My ex and I just ended our relationship 2 months ago. However we are still keeping in touch with each other on a daily basis. Both of us met when he was studying here in my country. Now he’s back home in Russia.
Recently he asked me to attend his graduation because his parents couldn’t make it due to financial difficulties. Of course I don’t mind, in fact I was so honoured he wanted me to come for his graduation. But I also found out that his ex which is his best friend- is also coming. They were together 2014/2015 back when they were in the same university and then they became friends ever since.
When his ex (Bangladeshi) found out we got together, she blackmailed me saying that she was still in love with him and wanted to commit suicide if I didn’t let him go. Ever since that, I was never in good terms with her.
I know my place and who am I to stop them from being friends because she came into his life before I did. I know she’s important to him as well. They went through thick and thin together back when they were in the same uni. I just couldn’t forget what she ever said to me and done to me until it took a toll on my relationship with my ex and my mental health. I know my ex cares for her. Like he said, he treats her like she’s family despite all the shit she puts us through. I just don’t trust her at all.
Part of me is not ready to meet her again and being reminded of what she put me through, at the same time I still love my ex and I do want to come for his graduation.
The graduation ceremony will take place at another city which requires us all to take a flight from where we are now. He plans to book an apartment to save cost so that we all can stay together. (😣)
I don’t want to sound selfish. It’s his day and he wants both of us there since his parents won’t be able to make it. How to put aside this hatred in me?
Recently he asked me to attend his graduation because his parents couldn’t make it due to financial difficulties. Of course I don’t mind, in fact I was so honoured he wanted me to come for his graduation. But I also found out that his ex which is his best friend- is also coming. They were together 2014/2015 back when they were in the same university and then they became friends ever since.
When his ex (Bangladeshi) found out we got together, she blackmailed me saying that she was still in love with him and wanted to commit suicide if I didn’t let him go. Ever since that, I was never in good terms with her.
I know my place and who am I to stop them from being friends because she came into his life before I did. I know she’s important to him as well. They went through thick and thin together back when they were in the same uni. I just couldn’t forget what she ever said to me and done to me until it took a toll on my relationship with my ex and my mental health. I know my ex cares for her. Like he said, he treats her like she’s family despite all the shit she puts us through. I just don’t trust her at all.
Part of me is not ready to meet her again and being reminded of what she put me through, at the same time I still love my ex and I do want to come for his graduation.
The graduation ceremony will take place at another city which requires us all to take a flight from where we are now. He plans to book an apartment to save cost so that we all can stay together. (😣)
I don’t want to sound selfish. It’s his day and he wants both of us there since his parents won’t be able to make it. How to put aside this hatred in me?
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