I think I made a huge mistake moving in with my boyfriend, what should I do? (Page 2)

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We've been together for 3 years. So we made a big step and moved in together 8 months ago. At first it was great... but then I started feeling suffocated. I lived by myself even since college and I guess I got used to it. I really loved it. I guess the reason why I loved spending a lot of inseparable days with my boyfriend is because I knew that I always have my own home that I can return to whenever I want. Now that we live together at his apartment, it still doesn't feel like MY home. I feel like my personal space is invaded and I have no room to just be alone and think. I can't think around him, my thoughts are always interrupted with him being in the same room. I just can't be 100% myself. He is very respectful of my personal space, he doesn't nag me or pay a lot of attention to me, he does his own thing and I really love him for it. I know it's not him, it's me. We work same hours and he usually comes home from work a little earlier then me, so he's pretty much there all the time. He goes to gym but that's like only an hour of alone time, and he's not the most sociable person, he doesn't go out much. So I started doing something that I feel very guilty about. Since I still have my own apartment, I sometimes lie to him that I will work some extra hours and then go to my place after work. I know this is terrible! But I sometimes miss coming home from work to nothing and to no one. Especially if I'm tired and in the bad mood, I like just chilling by myself at my place. I do a little clean up, make coffee, read a book or something, play music, play a video game, basically all the things I love doing the most when no ones around. Then I go back to him happier. Last week I told him I'm going to a business trip for the weekend and I was actually at my place for the whole weekend, totally alone. I know this is wrong and I have to find the solution. I don't want to break up with him but I don't think I like living with anyone. I don't know what to do... Help?

milanil · Answer

move out...

I think I made a huge mistake moving in with my boyfriend, what should I do? (Page 2)

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