How much physical affection do you need in a relationship?

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CallMeDave · Accepted Answer

For me, it's quite a bit. There's a quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com that shows what things you need most in a relationship in order to feel loved. My highest score is Quality Time (doing things together), but Physical Touch (including holding hands, cuddling, and sex) is a close second so it's pretty important to me.

That was one of the issues that led to the breakup of one of my previous relationships. Her Physical Touch score was low and she just really didn't like much physical contact. I got frustrated because of lack of physical contact and she got frustrated because I was wanting more than she could tolerate. There were other issues too but that was one of the factors in the breakup.

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

Need? I don't know. All I know is I can’t ever recall being irritated about having too much.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

You can never get enough hugs and kisses from the one you love. if you feel suffocated with it because it's too much or you have bad experience about it, then communicate with your s/o so they don't feel rejected...

_Harley_Quinn_ · Accepted Answer

Lots n lots

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Not much. I've never been the "touchy feely" type, so I'm okay with cuddling in moderation, kisses, and maybe hugs as needed.

But too much affection feels like I'm being smothered!!! I need my space too, as I'm sure most guys do too, lol

Iwant2kno · Answer

I think I need a lot of physical affection. Is nice to

Apope16 · Answer

I was deprived of affection as a child. So verbal and physical affection is a Huuuge thing for me.

Finchie40 · Answer

I feel physical affection is very important in a relationship , it helps each other feel closer to each other. Not saying You need to have sex everyday but even if you aren't in the mood for sex and your partner is you should still hold them and Kiss them on the head and say not tonight honey i am not in the mood it's when there is no affection that makes your partner feel like is wrong. When affection leaves a relationship then that opens doors for negativity to enter , why I always say cpuples should always make each other their number 1 priority removing selfishness is what makes Love grow

kissablestyles · Answer

I really think it depends on the person for some people people need a lot of validation physically some people don’t and it depends on the other person as well if the other person wants physical affection and you don’t mind giving it or vice versa it’s really a personal preference and what you’re comfortable with personally I’ve never been very physical as far as kissing and hugging with anyone but I feel that it does deep in a relationship now if you’re speaking about sex that’s a whole Nother topic

BluesheepOwl · Answer

Not a lot. I like having space and room to breathe. I wouldn't mind holding hands while walking somewhere. Wouldn't mind kissing a couple of times in the day. I wouldn't mind having his arm around me while we watched a movie or cuddles while we watched a movie. Though I don't like cuddling in bed when I sleep 😅 I like to have space. Not a fan of making out. And holding hands the entire day is annoying. Like especially when I am driving the car and the guy tries to hold one hand when I feel more comfortable having both hands on the wheel.

laurieluvsit · Answer

More than I can ever seem to receive... lol

TheWormGuy · Answer

that's up to all parties involved. some relationships are very loving and affectionate despite not having too much physical interactions. while some that have a lot of physical contact contains a lot of anger and hate. physical contact isn't a way to measure how well your relationship with someone is. just do what you, and your partner, feel is comfortable

Gothd011 · Answer

Not much it makes me uncomfortable. But after I become comfortable w/the person I can open myself up to it. Once in a while Ill date someone whos really touchy and I find my self doing the same. Im, not the one for kissing in public.

I mean no one wants to see that -_-

brendon76 · Answer

Personally I need a lot. I enjoy holding hands and putting my arms around my significant other. Giving and getting little kisses on the cheek or hand for no reason is sweet. Laying next to each other and feeling the physical connect while watching a movie or if we are both reading is wonderful. Sleeping together and holding her during the night is a must as well.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Lots but I want space too. Like frequent bouts of touch, with elongated times of message or whatever. And physical being touch, connection time, snuggle up.. including me giving. I love to massage the other and receive. was one of the best parts of prior relationship, because it makes me feel in the now. I don't think of this as needy love, I think of it is giving. I don't need but I want... in my mind anyway.

A person who doesn't like or can't handle would be hard to deal with.

MissKittyz · Answer

Infinity. I want lots of kisses, Cuddles, hugs, hair/face stroking, hand kisses, etc. I seriously love the affection my boyfriend provides me ☺️ I'd kiss him all day if I could.

thisbutterfly36 · Answer

I love affection but love giving it more than getting. I’m a words woman... I give both but most men I am involved with or I attract need physical affection and I’m happy to oblige. #giver

Anonymous · Answer

For me personally if I’m out in public or with a group of people not a lot I just want my hand to be held or something. But when we are alone I like to be close and touchy most of the time. But when sleeping yes cuddling can be fun but I also like to be left alone and have space to sleep.

Bluemax · Answer

A LOT!

Vanillachoc88 · Answer

I like being hugged, I love cuddles. Sex of course... but I do need some time alone sometimes. So maybe not 24/7 but enough to make me feel loved and safe.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

How much? hummmm... whenever i see him, i like to hug, touch. Every opportunity. Why not show love all the time and freely because there are times we will not be together.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Enough to know they actually care about me and aren't dating me cause it's nice occasionally when they're lonely. If they only show it in return but never of their own accord, move on.

340sunny · Answer

A lot but I'd like my space at times, and I'm sure he would too. Kinda hard to get/give enough attention in a long distance military relationship though :(

mornings98 · Answer

I want both romance and sex. It should be consistent and not seen as a "chore".

mooky06 · Answer

I love physical affection so i’m not going to put a limit on it ☺️🥰

Prof_Don · Answer

Can't lie; I need alot! I'm very mushy-gushy. I have two very loving and affectionate (yet sometimes smothering ) parents so I'm used to affectionate attention. 💗

rgb008 · Answer

Decent amount I guess. I just don’t like cuddling. I get overheated too quickly and I can’t stay still for that long lol. Anything else is cool though

Browneye57 · Answer

How do you measure it? Women connect emotionally. Men connect physically. This isn't to say they don't have emotions, no, but it's just not the same as women. It's a basic gender difference.

ShortCircuit · Answer

Constantly, any time we are together. Any and all forms of affection are welcome 24/7.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I like a lot. How much do i need. Depends on relationship. As long as i know we're still on the right path then physical affection isn't as important

MrWonders · Answer

Daytime: Hold Hands and Cuddle Afternoon: Chill on sofa Night time: Spoon Result: win

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends on the day and the mood. But I am sure I would enjoy of a lot of it.

MostPaloney23 · Answer

I don't mind keeping it check at proper times, but I like a lot of physical affection in general.

Daylight7550 · Answer

I've been kissed and hugged very minimally in the last year and a half. I miss it a lot. Then I remember I'm a psychopath so it's probably better I'm alone.

LegendarySir · Answer

Plenty. I don't want to be glued together all the time, but I do want plenty of physical attention. I'm not good at expressing my feelings with words, so I need touch to do so.

princessfromjupiter · Answer

I can confidently say that I haven’t experienced enough to even know that for sure

Guanfei · Answer

A lot. I'm very touchy, I love physical contact, kisses, hugs, cuddle, touch... I just never have enough of it.

AynonOMouse · Answer

Sometimes I like lots for most of the day, but other days I only want some. I like it when going to sleep almost every night.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m a hugger and a spacer. A lot, while also giving my partner space and I’d want their company and wouldn’t mind keeping them company.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

It depends on the individuals in the relationship. So couples function with very little, some function with a lot

imagirlcalledlouisa · Answer

So long as they have a good personality and appreciate me for me that's more than enough for me to be happy with 🙂

Anonymous · Answer

a lot. That is the one person who I get to hug and kiss on shamelessly, of course I would want to have more kisses and touching with that person

Dolemite510 · Answer

As long as she’s not being a brat, I’ll give a girls as much kissing and cuddling and corny hand holding as she wants 😂

megaman242 · Answer

My ex got really fat for a while and even if we did not break up until years later, I noticed the sex was less during the time she was fat.

Philyouup · Answer

I love it. Maybe not so much pda. But I love it other wise.

Cask23 · Answer

Constant physical affection with those sweet lips and mouth

Lance1965 · Answer

Not much at all. That need has faded a lot as I have become older.

Dillan04 · Answer

I want to hold hands. I want to be able to hug them.

valualty · Answer

When it's mutually felt it's beneficial but some space is needed. Blance is a key

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I dunno, I guess once a day, anymore would be a bonus

Flipswitch · Answer

I'm a pretty basic guy, I enjoy holding hands and the occasional kiss in public. I'm not big on making out in public, I don't judge people who are into that kind of thing it's just not something I'm into.

DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999 · Answer

l want to give all of mine to only one girl? and get lots backlol

Grayout · Answer

I don't want to want affection. No one will give it, so why want it?

Cristian97 · Answer

I wanna hub and be able to show her I that I really care for her

Jerre · Answer

If I get a boner when I am with a woman, I know I have sufficient physical attraction

hotstuffSRD · Answer

Sex twice a day keeps doctor away 🤟  Then alots of kisses and hugs 🙏

frerardsprincess · Answer

A reasonable amount, I wanna have lots of touches and kisses and cuddles but only some of the time otherwise it’s suffocating

PrincessGrail · Answer

Lots

Slim57 · Answer

I need some, I like a lot but as long as it's not nonexistant it's fine

Anonymous · Answer

Empty my sack every couple of days and I'm good thanks.

ZELLxoxo · Answer

A never ending supply

Ellie-V · Answer

I’m not a needy person

Davis04 · Answer

Not too much... I get overwhelmed!😓

Ella_101 · Answer

Enough to make me feel loved and wanted

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