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In a relationship, who should be the head of the household? (Page 2)
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I don't think either should be the head, the responsibility should be divided
I think both should be equal enough to be heads of the household.
Men should almost always be the heads of the household.
I think it should be the man but if I'm with someone I do value there opinions
I say both should be equal. Both of them should share that responsibility.
Both. We both live in this household so why should only one decide?
I think it should be discussed and made to gather as a team!
Howcome there is no 50/50 option?
not true, just because a baby is born does not mean there is a power shift in the house lol. Staying at home taking care of a child does not mean the mom no longer gets to make important decisions for the household
That's called dysfunctional. Those are couples that either fight a lot OR avoid decisions in which they both don't agree and miss out on many things.
@bamesjond0069 it's not dysfunctional lol. quite the opposite, it's dysfunctional when they CAN'T agree on a decision because one of them has too big of an ego to find a compromise that suits BOTH. just one person making decisions for the other one even if they don't agree is just selfish and will only lead to misery.
Not all decisions can be compromised. If he wants to go to ny and her cali do you move to kansas? Lmao. If she wants another baby and he doesn't can you have half a baby? Compromise is a stupid way to decide many things. 50/50 couples usually just argue a lot when these things come up or avoid conflict and do nothing and miss out sometimes.
@bamesjond0069 Compromise is the ONLY way to come to an agreement. Selfishly doing things without the other one being OK with it first is a recipe for disaster. yes couples argue a lot but that is normal and way better than not arguing and completely ignoring the other persons wishes. if you really love another person you wouldn't do that, nor they to you. yes there can be a compromise between NY and CALI. and yes there is a compromise of having another child or not. people who really care about eachother will argue until they find a solution. so what if the man wanted another child and woman didn't? if he is the head of the household how exactly would he go about having another one unless she agrees to give birth to it?
"people who really care about eachother will argue until they find a solution" very dysfunctional, no most couples do not just argue and argue. You probably grew up like this and think its normal but its not. You also seem to think a HoH just does anything they want, its not the case but youve probably only seen poor examples of this and im sorry.
@bamesjond0069 couples manage to have a conversation or a discussion that leads to a productive solution without it turning into a full on fight or an aggressive argument. arguing is normal in EVERY relationship. having a relationship where one person is making all the important desicions without caring that impacts the other one negatively and does what is best for him/her is far more dysfunctional than anything, because one person is always having their desires ignored and is the underdog. marriage is being a team not in a dictatorship.
@Porcelaine "... where one person is making all the important desicions without caring that impacts the other one negatively and does what is best for him/her..."
This shows your lack of understanding of what a HoH even is. They make decisions in the best interest of the family, not themselves. They aren't a king, they are the leader of the family.
@bamesjond0069 but if they really care about doing what is best for the families and not themselves, what is the harm of discussing it with other members of the family?
and no I don't know what HoH stands for
Head of Household.
Who said they don't discuss it? Of course they discuss it. But at the end of everyone saying their part the HoH decides and that's what the family does.
@bamesjond0069 that only works if HoH is genuinely considerate of everyone. in most cases they would make selfish decisions.
Why would you be with someone who selfishly does that? Someone who chooses someone like that probably needs to seek help from a professional about why they find selfish people who try to abuse them attractive.
@bamesjond0069 sometimes that side doesn't come out until they are fully committed. that's why women in less developed countries end up abused. the ones where they still cannot get an education, and just marry to become the housewife. guys act nice until they get married, after that the girl belongs to them, and as a head of the household they literally control everything and usually abuse that power.
Well interesting. I only know about living in the US. Glad you come from a 3rd world country to share your viewpoint. Here in the US thats not common to marry a stranger. So you would know before you were married.
@bamesjond0069 I am not married nor am I from a 3rd world country. but I do know that happens a lot and I've seen it many times in countries who already have equal rights. if someone is allowed to control too much, eventually they will take it too far.
Unfortunately its a well known disorder of women who seek abusers instead of healthy relationships. Im talking about a healthy relationship there should be a HoH. Maybe if you both have a history of abuse you might try something else. Id not know anything about that.
@porcelaine. That's not how relationship works. It sounds good that both are the head. But in practical life it's not possible. Let's take an example of a corporate office. There is one person who is given a post as "president" by director , can he give another one? Can there be 2 persons having the same post. Won't it cause a clash or confusion between 2 people. Both will quarrel "I'm the head, no I'm the head". It's not possible. Same way in a relationship one of the partner has to be behind the other one either way.
Corporate firms are nothing like relationships lol.
It's an example. U dont maintain a good relationship with your senior , your kicked out.
It's a very poor example. People get fired from corporations all the time. Long term relationships and marriages are not cold and dismissive like that.
Sure u will get fired if u dont work properly. They haven't hired you for timepass. If u do your work properly no one will ever fire u.
In a decent company yes. but people get fired for reasons that have nothing to do with their work performance
Corporations and businesses are groups of people working together for a common goal. Sounds like a family or romantic relationship to me. Like i said if you have no goal for your relationship then you can both be passive and do nothing. But that would be dysfunctional.
@bamesjond0069 you people will have miserable and cold relationships lol
Exactly opposite. It feels amazing to be the leader and someone who is the support role. I'm so appreciative of them when they play that role its easy to be good to them. On the flip side, girls I've dated specifically say they appreciate how I take charge and its given me access to date more women.
Growing up my parents were 50 50 people. It was the worst thing ever. I would rather be single than have anything to do with some shit like that.
@bamesjond0069 just because your parents were 50/50 and couldn't work it out does not mean all the other couples are exactly the same.
No. I mean that is where I got to see it up very close and personal and it didn't work. But I don't know anyone with a relationship like that, where it works. Usually its very obviously not working. Maybe somewhere in some place it works but its definitely the exception.
Fortunately it feels really good to lead a relationship and I've found, and as the poll also shows, most women prefer that anyways.
@bamesjond0069 well all these women who voted clearly enjoy being the underdog and bossed around. let's hope their future or current partner is considerate when making these decisions. I still don't see how ''leadership'' can make both people happy if one person disagrees with the decision constantly. both can only be happy and avoid headaches if both agree on the decision before it's made. and that's what 50/50 is. men want to be the leaders of the family until the bills come lol and then they demand that woman is paying her 50% haha
Whoever has the tightest hole. Hopefully that'll be him but nowadays you can never be totally for sure. I would say, it's a toss up.
No one
Both should be
Neither. It should be 50/50
It depends on you upbringing and culture
Men make decisions based on logic and women make decisions based on their emotions.
Whoever's willing to step up to the plate
I dont want to be head of the house I'm too stupid
Never try to tell a woman what to do
Where's that equal button, sis?
I purposely didn't put that because in most of the houses their is one head and not both.
It sounds good that both are the head but practically it's not possible. Only rare cases.
Agree. Its not really possible but people sure like to pretend it is. Lol
Who the fuck cares work together
I'm a man and my answer is a man
me. i should be
Hehe😁
It really takes a balance for long term success.
Whoever is more competent
Man because I'm taller
Who Ever is the smartest.
We can share everything between us
Whatever works for that relationship.
who ever had the clearer head
Whoever good with money or more responsible.
Depends on what the couple agrees on
I think you should decide together.
I believe it’s person who can run the house hold.
The woman should be
My man
There is no head. You two are a team.
Men.
Women can’t be the head of the household.
Ideally both but if any then undoubtedly the Woman
You're the definition of beauty
The smart one.
I'm taking orders from my mistress, I'm her slave.
Men of course
The cat. meow.
Whoever wants to