How do I forgive myself for cheating? (Page 2)

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Ok, listen. I don't nees you to bash me in about how cheating is bad. I KNOW. I was young and I had stupid defense mechanisms. I told my boyfriend about it. He told me to never do it again, but that it wasn't the worst I could have done. And he bloody fucking forgave me.  The lovely bastard forgave me for cheating on him.  It's been three years since and I haven't gotten over it. Some part of me doesn't want to forget, as a sort of "self punishment", but my boyfriend literally tells me to move on and to stop sulking about a dumb mistake i did. What the fuck do i do? I told him, believing it was the end and i fucked up the best relationship i coukd have ever wished for, but he was like nah its ok. I even thought that maybe HE cheated on me! (but no, he didn't) This guy is a sweetheart, the most loving adorable person and after that stupid mistake, I took a long hard look at myself and decided to change for him. I am absolutely madly in love with this man. I don't know what to do with myself. How am i supposed to forgive risking such a wonderful man. Ahhshwjeklekrkeke help. Also, no angry ass comments saying 'ChEaTing iS Bad" "Always a cheater" bs. I know what happened and it won't occur again.

Anonymous · Answer

What can you do? Obviously be the best partner to him that you can be from now on. Earn that forgiveness. And if you’re still struggling, go and see a counsellor.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

That's what makes you more human and no human is perfect. Also stop justifying yourself. There's no excuse for cheating.

Waffles731 · Answer

As someone whose family was torn apart by rampant cheating, don't.
You need to live with that guilt, carrying it every single day, let it drive you to the bottle or the needle.
Let it consume you until it drowns you and it cannot breathe.

jirwin7979 · Answer

well it sound like your truly remorseful just take it one day at a time

elite665 · Answer

Well accept it that’s it your human and your punishing yourself that’s just how we are

Cuppo_Mode · Answer

You call your self a hoe and now you fine XD

antonio1970 · Answer

Cheating is the death of love for one being cheated on. and the belief of not believing or going through same. is always lingering.

tha1uwishuhad · Answer

Sending nudes is so normal these days. Everybody does it. Difference is, if you're in a committed relationship, don't do it with other people

IndicaL0ve · Answer

Your human, we all make mistakes. Just continue to be a better girlfriend for him💙

Hellfire579 · Answer

Well at least you feel bad about it most women dont

5_AM_Oracle · Answer

Go above and beyond to express that love so it's juuuust right for him

Prada911 · Answer

Time is the best healer. I know it's a cliche, but that doesn't make it any less true.

Gedaria · Answer

You are your own worst enrmy. Don't beat your self up, he isn't so move on , we all make mistakes that is how we learn …..

Surely · Answer

Behave yourself and marry the guy. And get over your guilt. You probably won't find another like him. Otherwise move on.

Tomsta · Answer

You have to accept your past for what it is. Own the past, dont let the past own you Counselling might help

xyz94 · Answer

Just make sure you don't do it again and learn from your mistakes.

clonesclone · Answer

Your boyfriend is absolutely pathetic. He should've ditched you immediately. Therefore, you should correct this mistake by leaving him at once.

joyboy12 · Answer

Why would you cheat in the first place. What reason did you have to cheat

Passinggas · Answer

You are just having a hangover. Go do it again and get the hair of the dog.

henju · Answer

Ask him to hug you whenever that thought comes in. Just a good hug. No ding dings.

LuWe22 · Answer

All you can do is threat him good, be finally loyal and honest to him and just love him.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't love this man. You wouldn't have cheated if you did. Stop fooling yourself

Anonymous · Answer

That's typical, most women aren't attracted to nice/good men. The bad guy is much more sexually attractive and you couldn't help it. Not your fault

don1970 · Answer

Your only human humans make mistakes so don't beat yourself up over it

Smaishen · Answer

Yes you're right it is cheating  But just forget it... no self punishment.. the most important is that u don't do it again

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

You're female. It's in your DNA. He won't be the last guy you cheat on.

Spiritwander · Answer

He's a lucky guy. Treat him right.

Anonymous · Answer

What's the story of your cheating? Who was the guy and what were the circumstances?

violet2 · Answer

if your boyfriend a nice guy, then you shouldn’t cheat

Fuentes · Answer

Your boyfriend is a SIMP and your a skank end of story

robertKugler · Answer

You fuck that guys friend too behind his back.. fuck it away.. most of us a are jerks any way.

happy122 · Answer

Listen the first step is to forgive urself then tell him why u cheated and see if he forgives u

Arrivals_209 · Answer

Your Human you made a mistake, n you have to let it go n Get Freedom from forgiveness

AilsaGourly · Answer

You made a mistake just don't make it again

Anonymous · Answer

typical  MGTOW men are too good for women  and it is obvious

Secret6620 · Answer

Practice self compassion 🌸💜🌸

Anonymous · Answer

Cheating isn't a defense mechanism...

jessicarosen · Answer

It's over. Move on. The sun will rise tomorrow.

sp33d · Answer

Hopefully, you won't be able to.

AcidT0y · Answer

I don't know but he sounds like a bitch xD

PrinceOfAljazeera · Answer

"i was young" alright ima use that line next time!

manmeat · Answer

how exactly did u cheat what did u do?

Minato157 · Answer

He deserves much better than slme random whore

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Maybe you shouldn't forgive yourself

Marinepilot · Answer

You're a whore unworthy of a good man.

GoBlueSC4 · Answer

Try to forget about it

CheerfulGirl · Answer

You are just a pathetic bitch

UnderHisEye · Answer

Corporal punishment

Daniel3035 · Answer

Bend over his knee

Elizabeth01 · Answer

Maybe get therapy.

ChefCurry · Answer

Wtf is this shit

Shamalien · Answer

Only time will heal

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