Just adopt a 'neutral' voice tone and body language, and say "thanks but not thanks". If it's a polite shy guy who worked up the nerve to approach you, maybe don't get aggressive and scar him for life lol. But if it's a narcissistic player, then anything less than a hard rejection could be seen as an invite to "change your mind". You just gotta read the situation and not give in to strong emotions either positive or negative. Think of a business meeting with your boss and coworkers present, you would be cordial and direct and unemotional. Strong emotions in a woman can give guys the impression she's more pliable to influence-- if you keep calm and kinda detached and just say "no thanks" in a flat, definitive way, then they'll just assume you're "cold" and move onto someone more receptive.
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Politely and firmly. Do need to stress the firm bit.
Boyfriend excuse should work with that in mind. "I am not interested. I have a boyfriend. But thanks, this was flattering!". The ending there is more or less meant to close it in a polite and benign way.
I'm the same way. I will just say, " sorry I have a boyfriend " ( which is true ) and if that doesn't work I will leave or if the guy message me on IG or Facebook I will ignore the messages and block the person. Except for this one guy, I ended up helping him find someone else.
Just say oh haha thanks and never actually follow up on it. Don't give your number out and don't say you'll text them. If they persist, just say you're not looking for a relationship because of your age or even list your boyfriend as a reason.
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Rejection always hurts. You can't do anything about that.
Just say “thank you hut im not interested”
Or just say ur gayTell then you have aids, or an STD. Tell them something really nasty about you, I bet you they'll leave you alone.
I just say I’ve got a boyfriend or just ignore them/don’t text them tbh since they should be able to move on from it
Ah, yes:
Some guys, especially the younger ones, require absolute bluntness for them to get the picture. Don't be afraid to step on some toes for your own peace of mind if need be.Just say “sorry I have a boyfriend”. You’ll learn to say it with ease as time goes on
"I have a boyfriend but I thank you still for the offer!"
Maybe text them that you're not interested in anything but a platonic relationship and apologize that you can't reciprocate their feelings?
Say you're a lesbian
just say i am sorry
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