Should I worry if my boyfriend follows and likes other girls posts on insta?

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Tet01 · Accepted Answer

It depends. Does he have other suspicious behaviour patterns? Does he have too many girl "friends"? (If you get what I mean.) Does he hide his phone screen whenever he uses it? Is he lustful? (Don't answer this, just analyse yourself)
I've noticed guys who have a habit of posting other girls' pictures and barely posting yours, if any, are most likely to be players. If he only likes a certain type of pictures too (explicit and dating ones), you should think it through. There is nothing wrong with liking pictures online, but if that was covers his newsfeed, I think it's time you have a talk with him.

AuroraRoseat · Accepted Answer

I don't think you should worry but I do find it disrespectful. Just like people who advocate rubbernecking: it doesn't matter if he's just looking, he's with you and looking at someone else. It's disrespectful, no matter if he still "chooses" you.

I wouldn't worry but I can understand how you wouldn't like it.

ElissaIsBelgian · Accepted Answer

No, if you want to keep him, then give him some freedom. If you stalk people and try to control them, you push them away. The more you control him, the more likely he is to cheat on you in hope to find a girl who is more tolerant than you. He is your love, not your prisoner. Give him space to take a breath!

SjE78 · Accepted Answer

no, if he decides to take it to the next level and meet them or exchange private explicit messages then I would be concerned...

but liking pictures or posts of any one else is nothing to worry about

but if you become offended and become possessive or what seems like being possessive or controlling about the matter then it could drive him away...
also if teh roles were reversed and you liked a few images or posts of guys on any social media, would you expect him to react concerned? or would you expect him to just express your own tastes that you liked that image...

qwert1234 · Accepted Answer

No.

Let's be brutally honest.
You're not the only girl who is beautiful for him.
You're not the only girl who is sexy for him.
He will have other crushes.

But then again, who is he staying with? Who did he chose? You.
So drop the insecurity bubble, and be confident that you have him. Be confident that despite tons of women out there, he chose you. Act normally. Give it your best in your relationship.

If the time comes he leaves you - you can proudly say you did everything you can for him, and that it's his loss, not yours.
BE CONFIDENT.

SelfishGuy · Answer

If it's a huge mass of girls then the answers is "No", because... hey like it or not we men like beautiful girls, anyone says otherwise is either lying or has a different in sexual orientation, but obviously we usually settle down with the one we find the best, believe me beauty strikes us at first but it's the inner beauty that will stuck with us for the rest of our life, physical beauty is temporary. It wanes with time. We want the girl we love to be fun, playful, independent, caring and love them more if they share our common interests.
Anyways I get carried away all the time... don't mind me.
But if you find him following one particular chick... there's one red flag over there.

DonnieB003 · Answer

I think it depends on bow much attention he pays to Instagram vs. How much attention he pays to you. If he's spending more time on insta following other women and liking their pictures than he is spending time with you, then that might be a red flag. Before jumping to conclusions though you should try and have a talk with him and let him know your concerns. Be nice though. Men respond to a combative woman by being even more combative, so if you come across as pissed off or irritated as soon as you try and talk to him, he'll probably bite back, or sgut down, and you won't get anywhere. Hope this helps.

steveguitar · Answer

If he is following models than no. it might say public figure in their profile. if it's some local girl or in the same province or state, and it says her location is close to where he lives or is driveable in a day, then maybe. Ask him if he knows the girls that concern you, try to see if you can see their pics, maybe he's making comments or whatever.

It really depends what the girls do, and if they are public figures or local ordinary people. If the girls are taking sexy pics and posting them, you might be concerned. But you can't really get mad at a guy for seeing another girl as attractive or whatever, I can't remember how many times I would watch a movie with my family and my mother would say, "that actor is so good looking" or something like that

alistee · Answer

depends on what they're posting and what he likes...
e. g - if he likes only bikini girls pics, i'd not be ok with that.
but if they're his friends and/or he likes other stuff they're posting - then i think it's fine.

Jackieboi · Answer

Tricky question but at least you know for sure if theyre really hot. Depends on where his interest lie. If he's liking tje pics of some gal thats posting pics about a shared interest you should be fine for now. But if he's just liking their posing pics its kinda a red flag no matter what he says

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. Unless you can connect the dots to him cheating, and you have solid evidence of infidelity... who gives two fucks.
If anything, have a family member keep tabs.
I spent so much time worrying about cheating, likes, follows, etc... I still am trying to untie the knots in my stomach.
Don’t live your life like that.
Please. Just choose to be happy. Even if it means being alone, or distance from him.

Piteka5 · Answer

Don't be paranoid with that, a female friend of mine has some more than 5 boyfriend by watching recently what they do online, following the girls they follow to spy on them, and to control them in real life too, not only digital.
It's and extreme case but it shows what can happen. If they decided to be with you instead of anyone else, why would they change?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. If he respects you, he wouldn’t, even if he thinks another girl so attractive. All the guys defending it obviously do it themselves and make their girls feel bad. It’s plain and simple - he wouldn’t if he respected you. It’s sugarcoated disrespect.

JulieXO · Answer

No. My boyfriend follows loads of girls on instagram, and he likes their photos too. It means absolutely nothing.

lustfordakota · Answer

A little. It depends on who they are to him. If you know they're his friends then It's not a big deal but If they're just random girls that seems sketchy

Salmon4056 · Answer

Depends on what type if post he's liking and what he's looking at

Anonymous · Answer

Do u follow other guys and like other guys posts on insta, what kind of question is that.

Anonymous · Answer

If it's one specific girl than maybe but if it is a lot of different girls than no don' worry. Guys are guys and they find women attractive so what.

Freiburger · Answer

Not necessarily - it would depend on who he is following and for what reason. I follow a lot of girls that I know on IG, and any likes are just me being friendly. Only date people that you can trust.

simi_esterhuizen · Answer

My personal opinion, is yeah you should be worried... Well I'm a very jealous person, so I get jealous really really quickly, so I would be worried. ♥♥

AnotherMolly · Answer

Naw. Don't be a crazy bitch like me... Let him have his own life on social media. . But if he never post pics of y'all or likes ur pics then... I'd drop him. If he starts hiding things.. drop him

daynamariex · Answer

If he's liking selfies, then yes. Otherwise, obviously if it's a pic of her breakfast or whatever, not so much.

pumaOH24 · Answer

Isn’t that what you are supposed to do on there? I would worry about it too much unless he starts commenting on them in a certain way too

Aalena · Answer

I would say no unless he's obsessing like commenting on every post and going and liking very old photos

Malita55 · Answer

No, but you should worry if he is commenting on them something flirtatious or following pages that are just partially nude girls

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

Nah. Its not like he have a chance in real life with those insta models (#thots actually)

Aenetoo · Answer

I wouldn't let it be a deal breaker. Like someone else on here said, guys are guys. They find women attractive. You may as well ask if he looks at a pretty girl at the mall, should you leave him.

DoctorSex · Answer

Yes you should worry. It shows where his attention is placed. He is still in fuckboy land

humptydumpty01 · Answer

I don't think so Why don't you tell him how you feel? Maybe he'll clear your misunderstandings if any

SarahsSummer · Answer

No. There are more relevant things to be insecure about.

TrixiePooch · Answer

Seriously? What do you think? Are you really that clueless?

Iron_Man · Answer

That sucks and I certainly wouldn't want a girlfriend like that that's for sure. You might want to think about finding a good decent boyfriend for yourself

ATuairiscean · Answer

What are your feelings - Do you not like it? - Then say it, it is your feelings that are important

ninjafemme · Answer

No his just using Instagram don't be a psycho who tries to be the only girl in the world.

Groundhog-decade · Answer

What girls? Like an ex? Some chic he said he was 'friends' will h in highschool, college?

shinobi1451 · Answer

If you like other boys photos then you can't be mad at him for doing the same.

fabrikant · Answer

Nope. You just will make you and him mad. To have him not to look at other girls you would have to kill them all. Or just live with it. That will be like all the time. So the answer is no. He with you and that's it. Period.

schuka25 · Answer

look and see if the girls are petty if they are yes if they are not then no

JoshOhMyGosh · Answer

No you should trust him and not follow everything he does, doing this and showing him that you trust him will earn his respect and he'll open up with you

Bianca914 · Answer

I think that's shady, it says a lot about his personality. I wouldn't trust him

Ky4526 · Answer

Depends on who they are. Might be awkward if you get upset and it turns to be his cousin or sister

DaMack999 · Answer

Nope social life his privacy why are you invading his privacy who is following or likes on Insta or FB.

Yasin26 · Answer

depends... how much time he checks her profile or comment or do double tap on her posts. it it happens frequently... its a matter to worry

CaptainLegal · Answer

No, should he be worried when you like other men's photos?

TheDetatchedObserver · Answer

No. If you can't trust the man you need to rethink your relationship.

tbhiwannasleep · Answer

No, it’s if he spans them with likes, and possibly comments stuff like “😍😍” “❤️” then fuck yeah

Fifan99 · Answer

I do the same thing but I only follow People I know personally. I can't tell if it's ok or not. You have to find out by yourself.

_hottchocolatee · Answer

It’s okay as long as he isn’t commenting on their photos then it’s fine.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing to worry. its pretty normal for guys to do that.

Anonymous · Answer

No because that’s what a normal guy does. Just because you guys are in a relationship doesn’t mean he can’t simply like a picture. If he wants you, it shouldn’t matter if he liked Becky’s picture.

JP_Man · Answer

Of course not. This is nothing and honestly do you have sex with everyone that likes your ig pictures?

broken_machine04 · Answer

I would so no, especially if he follows these girls and knows them personally. Just watch out for sketchy behavior and ull be good

joshctlee · Answer

Well are they messaging and flirting back and forth? If not then I would be okay with it

Kriswizzl3 · Answer

Not at all. He's with you so don't worry 😁

Anonymous · Answer

This is my personal experience I am sharing with you. There is nothing called love. Its just a state of mind.

Seppelson · Answer

I think he do like everyone does. That's what instagram is made for

Riyam10 · Answer

you better think that what makes your boyfriend loves you only. dont give a shit about other

damo0404 · Answer

Nope not until he starts saying he loves them and what not

Mohamedmo · Answer

Yes if he know one or more of those girls. You can speak with him nicely to resolve that.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm so many insecure girls there. As if likes are everything.

Somerandongager · Answer

Yah that’s being a bit too insecure and jealous

Logorithim · Answer

No, not at all

neurolove · Answer

I'd worry that he's even on it.

Drener · Answer

Yes u should be worried

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