren't the only ones who are thinking that our relationships suck, then you end up hearing about another boyfriend/husband that's a million times worse and you realize how good you have it. (Unless your the women with the awful one), but what can I say I can neither defend or bash, my somewhat bashing. All I can say is that I keep it at a minimal amount of people I bash him too, and that I talk about what is bothering me to him, oh well. I guess it's a double sided sword my friend.

[Asker]

This is for the girl above keep running outa room. lol ok the 2 sides of are brain make it harder to do two things at once. and we don't mixthe emotional with the physical as much. but the emotional is given to you all on itsown. when we are in love that's all we can think about. when we lust yes that's all we think of. woman can do both simultainiously.

[sweetvalle03]

? Huh? sorries :)

[Anonymous]

Because, MOST of you guys are a**holes. You guys don't actually care about women. you either wanna f*ck and leave or you love her for a little while untill your bored and you cheat and lie. and you may say you love her but at any oportunity someone "better" comes along you mind starts running. you guys never actually listen to women because "were overly emotional" and we talk too much. I'm not a femenist. but guys these days are rarely genuine. and you even see that on this website. and its sad so girls talk about it because they are releasing frustration and fear that the will never actually have a good man. Sh*t girls can't even have guys as freinds because she will never actually be "just a friend" if she looks half decent because the whole time he will be thinking of what it would be like to be in bed with her.

Now I'm not saying women are perfect, infact some are the reasons men act the way they do.

but MOST men treat women life crap and don't even realize they do it, men often use women for amusment and entertainment. and that's why we bash men because we don't just want to be entertainment. we would like more, such as respect and loyalty.

Truth hurts, accept it

[Asker]

God why are you so angry. I mean I've never cheated on a girl. most of my friends have never cheeted. and romance is important to guys. what about all my ideas of baking girls cookies and drinking eggnog infront of the fire place roasting smores togeather. I actualy replay romance sceens. not sex sceens romance sceens over and over again. but I guess that's not good enough for u. a holes as you say. you girls date the players and ignore the romantic guys. that's why I'm single and girls get hurt.

[Asker]

Ran out of room. ok so when we fall in love we will think of you like Arwen on Lord of the rings. a princess. but guys think if they admit this they will be seen as too mushy by other guys. there's a reason I wrote this anonymously. no friend girl or guy except my best friend knows this. I dream about girls and just stairing into her eyes are souls connecting. but yes when I see a hot girl the lust side is active and seperate. men have more trouble multitasking then women cause of the 2 sides of

[A-R-Norman]

Both of you guys are in error--both of you have made mistakes that broke your hearts. Girl--if you stay true to what you want and tone down the anger you will find love. Dude, if you give your heart to a worthy woman she will want romance. I did and I am happily married with baby number 2 on the way--he is the nicest guy on earth and I tell him everyday what a blessing he is to me.

[Anonymous]

I didn't say all men out there are a**holes the majority are. I do date the "nice" guys, and I'm not shallow. I have come to realize that the nice guys are few and far between. But I have yet to find a real genuine NICE guy. Most men have a complete disregard for female's feeling and that's bull sh*t, and I have a low tolerence for bull sh*t. I am starting to come to the conclusion that the only real feelings a man has are in his nether region. I don't wanna think that way, but with all the men out there that are like that kinda make it inevitable to think any other way. But men rarely see how they have hurt a girl, and they usualy don't care. I don't wanna be hurt.my anger is a defense mechanism. Love rarely (if at all) is at the top of a guys priorities.you know its true. They are put here on this earth to spread seed.and that's it.

75% of males would rather die than live without their "member".thats sad lol.

pussy is that's all that matters to most men .so you can judge me.but the lack of courtesy and lack of male feelings has made me angry. I sorry you don't understand.

[Asker]

This is the difference. women have sex and love on the same track. men on 2 different tracks. the reason why is the wiring conecting a womans emotional side and logic side is more interconnected. when a woman falls in love her sex testosterone increases. and sex and love are mixed. with a guy yes the female body increases his testosterone without a love connection. but when a guy falls in love his sex drive actualy drops. some of the girls I've been most in love with idid not want to have sex wit

[Opinion Owner]

Why?

[A-R-Norman]

Bitter much--hun--there are TONS of brilliant and wonderful men around--I met and married one. Do not give up--and stay open. if you build walls a decent man won't get in...

[martyfellow]

Ok this is why I'm glad I'm married to be honest. THe only women I even consider flirting with any more (I'm still alive even if married) are women from other cultures who don't basically lack respect for ALL men!. Generally our women, at least the ones from the generations after feminism, have that attitude. That's why so many are alone.

Hard to feel sorry for them, frankly, given their behavior as you describe

Whatever you say about us guys, we don't have the same level of active dislike of women. ANd if we do, it's because we have come to realize the above, that they have no respect for us.

What attitude do they expect us to take in return?

[A-R-Norman]

I am happily married to a wonderful man and I agree to an extent--far too many women adopt attitudes and alienate men. But as you said, experiences with women may turn a man sour and so it g0es with women. We make bad dating choices and blame the other sex instead of growing from it. sad really but maybe we will evolve past supposed female empowerment and know that feminine strength doesn't mean emasculation our men.

[That-Guy]

Women have been doing this since they're 5 years old and have learned to talk. They gossip about everything good and everything bad.

Men don't practice this or at least at a much lesser scale. This is why you see men in larger groups of friends while women struggle to keep each other around as every bad aspect about one another gets gossiped around.

Man pride, word keep it real and all that jazz.

[A-R-Norman]

Hit the nail on the head,which is why most of my buds are guys

[That-Guy]

Thanks, although I do believe that a bond between two female friends are stronger than most male friend relationships, they are just rare to see.

[A-R-Norman]

Hun I agree--but there are also songs like CRAZY B-TCH and stuff like that so it swings both ways. I really think it is feminine empowerment run amok where women think tit for tat means they are being strong when it is just revenge.

It started with LIFETIME MOVIES and SEX IN THE CITY crap--the idea that women , in an effort Otto feel in control, turn our valued partners into emotionless robots that are only to be used.

Not fair at all.

men are lovely beings and I adore their maleness--I love you guys--and I got the cream of the crop in my adoring hubby! Beyond lucky--several years and another baby on the way--I love the way he can see things in a more logical light and paint pictures that I can appreciate even if it differs from my own world view.

I think that women have to learn that they can balance being strong and independent with loving their man and appreciating that he has more than money to offer.

love to you brother--may you find a girl who appreciates you for you!

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Well. The truth hurts.

But seriously. We "bash" men because obviously something you do or have done has annoyed us to the point where we have to talk about it.

And please, do not act like men don't bash women. There is so much sexism in this world, it's disgusting.

[Asker]

Yea but I'm not talking about a bash here or there. its in the songs music. its the rolling of the eyes when a guy makes a joke. girls comparing who has the worse boyfriend. now I'm not talking about you I've read your other posts and you are very sweet. and I'm not talking about the guys who deserve it, chris mathews and Bill Oriely are sexist. but I would once like to hear a group of 5 women saying nice things about a guy. they can stiil say his feet smell if they have to be negative.

[TheoryOfAvarice]

Well, I guess I really don't know what to say.

I don't bash, for the most part. I complain sometimes, but who doesn't? There are just as many girls who find men completely irritating as those who adore them and don't act this way.

Also, I found this out recently... it turns out that women's brains produce significantly less serotonin (a chemical that helps make us happy) than men's brains do. So basically that's why women are quicker to get upset or stressed out.

[A-R-Norman]

Listen to Anita Baker and old R&B tunes and some En Vogue--En Vogue had a song called HOLD ON TO YOUR LOVE which talk about giving man room to be himself. SALT AND PEPA made a song called WHAT A MAN WHAT A MIGHTY GOOD MAN--the new stuff sux--but old divas knew how to give respect to a good man...

[ALWAYSclassy]

Well I don't want to sound like a Bitty Becky because these are *not* my personal beliefs and I like men, but if you think about it.how many guys do you know that are jerks (especially when you're young)? A lot of guys, so bad experiences make them like this. If 8 out of 10 exes were bad apples, you will probably bash apples!

[Cool-Relax]

I think it's put into a lot of girls' minds that men are jerks and don't really care about women. I'm not going to lie, I've felt that way. I don't really know why we feel that way, but I think a lot of it has to do with bad experiences. While there may be plenty of decent guys out there, we get more attention from the jerks who use cheap pickup lines, and I personally feel like those guys have no respect for me. When you deal with that enough, it's easy to think all men are that way.

[Anonymous]

cause blokes tend to be more selfish, less emotional and do not think before they do or do not do something and this can cause problems. Men also are not born communicators so when they get together with bloke friends how much they say and discuss is a lot less that women. Men say about 5000 words in a day on average whereas women say around 15000. We talk we communicate so we talk about the good, the bad, the great, the deep, the ugly and that is probably why you hear what you hear.

[A-R-Norman]

I do not think men are more selfish--just that we can be a tad bit more demanding and not really understanding of male needs.

[shinzuku]

Girls use their common troubles with their boyfriends, to show that they share the same feels and bond. This is how girls strengthen their friendships.

Guys treat converstaion as a competition. It's a case of 'my girl is better than your girl.'

[amaya]

either its true or they're complaining.