What do you think is the most important factor of keeping love alive in a relationship?

[Desconhecida]

[MikkiM]

i honestly want to stop believing in love anymore. Because love meant to be broken. if people could stay even in broken hearts then its for you. For me to keep love is to keep yourself. Even in the hardest trials or struggles, When you restrain from losing yourself Love will always be there. I remember my ex. we broke up 5 months after. I tried to see him, and when I seen him, My love is still there, it never fades. Even 5 months has passed.

But the reaction of my ex when he saw me. He belittled me, told bad words on me. Doesn't want to kiss me anymore, doesn't want to hug me. He doesn't want to hold my hands anymore.

The reason is that, i tried to reach him out in a very complicated situation. (He is busy at work and force him to see me.) That time, im testing if he will still see me the same way, because I never do such complicated things on him. I saw his true colors). I saw how his love faded within those months away from him. I saw him cheated with different girls, sex with them use them for sexual pleasure as he told me on our meet ups.

I realize love has different view. I could keep my love even years passed and will never fade on him. In his part, he can only love on his limit. See here. Love is a work to give back and forth and always try again if it doesn't work. It has different perspective that you need to discover so that it could work.

Until now, i still think of him, and I know my love never fades, maybe just have to accept and move on to the next guy. But I still have the hopes for him to see me, even I know we will never go back to what we are before.

Love doesn't need to make sure of validation, it needs a lot of understanding and patience for love to grow. You should let love grow like a flower that blooms, not a rose that withers. Make that love grow like a tree with care, compassion, and trust. A tree could live a thousand years. a tree seen so much journey than our lives. Love last forever. its not just you and me (him/her), it's your feelings that works that make it last.

[Aquariusmystery]

Making each other laugh

[Aquariusmystery]

Thanks for MHO

[lightbulb27]

Not taking for granted, always some fresh ideas and thoughts and changes... welcome the good ones. Laugh, fun together, place of refuge, respect.
Take time to walk hand in hand, take time to gaze in eyes and appreciate the other. simple, small things saying one is thikning of the other. Listening and accepting... not arguing to be right.
Keep the emotions pure... honor the wounds of the other.

[ZambieChips433]

Communication, being able to talk about your feelings honestly with no hesitation, and trying new things together

[OlderAndWiser]

Mutual willingness to confront and address conflict rather than avoiding it or running away from it.

[rjroy3]

1. Picking a partner whose values align with yours to begin with
2. Consciously choosing to grow together
3. Improving your financial situation over time (if you're in debt you are on the path of getting out, even if it's years later)

So you have that initial honeymoon phase with someone you're in love with whom you're attracted to, but also ultimately values the things you value. They want the future life you want. They put you in that picture with them. You're also making decisions with your life with the understanding of how it will effect your life with your partner and choosing against that if it would lead to a risk of losing that. You're not gonna take a job that requires you to move, unless you're taking them with you AND they want that for your life as well.

And having a plan with your money longterm is pretty important in a relationship. You don't have to be rich. But you can't be constantly in debt, without a plan to get out. You could even have a plan that would get you out of debt in 50 years. Just being on that path will be enough. The number one things couples fight over is money regardless of culture, location or time frame in history. It's just a thing. So longterm you need to have your financial situation sorted. For the happiness of your relationship.

You can be poor/low income. But never be broke.

[MrOracle]

Open and honest communication, and its partner: not getting offended by your partner's open and honest communication. If you tell each other the truth, and you expect your partner to tell you the truth, even if it's not something you want to hear, your relationship will be SO MUCH EASIER.

[keepitr3al]

Honesty trust sincerity tenderness and communication going out and doing things like just by yourselves not with the whole world or just take a drive somewhere far away and find each other again I feel like it's when you're just sitting by yourself and you don't do nothing you just sit there sound like that when you're sitting with somebody else you do have that other person but it's good to move around and go see something go do something that doesn't constitute spend money or take out expenses that you can't afford but that means make memories that are priceless they could never be bought. I'm horrible at English sorry I don't know where to put my periods and commas and exclamation marks

[TadCurious]

Work. I don't mean employment work but the work that it takes to preserve and strengthen the original bond. That work is itself a manifestation of love and it's necessary after the initial "falling in love" stage fades. And that initial stage always fades but if the 2 people truly love each other they work together for the relationship.

[Mollynotgemma]

Passion and the want to make love and chat all night long

[holograph]

Dedication. If you go into a relationship based on "a spark" and then you expect that "spark" to keep your relationship going... Well, you might as well not get into a relationship at all since that would never last.

[Annie12234]

Communication and listen to partner’s need also want

[JohnAlaska43]

Communication is key then you learn to trust because you talk it out and work it out together.

[TR_Kerem34]

The ways to ensure the continuity of love are to take care of your partner's feelings and care about them.

[MannMitAntworten]

Beats me... I have never kept love. I keep ending things with them.

[winterfox10]

Communication! Never ever ever lose the desire to talk with the person.

[JadeOFluorite99]

Honesty, openness in communication, spending quality time with each other, and keeping in tune with each others thoughts and feelings.

[Liam_Hayden]

Put the other person first." If you both do that love will endure.

[JoinMyDream]

Effort! Love may happen by chance or even at first sight but it won’t last if it approached lazily.

[Ultrainstinctman]

Communications , honesty and most of all realistic expectations

If these three are not there , the relationship is doomed from the very start

[Gargla]

Not even kidding, cuz THIS IS NOT A BULLSHIT ANSWER, show them you listen... show them you listen

[John1972]

Complete and total honesty

[theharlequin]

Valuing your partner and wanting to keep it alive.

[AuroraRoseat]

Listen to your partner's needs and wants.