Same reason that some girls run away under the same circumstances.
1. Maybe they need to calm down so they don't immediately open their mouth and say something stupid that they later regret.
2. Maybe the conflict has aroused too much anxiety in them and they need to retreat to settle down.
3. Maybe staying and talking is difficult and they just don't think you are worth the effort.
4. Maybe it triggers some bade experience from the past. (If I raise my voice in the slightest, just like I'm a bit excited, my current girlfriend thinks I'm getting ready to hit her. I have never touched her in anger and never threatened it. This is a leftover from her childhood and an abusive father.)
5. Maybe they know that you want to immediately resolve things and they are leaving for the purpose of making you feel uncomfortable.
This is a problem to address or a warning sign to heed in a relationship!
I don’t like drama. If i have a choice between hearing you repeat the same bs 20 times or taking a drive/doing something constructive then I will pick doing something besides argue. And like others say (most) guys think before they speak. It’s a useful skill when guys deal with other guys as it keeps you from getting into needless fights or creating enemies. Something women worry less about since they don’t think a guy will punch their face in. So guys know how to chill & think first. Generally speaking.
Actually, 9 times out of 10 if a woman is arguing I am basically eating popcorn and being entertained by the crazy ranting & raving. Or hypocrisy. But we know if we stay in that circus you might push the right button and then the fight will be much worse.
Lot of females think yelling gets a message across better but it doesn’t. It’s counter productive
A strong man doesn't run when things get hard - a real man becomes more invested when things are difficult because the challenge gives him a sense of meaning an accomplishment. If a guy runs - don't worry about it - replace him with somebody 8 times better who won't leave you when things are difficult. I know very rich and kind and intelligent men who purposely dated mentally retarded woman and were nice and supportive and loving to their retarded girlfriends so never assume you can't find a nice guy. The guy was super rich and worried a woman would divorce him and steal his money so he chose a mentally challenged woman who would never cheat on him or leave him. The only thing you need is a good heart. If she can find an attractive lover - we all can.
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Because they are not ready for a relationship. A relationships does come with hardships and things won't always be easy and when arguments happen you've gotta be prepared to work them out together. In my opinion it's understandable if someone walks away right after a argument in order to calm down and think things through and doing this might even be a good idea, but once that has been done the guy should come back and prepared to talk it through. If not he's immature and does not have what it takes to be a partner.
Even as a women I think this is a very wise answer, I know my boyfriend needs time to think about the argument before he speaks. Otherwise all hell will break loose and we will both be yelling for hours it feels like.
It's not only guys. It's a human thing. People leave at the first sight of hardship/inconvenience because they didn't plan to stay long in the first place... They were temporary.
Because theyre boys that dont know what they want out of life. They just think they do. The know what they want in the moment. They either lack the willpower necessary to make a commitment of that magnitude out of complete fear of the unknown, OR you're a source for sex and anything else you can offer.
Some of these dudes are legit dogs in every sense
If you really meant something to him, would he really give up so easily? I understand that he may be immature at the age range you're in, but you need to make the choice on whether or not he is worth the fight.
We, some of us, most of us, don't know how to handle conflict and arguments. We don't have emotional capacity to handle pain... fear, shame... and worst of all... being wrong or having to show vulnerability and weakness. Who trains us in this... was that the class after math that I missed? This relationship stuff is so hard for us... goes against everything we are trained for. And we have two imperfect people, who are gonna have their own emotional stuff brought to the table, pains, fears, doubts.. and we are supposed to fit together well. I tell ya, we need training if we want to survive as a culture, race.
heck, I'm talking about myself, but maybe others can relate. Love got lost somewhere, crushed. It's there, but it is a hard line to walk... strength and submission, after being warped.
Because first and foremost, a relationship is or should be a trusted friendship. If I get into a scuffle with a riding (motorcycles) buddy, we work through the problem or (much more rarely) agree to part. The problem with "things get hard" with a female is the amount of needless misunderstanding and drama that (mostly) women inject into a situation because of this eternal rule.
Far too often women read into a situation things that were never said or even thought and then condemn men for what we didn't say or think. Sex and beauty ultimately will not hold a guy when the BS becomes waist deep,. It's necessary to "walk away" to give her time and space cull the psychodrama out of the dispute and become willing to deal rationally and seriously. Yes, sometimes guys are at fault, but anyone with a brain knows this is mostly on women.
Because guys don't process out loud, and expecting him to behave like a woman would is counterproductive. Instead, they walk away, cool down, and give it real thought. sometimes, they even pass it to their subconcious to chew into bite-sized pieces, first.
A man can go from zero to "fight" in about eight seconds. Since he doesn't want to explode all over YOU, he walks away. It means he cares enough to protect you. And then you go and get all upset because he very carefully made sure you were safe from his anger...
Do you mean taking a break from a heated argument? If so, I agree with what others have said. Sometimes you have to calm down before you can have a reasonable discussion.
Do you mean leave and then never talk about the issue? This is avoidance and isn’t healthy in that long run.
It's ALWAYS easier to just give it all up and quit when things become difficult, simple as that. And nobody needs a relationship to live. One could simply give up and stop looking altogether as that would be even easier than being in that kind of situation and then run away when things are difficult. Don't start anything one does not need to start, simple as that. @Unit1?
I found most guys do. So it another reason why i would never put myself or look to them for stability. My dad is like a dying bread of type guys and he says all the time the guys of yout time are soo eh and understand why i choose to stay single at the moment.
From what I've noticed, some women don't have mature conversations to work through the problem. They don't listen to the man and just keep ranting. Some men don't feel like dealing with that so they leave so the woman can calm down
I walk away because I want to control my anger and need time to think. Not all women but most push things and me trying to hold my tongue so I dont hurt her. regardless of how mad I am I still love her but want to think about what upset me. Lets gave it women fight dirty and demand us guys to hear the nagging.
Guys get away when things get hard 😉😉? I don't think so. That's the time when they come too close to you. Jk. Some men may do it out of immaturity while others do it because of getting tired of explaining the same thing again and again. It also depends on the woman taken in to consideration. There are women who aren't worth an explanation so there is that too.
Yeah some guys do. I used to be that guy. Now I know its better to solve the problem, even if it takes a while. Talk about things, listen, and decide what you are gonna do to fix it. Its easy to walk away in the heat of the moment. I used to walk away when I lacked self-control
Many people have never learned to deal with difficulty, others are too selfish or just don't care enough to work on issue. If someone doesn't much respect or care about the other person, or any person, then it's easier to just leave, than to have a normal relationship.
Maybe because they're not ready for a relationship. Imagine for a second that we switch the roles, and you had to take the leadership position, including the responsibility of dealing with that argumentative man who is stressing you out, without showing it or running away. Think that's an easy thing to do?
I feel guys just suck at expressing how they feel... But also sometimes it's mainly because we feel there's no point of talking about something when the other person has their mind made up already and just wants to bust your balls, it's easier just to peace out
Guys don't want to deal with a screeching woman who puts words into their mouths. I walk away from arguments because the girl just rambles on and on and they bring up old fights just to remind you of it once again.
Walking away and waiting for her to calm her arse down so she can speak like a normal human is the smart thing to do.
Probably for the same reasons some women do. This isn't unique to one sex. Equally, some men and women run when a relationship becomes more serious. Reasons to run or walk away aren't always for emotiins getting heated. People run for a myriad of reasons they'll concoct. It needed be over negative moments.
Problem is majority of girls are like loud speakers. They will tell everything to their friends circle with some exaggeration spices. Happened with my friends a lot of times. Can't trust most females with important stuff. Especially those who have besties and all
Listen words are powerful and some shit you say can't be unsaid so I walk away to keep from saying something that would probably hurt you that i really didn't mean to say. Sometimes it's better to give him that little bit of space that way you both get to cool off and then talk when your not angry
Well that sounds kind of not true. Unless you date guys that are douchbags. Because by statistics most divorces are filled by women and i think it depends on a guy. If that guy is from the start doesn't look serious to relationship don't think you will change him. I think that is where most girls fail. They think they can change a bad guy to a good guy it doesn't work.
It's because someone doesn't know how to handle their emotions or want to quit when they're uncomfortable as they're not willing to fight through it. by the way, girls do this shit too as we're all human
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There's no sense in arguing with a woman. My ex used to get pissed off worse when I stayed calm and reasonable while she was throwing a fit, and that's pretty much all you need to know about having a "discussion" with a chick.
Wise men make a judgment call; put up with it or leave. Any other option is just a waste of time
Because men are fixers, when it comes to some things there is no fix. Thats aggravating to the point of rage, its better for us to remove ourself rather than saying something that can be misunderstood or take that frustration out on the person we care about.
Sometimes it has to do with the foundation. If the foundation was build purely on attraction or lust then even the slightest problems can make the relationship to fall apart. As the physical is no longer in the picture. That's why I try to build the foundation on something more, link her personalty and by building our friendship first. I have found it works great and can show what kinds of a person they really are.
My fiancé and I are in a argument right now. I walked away in the sense to talk down. So far I have 30 pending text messages from him saying sorry and that to not leave him. Which I won’t and he knows that but I need a moment...
Because women have a way of making it the mans fault every single time in an argument even if it is her fault or both at fault, I’ve been through this so many times with women, they manipulate during an argument, use sex as a weapon, cry to gain sympathy, use emotional abuse techniques to get their way, it’s much easier as a man too suck it up get over it and just don’t talk about it than deal with all that manipulation
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I don’t think that’s an appropriate usage of “helpless”
At the very least they can say the reverse about you.
Why is it not equally valid to ask why do women keep talking when they’re spouting nonsense?
Maybe the situation has made me mad and the responsible thing to do is to take some time rather than inform a woman she’s being a bitch.
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I won't have arguments where it is just the girls insecurity and jealousy that is creating the argument, i would never cheat on a partner, my father cheated on my mother, to accuse me of that is a huge insult to me. Those are the only type of arguments i would walk away from.
Because women and men as well look for reasons to argue to cover up some other hidden agenda and I can tell when it happens and when it does I also know that no matter what you do or say the argument won't stop but it will jump from one reason to another and another and so on. Better keeping your sanity and walk away.
Not to be sexist but newflash women do it more often than men especially at this generation
If I get cash for the number of times men lost their jobs and the wives instead of supporting him leaves him and takes the kids. I would be a fucking billionaire
I don't think that guys run away when things get hard. I believe women drive them away by trying to force to much responsibility on them all at one time. No offence meant but i believe that also plays a big part in it. Relationships are a 2 way street.
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Why does anyone run away when things get hard? It's because it's hard. We don't know how it will end, and we don't want to try it because it's hard to do it. People of today want things to be easier, more picturesque like in a movie or tv show (or a book if you still read those).
Same reason people don't do anything -- fear. In a lot of homes negative emotions are unacceptable. People who grow up like that can have a hard time expressing themselves when emotions run high.
I am sorry that some people do this. Both genders. I prefer to talk it out, no one leaving. Until its sorted out. My best guess as to why they do it Is that's how they were brought up.
Women in the same guise do this too. It's happened twice to me. That said the guys that are heartless buggers. They do this as they think that physical or mental problems equate to you not being the whole person you were.
Havn't heard this one yet: Some girls tend to bring up the same issues over and over again. A girl might complain a lot to her boyfriend and when she complains that he needs to listen more he is tired of it.
Some guys do it in fear of losing you forever so he just runs away cause maybe he fears your going say hey it's over i want break up with you trust me them words are horrible to hear.
I used to think it was a bad response or reaction. Now I know it's self preservation. Of course it depends on the situation, but nobody wants to deal with messy especially when it isn't yours.
Sometimes it's because they don't necessarily know what the issue actually is, other times, it's because they think that the woman wouldn't listen to what they have to say.
Coz they are just emotionally abusive douchebags who don't seem to understand that if they are gonna start a fight with a woman, then they should think twice coz we always win lol. 😎😎😎😎😎
Guys? LOL what? Never have I ever done that nor seen a guy run away from things girl though oh don't get me started " i have a boyfriend" " I need to got the toilet (and never come out of it)"
It depends on the age of the dude and the level of commitment in the relationship. If it isn’t serious don’t expect a lot. Relationships are a dime a dozen.
If it is serious relationship it depends on the issue.
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