I started talking to this girl last year & just wanted to be friends, we just texted each other after being mutuals for over five years. That was 2018, fast forward to March of this year, I ask her to model for me. after we took pictures we went to a few places that night. Then we started doing everything together until one night I asked her "Are you talking to anybody?" she said, "I kinda thought we were talking." Things were going well, we met each other's families and closest friends & they love me for how I treated her & who I am. After 2 or 3 months she started coming over, she'd let me put my arm around her, and cuddle.
Around 6-27, she says she doesn't know if we're working because I forgot to tell her I was going to a city that was 80 miles away for a few hours. The next day I check on her and she says she doesn't think she'll ever want something with me, so we talk and says she just can't be romantically involved with me 100% right now. I asked her if everything she said to me about having a future, kids, and a relationship was bs. She said she meant it and has faith the idea of a relationship will grow on her. She also reassured me that she still liked me. I was happy to wait. So we hung out and still went over each other's houses. A few weeks later, she argued with me over something out of my control. I finally got my car and took her out the day after our argument, & she says relationship stuff again, then she came to my house a few days after to do homework and left because she was bored and tired. Later that night I asked what was going on & she said she doesn't want commitment, she just wants to get laid and have fun in college. That night she hooked up with someone. I cried that night and morning. She denied everything she said about a future or just said she doesn't remember. Despite that, the other night at the movies, she said she is emotionally attached to me, has the faith that a relationship with me will grow on her and thinks of a future.
Around 6-27, she says she doesn't know if we're working because I forgot to tell her I was going to a city that was 80 miles away for a few hours. The next day I check on her and she says she doesn't think she'll ever want something with me, so we talk and says she just can't be romantically involved with me 100% right now. I asked her if everything she said to me about having a future, kids, and a relationship was bs. She said she meant it and has faith the idea of a relationship will grow on her. She also reassured me that she still liked me. I was happy to wait. So we hung out and still went over each other's houses. A few weeks later, she argued with me over something out of my control. I finally got my car and took her out the day after our argument, & she says relationship stuff again, then she came to my house a few days after to do homework and left because she was bored and tired. Later that night I asked what was going on & she said she doesn't want commitment, she just wants to get laid and have fun in college. That night she hooked up with someone. I cried that night and morning. She denied everything she said about a future or just said she doesn't remember. Despite that, the other night at the movies, she said she is emotionally attached to me, has the faith that a relationship with me will grow on her and thinks of a future.
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I had the intention of saying goodbye after the emotional trauma I went through, it really messed me up. Yet I still have feelings for her and hope we can be together, I don't want to lose her in any form. I tried going out to meet new people, but it just didn't work because I know what my heart wants. I don't know if I'm being devoted by waiting for her, or being stupid. I don't know what I want now. I just don't like her new crowd because they got her into the stuff she's doing
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