Why do people (mostly girls) claim that the "friend zone" doesn't exist when there is ample evidence that it does?

[Anonymous]

[SweetDisaster]

Who ever say that is full of BS I have a friend who has like me like me for so many years and I always put him in the Friend zone. So YES friend zone EXIST😁✌

[linaashxx]

Bullshit. It exists.

[ThirtyEight]

I've personally found after being rejected by women who say they want to be 'friends' they never have any intention of actually being 'friends'.

[Asker]

Me too! I think that is the case most of the time!

[Anonymous]

I guess they think it’s a valid excuse when they reject someone. I have had women put me there and play with my emotions

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It depends on how you see it.
To me it was just rejecting a girl I didn't like romantically, to her it was me being an assh*le and friendzoning her.

[Chikky]

It does exist but you've to really get the tip that she doesn't like you in the beginning before it leads to this

[luvstoned4him]

I dont believe in it. I mean sure its humiliating. You putting yourself, your feelings and your ego on the line for this one girl who may or may not like u back. Thats why they say dont put all your eggs in one basket. However, if you get friendzoned, at least you are still in her life... as a friend but that just means that by her letting you down, you are on your way to meeting your soul mate or girl of your dreams.

I've matured to the point where whenever I lose something now, I just look at it as it wasn't meant to be and there is something else better or the right thing for me is yet to come. This goes for love, jobs and friends. Positive thinking.

[Browneye57]

Of course it exists. It's simply where a girl puts a guys she likes well enough to have around but no interest in romance or sex with him.

If they deny it exists they just don't understand what it is.

Remember, that female brain runs on feelings and emotion. There's not much basis in logic or fact. And even if you can prove a point on logic or fact she'll turn around and tell you it's just how she FEELS! And those feelings are subject to change, AT ANY MOMENT! Just ask them! IT's their god-given right to do so - JUST ASK THEM! LOL

[MascGirls]

It exists! Of course there are going to be women who don't want to fuck you, but are still interested in your friendly company. What people are saying when they say that it doesn't exist is that it's silly it is a titled concept and that it has such a negative connotation.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

This one time, a girl I knew wanted me to go to a bar with her and her "best friend". Turns out, it was a dude. While we're at the bar and doing something else, he starts telling me all about how he used to like her but they came to an "understanding" and now they're just best friends.

I was like "oh noes this sounds really heart wrenchingly pathetic". Sometimes I still think about all the depraved shit she let me to do her while that dude was hanging on, making do with being BFF's. I'd say the Friend Zone is totally real, and it's brutal.

[Kkaos]

FFS, if you're in the friendzone, you're not their friend, you're just pretending to be their friend in hopes you'll somehow magically move into a relationship or get laid.

The guy in that picture is joke. He looks like a kid, a stereotypical 'nice guy', I bet he's never once put his dick on the line and actually been assertive and made his intentions clear with a girl... He resorts to making pathetic little hints like 'we look like a couple'... But not even that, he's insecure about even saying that so he has to put an over the top 'hahahaha'... Dude, what you've just said isn't that funny, you're just showing your nervousness and insecurity here...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIYnQH9-bis

[Gothd011]

I think it does exist. I just don't focus on it too much on that zone. If you like someone tell them. if you can not deal with just being friends then walk away. Why go through the wasteful emotions

it makes it easier for the whole party. That way there no confusion. I got plenty of male friends I hang out with weekly and there no romance or anything involve we talk about crushes and who they like or their girlfriend issues. It keeps it normal.

[Anonymous]

The friend zone exists, it’s just that most guys make a big deal out of it and portray the friend zone as this horrible place to be. Girls are not obligated to date anyone who is kind to them. Unfortunately, sometimes things just don’t click and the girl just doesn’t want to date the guy, but she still appreciates the bond between them and would like to keep him in her life as her friend. Romantic attraction is a complicated thing, and sometimes girls just aren’t going to want to date you. But if you accept your place in the friend zone, instead of acting bitter about being rejected, then you could build a quality friendship. Having a girl friend can be really great. You could have a cool friend that can introduce you to other girls and can give you advice from a girl’s point of view.

[SuzyB]

Girls aren't always attracted to men that are attracted to them and visa versa. If a man doesn't find a girl attractive he will just avoid her, not talk to her etc. But a girl will most likely try be friends with the guy due to his personality and that just tends to upset men.

[Anonymous]

Because a friend zone for girls are the back of guys in case their main guy dumps in for some reason so they have someone to buy them stuff and to worship them to make them feel good. So of course the vast majority of females will never admit to this

[AmourHoney]

Or because they’re not attracted to them that way? Jeez.

[Asker]

@AmourHoney So, you admit that the "friend zone" does exist?

[AmourHoney]

Yes it exists.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes not attractive to them they're just back up guys for when the guys are actually attracted to don't want to be with them.

[Asker]

@AmourHoney Thanks for verifying!

[AmourHoney]

Why would they want to use someone they’re not attracted to as a back up? Where’s the logic? Why can’t some guys just accept the fact that a girl is not romantically attracted to them and move on without accusing her of using him as a back up? What’s so hard about it?

[AmourHoney]

It’s the whole reason the friend zone exists, if they were a back up they wouldn’t be in the friend zone. That’s why so many guys make memes about how once you’re in the friend zone you’re never getting out lmao.

[Opinion Owner]

Because who else is going to buy them stuff and take them places and listen to all their bitching and treat them like a princess.

And guys do do that by just not talking to the bitch anymore if she's not riding your dick don't give her the time of day

[Asker]

@AmourHoney Rebound dating is a thing. Sometimes people just date you to make someone else jealous... or for some other unsavory reason...

[Opinion Owner]

And it's hard to get out because like I said you're not what they're looking for you're just a backup so as long as they can find someone who meets the requirements better than you will never pick you.

Do you not understand the concept of having a backup of something? Yes you may never use it but you have it there in case you need it

[Asker]

Are you speaking from personal experience?

[AmourHoney]

Rebound dating and friend zone aren’t the same thing. Don’t be so bitter, not all girls expect that from their guy. I had a guy leech off of me and take money from me.

[Opinion Owner]

Me myself I just treat all women like bitches they love it. women are just gold diggers so many girls start hating on me soon as they see my car I drive over $100,000 Mercedes Benz

Like if I'm getting drive-thru and it's a female taking the order or giving me the food like at Chick-fil-A is a high chance they're going to start flirting with me very easy to get females that program she want someone who can take care of them

[AmourHoney]

That’s funny since my ex spent all of my money, leeched off of everything I had, I paid for almost everything for him, he never spent his own money. So I could say exactly the same thing about men.

[Opinion Owner]

And exactly how much money could a 20 year old have a few dollars a month laughable just look at Jeff Bezos wife got billions for just being married to someone.

[AmourHoney]

I make £600 a month. So try again.

[Opinion Owner]

And you think 600 is a month is a lot of money that's cute. I had dinners that cost more than that

[AmourHoney]

For someone my age it’s a lot. He also went to my dying aunties house and asked for money claiming it was for me. So it works both ways.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes because most people your age are just living off their parents so you have a very very low bar doesn't change what I'm saying

[AmourHoney]

Doesn’t change anything. He still used my money and expected me to pay for things for him, he still tricked an elderly woman into giving him money.

[ciitruskiwi]

@asker I'm sorry it is so baffling to your little tiny narrow mind that some women actually make their own money and don't use their man's money. I'm also one of those women and I make more than my boyfriend does. We aren't all gold diggers. Some of us prefer to buy things we want ourselves.

[ciitruskiwi]

Oops, I meant @Opinion owner not @asker

[AmourHoney]

He’s not worth it. Let him go back to the ‘many bitches’ he gets, I’m sure he’ll tell them about how he’s a victim over their £600 dinner date 😂😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

Yes maybe a small percentage of women are not but statistically most are.

You're pretty much saying you're right 80% the time but because there's a minority up 20% you're always wrong. The fact is I'm right the vast majority of the time of course there's always going to be exceptions but if you act the way I say the vast majority of time you'll come out on top

[Asker]

@AmourHoney I think you meant this for the "Opinion Owner"... not bitterness here. Just seeking answers.

[AmourHoney]

Just give it a rest and grow up.

[AmourHoney]

Yes that was for the opinion owner, not you ☺️

[Asker]

@ciitruskiwi Thanks for clarifying!

[Opinion Owner]

I did grow up I just treat women like the bitches they are.

[Asker]

@AmourHoney Thank you! 😊

[ciitruskiwi]

@Opinion owner no shit dude, notice how I said SOME women. Yeah it's not every women and some are gold diggers but some aren't so when a woman does tell you that she isn't a gold digger and prefers to make her own money or more money there's no point in trying to tell her that she's wrong now is there? You're basically saying that you know her better than she knows herself. You realize how stupid that sounds?

[ciitruskiwi]

@asker no problem 🙂

[Opinion Owner]

It's not some it's the vast majority and I never said it's wrong for them to make their own money. And if you look at spending Trends women spend more money than they earn by a lot. So it's the women telling the men how to spend their money.

[AmourHoney]

You have the mindset of a butt hurt 13 year old at 30 something, you haven’t grown up at all and I can honestly feel myself losing brain cells just talking to you so I’m gonna say goodbye.

[Opinion Owner]

Tell that Jeff Bezos who lost half his money to some gold-digging bitch. The fact is I'm correct

[AmourHoney]

The fact is you’re childish and need to grow up a little more thinking you know what every woman’s intentions are like the FACT that you even THINK you know just proves to me how damn childish you are, I suggest ya stop talking because you’re really not doing yourself any favours, sat there 30 years old on anonymous talking about how all women want is your money boy you WISH they want you for your money. Get out of ya little fantasy land, grow up and get a life. I am questioning whether or not you actually are in your 30’s because that’s some babyish mindset you got going on there

[Opinion Owner]

Again I'm not saying all I'm saying the vast majority hopefully you're in the minority.

And really women just want money tons of studies in statistics prove this just look at the marriage rate more money a man has more likely he is to be married.

All the info is on this site. With links to the Articles and data but of course you're just going to act like it's all false.

www.Realsexism.Com

[AmourHoney]

Because it’s all bullshit for gods sake, it’s 2019 bro, there are MILLIONS of women that make their own money and have well paid jobs. Please remove yourself from this toxic mindset you going on because it really isn’t gonna benefit you or your future relationships.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes Millions out of a population in the billions a small percentage

[AmourHoney]

Whatever dude

[bill_towers]

"The friendzone" is a tool to women using the mans ressources to her benefit without offering anything in exchange.

Ressources can be time, company, Money, Attention and his personal or profession related skills.

It's low effort with high Profit. Opportunism.

[TotoCow]

Yeah, it does exist. Put a girl on the friendzone simply because I don't wanna date her and just wanna be friends. You don't feel anything for them just like how you don't feel anything for your cousin, mom, sister, etc but they are such good friends that you don't wanna lose them.

Maybe that was a bad comparison... But you get the gist lol

[Mexicoman101]

I don’t know, I guess they just don’t enjoy the stigma attached to doing that to men they like and respect. Tbf there is stigma there, and I don’t necessarily agree with it. Like you shouldn’t be shamed for not being attracted to a friend of yours. I do kind of question the wisdom of keeping a friend around who you know wants to jump your bones on a pragmatic basis but hey, people get to choose.

[janna_jcb]

It exists, but it is not as terrible to be in as it may seem. When I friendzone someone I think they’re a nice person to be around (quite often I didn’t even know they liked me) and I don’t write them off as relationship material, they’re still in the dating pool

[ChiTown33]

Traslation: She's not interested, she'll never be interested. But she want's you around because 1. she like the ego boost. and 2. She likes the possibility of a fallback should the need arise.

[PsychoKiller]

@ChiTown33 <- this man speaks the truth, listen to him

[janna_jcb]

No that’s just wrong. I only like to be around people who I genuinely like, there have been plenty of people who liked me, but with whom I never became friends because we simply didn’t click like that. And if I would keep them around for a fallback I would have dated one of them now, and I still haven’t.
You’re probably not going to listen to what I say anyways, I feel sorry for you that you have such a grim view on this

[mrs-turner97]

Men won’t change on that. That’s just facts lol no matter how many girls speak what you speak they won’t listen it’s like talking to a brick wall. And I have dated a person I just wanted to be friends with and it blew up and now guess what I have another ex added to the list and lost a friend. Girls don’t want to risk losing a good guy friend so we don’t date a guy we friend zoned not because we think they aren’t good enough it’s just good guy friends are hard to come by

[ChiTown33]

No need to feel sorry for me @Janna_jcb I've seen you and @mrs-turner97 's types throughout my life. I've just learned to steer clear of your types. I won't judge you 2 too harshly because you're young and many women are like this when they're young and they grow out of it. It's just youth and insecurity but some women never lose it. And they use guy after guy trying to feel some emptiness inside them. I actually feel sorry for you girls. But i feel sorry for the guys you F*** up along the way feeding your ego at their expense that's all.
I'm sorry you'r insecure but they don't deserve that.

[ChiTown33]

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[janna_jcb]

Honey, you don’t know me so you have no idea how I treat people. And you can go ask any of the guys that I’ve ‘friendzoned’ and they will tell you I don’t use them in any way. And even though you say there’s no need to, I still feel sorry for you because being as bitter as you are must be horrible

[ChiTown33]

Why not just type "i know you are but what am i" it's so much shorter. I also like you use of the word "honey" pathetic attempt to elevate yourself in some way. I don't need to know you. You told m who you are with your response to the question. You don't know me. Why would i be bitter. I would be bitter if i actually had a woman of you ilk in my life. i don't and for that i' thankful. I could care less what you think my only motivation for responding you your initial response was some poor guy might actually read your opinion and foolishly believe you. :)

[mrs-turner97]

You here this mf dude I been married for two years feeling insecurities I don’t have any I don't know what kind you think we trying to feel and by what just because we don’t sometimes date our guy friends I mean really just because we don’t give y’all a butt hurt asses a chance you think it’s to fill some vowed guys and girls can just be friends sometimes you know also I tried the boyfriend thing with two of my guy friends and guess what it messed up and you know what I still had them wanting to get back with me and was begging me not to get married and wanted to fix what happened so I don’t think they was fucked up to bad it’s me that got fucked up. What you think I did go around teasing guys acting like i wanted them then went and done a guy I didn’t know sorry you mistaken i was blunt truthful and was hard and they still wanted me I guess because when they had girl issues I’d help them and when I told them how it was gonna go down and they wouldn’t listen they got hurt cause the bitch messed up. So go fuck your slelf also I’m sure your poor little ass probably got hurt because some girl never gave you a chance is why you acting so dumb if a guy can’t get a feel of a girl and know it probably ain’t gonna happen don’t blame us y’all the dumbasses that stuck around and got hurt especially if we made it clear that we don’t want to date we just want a friend. Not our fault y’all boys don’t know how to cut loses of you can’t be happy just being friends. I swear like little babies when y’all can't fuck a girl y’all like becuase she ain’t interested then you call us little whores of floosys or users if we date some other person and not you. So until you know us personally don’t just assume shit. And also yes I was a ass sometimes I made mistakes but I told them upfront If I make out with them or something why I’m doing it and it’s only ex’s I did that with and they the ones that started junk so if they was gonna be dumb and beg I was gonna be upfront about my intentions

[janna_jcb]

I used honey because I feel sorry for you, but judging your reaction I guess you’re just a lost cause. For your information: it is not a crime to not want to date someone and only want to be friends with them, and it is certainly not because of insecurities, it is because I’m able to genuinely like people without feeling any physical attraction towards them. Oh and I said you’re bitter because apparently you think the only reason girls would want to be friends with a guys is to use them to be able to deal with their insecurities

[ChiTown33]

tell ya what sweetie no one is suggesting a girl can't just want a guy as a friend I've got plenty of them. it's comical to me though the fact that you get so annoyed at someone seeing through your thinly veiled charade. Let me spell it out for you since you seem to have trouble comprehending. Guys generally are not subtle when they like a woman. Unless she's retarded (it's possible you might be sorry if you are) she's going to nip it the bud by telling him sorry i'm flattered but not interested. If she doesn't it's clearly because she likes the attention and thinks only of herself. Don't get me wrong it's good the guy never ends up with her because the guy would really lose then.

[ChiTown33]

@mrs-turner97 Clearly with that mouth he ended up with a gem. I saw your profile, he does look like a pretty sad sack i hope your divorce isn't too brutal on him. Tell him i said it isn't his fault. just don't make the same mistake again. learn from it.

[janna_jcb]

I told all the guys that I’ve friendzoned that I don’t like them like that, and I’m still friends with them. I would never let someone hang that’s just cruel. I’m always clear about how I feel. So what am I doing for attention?

[jessture]

The friendzone is a made up concept by whiny men who got rejected and think they don't deserve rejection because they were nice, but they stick around with the woman wanting more even though it will never happen.

My way of handling it is simple, if a woman I like rejects me, I respect her wishes and I move on with life. I don't hang around wallowing in my own feces, I work towards the next woman I'm interested in.

[worldscolide]

It exists, I've just never been put In it..

When a woman says "let's just be friends" i respond by saying "sorry not interested in friends, it's like a cancelation prize" i break contact and ignore them, treat them like they dont exist.. almost every single time that has happened that he attempted to come back saying what a huge mistake they made..

My only response "please learn to take responsibility for your actions and accept the consequences of your actions" and I vanish again..

[worldscolide]

They not he.. ugh.. its supposed to say they attempted to come back.

[Anonymous]

Because women leverage the friend zone. They know that he has a crush on them but the FZ gives the guy "hope" she will see their inner worth. Truth is she will never consider you for sex but if she let that be known then he would no longer be interested in being her emotional tampon

[isweatergawd]

They dont want to hurt the person nor date the person. Either because they are saving themselves for the right one, u might not be their type , or they seen other people in relationships or had a bad relationship and dont wanna commit. Its there they just dont want to make into. Most people just want sex. Its better to be friends first than to rush

[mrs-turner97]

It does exist I don't know any girl who says it don’t