Should I go to the beach with my girlfriend, or not? (Page 2)

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I've been with my girlfriend for about 3-4 months by now. She's the first girlfriend I've ever had, and I absolutely love her. She's rather tomboyish, having interest in gender-neutral or slighty masculine activities, like sports, video games, action shows/movies, reading, etc. She's also very sweet, and gentle, yet firm and a bit sarcastic. And as a side-thing, she's absolutely beautiful. Her personality is why I truly like her, but her good looks are hard to resist.  Either ways, I really like her, and really respect her, and want the best for her possible. I've never had much personal experience with girls, and I am sort of a slave to my hormones, always wanting to look at the "stuff" (boobs, butt, legs), and my face turns redder the more I try to resist. I respect women a lot, but I literally can't help myself.  And a few days back, she said she really wants to go to the beach with me. We live in Florida, so the beaches here are absolutely beautiful.  But the thing is, I don't want to see my girlfriend as an object.  And she's not gonna wear a "modest" swimsuit, either. She has several photos on her social media of her and her friends hanging out at the pool and beach together in bikinis, which is basically a waterproof bra and panty.  And she IS gonna be touchy.  In her photos she's hugging her female friends in bikini. And while around me, she always hugs and kisses me. Her bare skin against mine isn't gonna make me less nervous.  Heck, just merely when she wore shorts to Universal Studios, I could barely help myself from just seeing her bare legs. She was like, "Is something wrong, sweetie? You look kind of uneasy, and you're turning really red! Want me to get some help for you?" And I was like, "No, don't worry about it, baby, it's just really hot, since this is Florida, after all!"  So should I go with her? I haven't agreed on whether I should go or not, so I can still say yes or no.

Anonymous · Answer

It will turn her on just as much just knowing how you feel about her. If she was just a friend it would definitely be weird. Duuude she is your girlfriend knock yourself out

pleasestopthis · Answer

You already love her, do I don't think you're going to see her as an object. Now... are you a christian? If you're afraid of temptation... that's something else.

sexylilchica · Answer

Don't let your nervousness stop you from having a good time. Even tell her how you feel if you want to. Or try to focus on her face or what she is saying. Or, if you feel comfortable, indulge. Touch her. Feel her soft and smooth skin. Run your fingers through her hair. Hug her back. Kiss her long and sensually.

Dallsimo · Answer

If you can't do basic activities with her, then you won't go anywhere! I was in your situation (tomboy girlfriend, etc...) the more i build her confidence, the more she rewards me by doing things she knows turn me on! I dont see her as an object, i just find her hot and like to see other men find her hot too! ;)

Arctic_Fox · Answer

I don’t see the issue here? Unless you’re going to get a raging boner? It’s okay to objectify her, she’s your girlfriend, you want to have sex with her, that’s all it is.

Amj380 · Answer

Here's what you wanna do. Lie out in the sun the day before to get sunburn then you have an excuse to cake on suncream the next day... The sunburn may also hide your "nervousness" as it will blend in...

Joker8 · Answer

You can't build confidence without experience so go and have fun, don't care for the little details, she sounds like an awesome person so don't lose her by being extra shy/unconfident

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, don't sweat it. In fact you have a different problem. You need to let your girlfriend know that she turns you on like crazy or she'll start to worry somethings wrong with her. So tell her to strap on the bikini and hit the beach with you. And when she hangs on you, don't be afraid to let your boner let her know how much you enjoy it!

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, you sound like a straight fag. Stop being a bitch and fuck this girl, or she will find someone else to fuck her. Who cares if she is touchy? Who cares if she doesn't look "modest" in a swimsuit? Have you ever even seen a naked girl before?

Anonymous · Answer

Are you gonna deprive her of places she enjoys visiting just because you have shallow issues? Be boyfriend material, will ya? You're gonna lose her because of your insecurities.

Guanfei · Answer

Dude, wtf are you, a monk? Go there, and enjoy the view, you lucky bastard. She won't mind, as long as you only enjoy her.

BrianMerritt · Answer

You have it mixed up. Seeing her as an object and finding her sexually attractive are 2 different things. Even when she is fully clothed, your male brain has sexual attraction for her.

Sixgun77 · Answer

Being sexually attracted to your girlfriend is NOT disrespecting or objectifying her. It's how normal human beings function.
Go to the beach, and start ignoring whoever's been feeding you that hogwash.

Maxemeister · Answer

You're allowed to admire her personality AND her body as well

4yourpleasure · Answer

Talk to her about your feelings and your fear of inappropriate reactions. She will like your honesty and help you deal with it.

Siddhesh1101 · Answer

Just talk to her about this. I think that would be the right thing to do.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

Go and have a good time. She's inviting you and she is the one that wants to wear the bikini.  Good grief.

sanguinnia · Answer

Get her to the beach and chill relax dont think about it to much and you wil do just fine

coopersatts · Answer

Show her off to the world. And admire your girl as well.

Johnmiller123 · Answer

Why be nervous about your attraction? Embrace that shit, it makes her feel good about herself.

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