Guys, How do I politely reject someone without feeling bad?

[Anonymous]

Okay, I know this sounds so incrediblely stupid... but. I don't get a lot of attention. I'm average, maybe even below and don't get a lot of attention from guys. The few I have, I haven't been interested in back. I try to politely reject those people and it makes me feel bad and awkward, even to confront with over text message. I have really bad anxiety about judgement. I don't want to be a bad guy. I know what it's like on other end.

Boys how do I politely reject someone?

[Anonymous]

Just. Say. The. Truth. Anything but is going to leave, hope, desire, the thought of a ‘chance’. If you aren’t interested in someone you aren’t interested in them. Tell them that. it’s gutting to hear, rejection no matter what you say will be gutting. At least if you tell them straight up truthfully, your not leaving the possibility of them torturing themselves over the idea of having a chance, or blowing their shots, they won’t be thinking “what did I do wrong”. After a bit of time they’ll realise you just weren’t interested and nothing can help that.

Being ‘polite’ isn’t saving them from hurt. It’s saving yourself from guilt. I’m sure your not intending to be so but, trying to find a way to say something like: your not interested, or you’ve lost interest…in a ‘polite’ manner is selfish. More selfish then you’d believe. Truth hurts but it’s the best way for the receiver to move on. Be straightforward tell them:
“I’m not interested in you that way I’m sorry”

[MCheetah]

Great question! I RARELY meet women who care about this sort of thing. Many just seem to revel in being cruel bitches to dudes. So it's nice to see something different, for a change.

Be polite and respectful to them, tell the truth, and end with a compliment.

"I'm sorry, but I'm not looking to date at this time / You're not quite my type.
But you seem like a great guy, and I'm sure you'll find someone someday!"

[NetSapien]

Be honest and don't lie or beat around the bush about it. For the most part, masculine men respect honesty and don't want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with them. It's impractical and a waste of time so many of us would respect and welcome honesty.

You will inevitably have those that instead get upset and belittle you as a response to being rejected. Are those really worthy of your sympathy?

[CharlesScene]

I would simply just say no and move on. It sounds un helpful but simply put, there is no nice way to reject someone, no matter what you say. The mean thing to do is to lead them on or let think they have a chance, just say no and leave at that.

Don't feel bad for it neither, rejection is part of life, if anything you are teaching them at that moment how to handle it.

[Shy_Steve]

It is best not to mention the f word (Freinds) because it will only make him feel worse.

Ask him if there is another Girl he likes and try hooking him up, You might think that won't help him but that is the best way if you want be his friend and it would help him move on.

[Genoside]

As I guy feel like it’s better to be impolite. If I try to get with a girl and she says “lol, fat chance” then she’s at least making me laugh. Also, she isn’t leaving any ambiguity, which is a common issue with disinterested girls.

[Paul09]

Great question! I got rejected a bunch of times. Not a great feeling. But then someone I'm not attracted to likes me, but I don't like them back. I feel so bad if I have to reject them. Because I know the feeling.

[HighValue]

I just tell them that I don't think that we are compatible for a relationship.

[Rjc36]

You just need to be honest with them and just gently let them know how you feel.

[LegendaryIcon]

Basically proving that girls, are just as shallow, if not shallower, as men

[Asker]

Gotta be attracted back. It isn't a one way street.

[LegendaryIcon]

not really, but whatever hun

[Anonymous]

Tell them you have boyfriend. If they insist block them some people are rude.

The god himself is not loved by everyone. So you can't make everyone loves you

[fred_durst]

just tell him you are strong independent woman that can do pretty much everything by your own