My girlfriend parties every weekend. It bothers me. What do I do? (Page 2)

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So me and my girlfriend have been together ever since October 2017, and when we got together I found out that she smokes and does weed occasionally, and she drinks a lot. She is not an alcoholic (which she claims), but sometimes her alcohol intake even proves and shows that she may be doing it too far. She also does it because her friends do it too, and some even do it way worse and more than her. Pretty much party girls.  Her past is quite traumatizing and became an LDR since May 2018 and I'm in Poland now 'till this day. (We lived nearby each other in the same city in Scotland). I've always supported her and stayed by her side and gave out my opinion without being/sounding toxic or controlling. Or even just open up. She hangs around with people that I used to be friends with, she even kissed my best friends and properly made out with them and and god knows what else, she went to a nightclub and made out with 4 guys also (we aren't friends anymore because she talked about me behind my back to all of her and my friends at parties drunk/high on how I'm "toxic" and "controllive", so all my friends believed that and lost total respect for me and ditched me).  The worst part is, she lied to me how she doesn't do weed anymore and she doesn't smoke, yet she did it all behind my back and even confessed that in March 2018 she bought a full pack of cigarettes. And not just that. Her partying, kissing other girls, drinking, things that we had a deep talk about and came up with a compromise, yet she it did it her way.  I understand that she likes doing it and it may relieve her stress and maybe cheer her up, but she started to do it every weekend now, pretty much on both weekdays, and seeing her hangover and ill, even communicating with her is not the same girl that I fell in love with.  I don't know what to do anymore, whether I should be with her and continue our relationship like this in that cycle of breaking up and getting back together over all of this or break up.

sleepycabin · Answer

Just try to let her down easy and block her from everything. It'll take a while to mov on but you can do it

lezarafe · Answer

go out to a party with her and watch what she does... if it bothered you... than dump her

FatherJack · Answer

SHE IS toxic , she also has major self esteem problems , and will cause you a lot of grief later , so I will advise you , as someone who learnt the hard way when younger , to just dump her... she will NEVER change !!

Anonymous · Answer

break up do not waste your time
I use to have a faze of partying
now I barely party ever

and trust me ITS EASY TO CHEAT
so she is cheating
you will find out soon enough

not trying to bring doubt just being honest

MGTOW

kennajackson · Answer

Talk to her about it, if she's really still the girl you fell in love with then she'll understand, but if she doesn't care it's her loss

sarahhcmarie · Answer

you should break up for sure... she's very inconsiderate and a bitch. thats how it seems.

Anonymous · Answer

Okay when I first saw this title I thought “just let her have fun” after reading the whole story I’d say you need to get out of the relationship. It’s not healthy for you and she seems to be trying to place the blame on all the things she’s done wrong on you rather than admit that she needs help. Unfortunately you can’t help her if she doesn’t want it

OldDad · Answer

Im sorry dude, but it seems like you two have grown apart. She's exploring her wild side, and you are trying to control her. Time to break it off. Find yourself someone more like you.

DollySummers · Answer

Probably put a quits. It kinda seems she could become abusive.

TheFlak38 · Answer

I came here with the intention to give some good advice but your details convinced me not too. Your fault for being a cuck with such a ho.

jimmy2 · Answer

My goodness here what i think... you like the drama stay. You dont like the drama leave

Kenni · Answer

This isn't even up for debate. She's acting and thinking like a kid, dump her.

GenerationZ · Answer

Most young people are dumb like this and lack morals

BasiliskBlack · Answer

Stop being a doormat and break up for good. She has isolated you and clearly has no respect for you. I wouldn't be surprised if she started being abusive and manipulative towards you. That's why she isolated you, to control you better.

Deve77 · Answer

You do nothing. It's her life. If you have a problem with going out with someone who parties that much, find some who doesn't.

usaf2018 · Answer

Dump that bitch. You don't need that shit. Women think they have it bad, but so many of us guys go through this shit. Just leave her. It'll be better for you even if you don't think so right now

jrighter · Answer

Dude ill tell you straight, do not invest yourself anymore. Get over it and done with it

Guanfei · Answer

Break up, there is a huge chance that she get fucked each time she go to a party.

sleeponme · Answer

Your not her type of guy, its toxic overall. Break up.

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monkeynutts · Answer

Drop her like a sack, of brown spuds.

dianasteve · Answer

let her know at the same time change ur mindset if not this relationship won't long last

Muhammad1999 · Answer

why you are even with her man , maybe you need a better girl.

JKEYS77 · Answer

Sounds like you either need to have a serious talk with her or just end it

TSBilliards · Answer

Dude you're 18... live life while you can. I can see where smoking would bother you. If it's a deal breaker then end it.

bubbatxman · Answer

It’s time for a more stable girlfriend.

pitzi · Answer

I wouldn't be with someone like that honestly

CuChullan · Answer

Have some respect for yourself and end it.

Seppelson · Answer

Isn't it great? You are bith young. That's what young people do

Alchemeer · Answer

Ask her out on a date to distract her from partying too much

koala1712 · Answer

What you described there is every reason why you should break up with her

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly break up i dealt with this personally and the best choice was just to break up cause she was pretty petty about it and blamed all the negative shit on me

Phen117 · Answer

Just let her be her. Dont hold her back from doing things she wants.

rukzark · Answer

Dude do you have reasons to not trust her? If you have leave her or go to some partys too

Firefox94 · Answer

Sack her off pal, you can do better

Anonymous · Answer

Get a girlfriend in Poland. You are living a fantasy in a LDR.

kaskas19 · Answer

The answer is obvious. Dump her dumbass.

anutookarieskkru · Answer

Find a girlfriend that doesn't party

FakeName123 · Answer

Red flags. Red flags everywhere.

WhitePanther88 · Answer

Dump her and move on.

StarDust_xo · Answer

Break up with her.

marilynmansonssextoy · Answer

Suck it up. xx ~ Mrs Manson

TonyBologna25 · Answer

Dude you gotta leave her.

Volvagia · Answer

if it's a deal breaker for you then leave

Anonymous · Answer

Get a new girlfriend...

Deukalion · Answer

Do she knows that she is your GF?

LegateLanius · Answer

End it.

PrettyRegular · Answer

Talk to her. It's good that she has fun tho.

CT_CD · Answer

Break up with her. You deserve the

dontgofalling · Answer

Have a romantic night with her

zvaklinov · Answer

Bro, she is not worth wife material. Just dump her

Anonymous · Answer

you need to leave her and start moving on

NikkiMelan · Answer

Party with her :):):):)

whatizdiz · Answer

You should tell her to go to hell

John1999 · Answer

Tell her you believe in her with all your heart

yonimassage · Answer

She's probably depressed

NovissimumVirorum · Answer

Get rid of her

Wowgirl10q · Answer

Except it or move on

rozalily · Answer

Break up

yousifsaab · Answer

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