What does it mean if a guy says he loves you but you're not dating?

[Anonymous]

Why would a guy say something like this if you were not even dating yet? I kinda like him too!

[rdr005]

It could mean he really likes you, as others have said. Depending on the personality trait... such as if he seems to be a generally out-going guy, and how he says it (I.E. "I love you", "Love ya", or just plain, "Love! Ciao") that it could be a very casual sense of the word. I've got friends even in college that when I make a joke or something to make them smile, they'll say, "Haha, Ramon I love you!" and I'll smile back and be all like, "Love ya too!" and then do the heart shape on my chest with my fingers. We know we don't mean it like, bf-gf; but we have that kind of friendship.

It could also mean he just wants sex, lol, just saying, but just being honest. Since you didn't give us any info on the guy I can't give you a personal opinion on how I think he meant it, but you know him so its your judgement call. Hangout with him and see how he's like. If you're still completely confused, and you don't really want to date him, avoid saying it back to him, but smile. If you don't mind dating him, there's no harm in saying it back casually. Have fun.

[Asker]

yeah he does mention a lot of sexual stuff and I don't really like it, I told him I felt awkard and he say's I'm not trying to make you feel awkward I'm trying to make you feel good in a nice sexual way! I don't know what to do cause he's pretty rough and I'm kinda scared to tell him

[rdr005]

Tell him to make you feel good in a nice non-sexual way! :D He doesn't have to be sexual to make a compliment.

[Cascade]

At the age you are at, that probably just means he really really likes you. He probably isn't really sure what love is, but he knows that he does really like you and just thinks that is the same thing as love because he doesn't know any better. If you really like him, then just ask him out or to hang out sometime. Beware however if you averse to clingy guys ect, because it sounds like he would probably be the type to be a little overbearing with feelings and wanting to kiss/cuddle ect all the time.

[JennyInLove]

wrong. there's no age to love. I'm 15 and I'm pretty sure what love is. Love is knowing someone and loving their defects as much as their virtues, caring about them and their happiness as much or more than you care about yours, because his happiness is yours. Love is maturity, and you don't have to be an old man to have it. You just get to love more as time passes.

[Cascade]

I never said that love isn't possible at a young age I was merely stating that, he was probably confusing with really liking for a simple reason. That reason being that you have to be with someone already to truly love them, otherwise it is infatuation. You can't be in love if you don't even know how that person would treat you in a relationship, falling in love is a process that happens between two people, and how they make each other feel not a one sided thing based on speculation

[Asker]

Thank's this is great advice thank you! :)

[Cascade]

No problem, but hawaiianbeautyxo is correct about the context thing, some guys will say it as just a friendship thing, if you did something nice for them and he was thanking you ect. but say if he smiles all the time when he's around you, or if it seems like he was a little nervous when he told you that, or if you catch him glancing at you a lot, he probably likes you

[Asker]

aww thanks he texted me it out of no were

[rdr005]

@JennyInLove, girls are apparently 3 years ahead of us guys. I doubt a "12 year old boy" in reference to 15, would know what love really is :-P

[aidsleen]

this is easily the best answer

[Guile]

@ JennyInLove, trust me in 5 years from now you'll look at your response and laugh at yourself... It's not just that (ur belief of love), experience in life is just as much needed :-)

As for the guy and an answer to your question, he has no clue what love is. Either way, he is totally into you but don't look too much into boys saying they love you we usually don't mean it.

[ginny]

You seem like a smart girl. My Opinion s that you represent his ideal of someone he holds in high regard. You are someone who he feels attracted to, effected by in a positive way, & he wants you to know that you are very special to him. It is an honor when I guy tells you that he loves you. You must be very lovable.

I don't expect you to answer, but here are a few questions for you: Did it make you feel creepy when he said the 'L' word? What are some things about Your ideal guy & how he treats you (I think you should write them down)? Do you think he is someone who fits your ideal?

I really agree with what Cascade told you. He knows what it is like to be a guy!

In fact he has inspired me to make a suggestion to you, if I may? I think you should create a post to Men who are over the age of 20 & ask 'em what love is to them now & how it is different from when they were under 18 y/o.

[hawaiianbeautyxo]

Well it depends on the context in which he said it... if he was like man I love you your the best but you did a favor for him he's basically thanking you and he thinks highly of you. If he hasn't mentioned that he has a romantic interest in you but says I love you he could mean he really cares about you as a friend. Lastly, it could just mean that he really really likes you but I wouldn't read too much into it unless he's made some kind of indication that he wants to date you, if he hasn't then let him know you like him if it doesn't work out that's okay too. sometimes things that aren't meant to be set up the things that are. I hope that helps!

[Arwens-Fire]

It's seems as though that might be his way of ezpressing that he likes you.But instead he is using the "L" word for it...

[dkong23]

my personal experiences have taught me that the things have more substance and meaning to them, and really are greater all around in the long run when they take time and energy to come about. just because you think a guy telling you he "loves you" like they do on abc family or whatever of the bat would give you this emotional rush and instant gratification, chances are, there's nothing but lust behind that statement, and really when you think about it , its all down hill from there, I would rather a girl develop a deep rooted love for me overtime than meet me and five seconds later be thinking I'm her soul mate or whatever, cause chances are if falling in love is that easy for someone, falling out of love or in love with someone else could be pretty easy too

good things come to those who wait

patience grasshopper

[Daunyel]

That's a good question? When he says it again, ask him what is it that makes you love me? Or ask him what his meaning of Love is? Then you can see if it is close to the definition you have of that same word. It could be that you two have two different meaning of the word Love and what is expected when one loves a person.

Sincerely

Old School D

[inadvertant]

I've said the term "love" when I shouldn't have in the past. Even now, with this one girl I just want to say it from time to time (I feel a bit like Ted Mosby from How I Met Your Mother). It's an over glorification of the word and a confusion of his emotions. He's not trying to hurt you, he just wants you to know he cares, on some level at least, about you. Just try not to confuse love and lust when you think about him, as they are easily mistaken for one another.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't love you. You aren't dating and you haven't spend nearly enough time together. You're young, so you're just infatuated with each other, or the idea of each other.

[Opinion Owner]

haven't spent*

[Just2DangNice]

Love is a word. what important is what it represents. you don't have to be togther to "love" someone.

[TheCheshireCat]

He either wants to start dating or sleep with you. It has to be one of the two, unless he's a player & just likes to string women along.

[Anonymous]

Probably he really does love you but there could be some barrier that's holding him back or he could be playing around with you. You'll need to give more info about his characteristics for everyone to give you advice.

[Thatguy321]

That voids the i love you... Just kidding he loves you..

[lisaboo]

he might really like you I went through the same thing a guy told me he loved me and we were not even dating at the time, he just keep saying I love you to me. he ended up asking me out a week after my ex boyfriend broke up with me.

[ST_Hero]

Maybe he wants to be with you, but he isn't sure if you like him too.

[NothingLastsForever]

you expect people to know just from that?

[Anonymous]

He probably really likes you a lot