I think I know where you're coming from. And I know it's not about the things or the money. I totally agree it's not about being materialistic or something like that. It's more of having the feeling that you wanted to be treated better than the way he treated his ex. It's his willingness to invest that you wanted, not the amount of how much he's investing on you. I used to feel that way too. But I realized that it takes time for a men to invest the way you want him to. If you're going to demand him to do those things, he might have the tendency to feel that you're no different than his ex. He's probably traumatize by the way his ex treated him so you would need to give time to get over the thought that girls have the tendency to take advantage of him. Just try to be grateful and appreciative of whatever he's giving you right now.Who knows if you stop suggesting or making him feel that you're demanding him to do things, he'd start doing the things that you wanted him to do. But again, I do understand how you feel and as to why you're feeling insecure. I think it might also be better for you to talk to him about that and explain why you feel the way that you're feeling in a way that you're not nagging at him.
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You're very ignorant to assume any guy should buy you anything. And you're even more ignorant to demand it. You should be a strong individual woman. But you're not.
This is a huge problem. Women like you make men weary of relationships.
I never expect any guy to buy me things. However, my man offers to buy me things occasionally. I let him, because I love him enough I'm able to let him invest in me. He feels needed and appreciated and I feel loved and admired. He wants to spend his hard earned money on me, and all I want to do is treat him like a king. Sometimes he'll buy me a drink when we're out. When he hands it to me I give him a big kiss. He dotes on me because he's proud to have me, and I'm so very proud to have him.
You need to get into relationships for the right benefits that don't translate into monetary value.
I think youir being too ungrateful to be honest, if your not careful he's going to brake up with you. Be greatful he likes you and be grateful for whatever he buys you no matter the coast, it's the thought that counts not the price, stop comparing your relationship with him and his ex. Focus on what you have now and just please remember we are going though an ecomonic crisis and well buisness's included are struggling more than usual because people do not have the cash to go and blow on things. I think he's right to not be so lavish with what he buys for people. you ever think that maybe he is doing this because you are doing the one thing he doesn't want happening, you taking him for granted? just like his ex did.
Hey! there are thousands of reasons why he might do that but you shouldn't feel lss about you self. I had a financial crisis once, I had to borrow money from friends to go on dates with my girlfriend because I felt irresponsible telling my girlfriend (she later found out and helped) But thr point is we guys don't like to feel out of control of a situation so we try to reduce spending or just blow off some activity for a lesser one.
Try to watch him carefully, he may also be spending less on personal utilities and don't every bring up the ex, its kinda a deal breaker. Goodluck!
I'm going to recommend you ask your boyfriend to buy one thing for you: A subscription to the Wall Street Journal.
You see, I'm not sure if you've noticed, but the whole freaking economy has kinda gone into the crapper of late. Which *might* have something to do with the willingness of a person to p*ss away large sums of money.
Give the WSJ a try. It's a great newspaper and you'll learn a TON.
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i guess I can kind of see where you are coming from but my boyfriend is cheap and a thousand bucks isn't cheap lol. my boyfriend used to take his ex everywhere also, always go to dinner and he would buy her the cutest things and jewelry and write her poetry and take her romantic places and blow his whole paycheck. with me he has only bought me a few things, shoes, boots, and a camera, all under 100 bucks. nicest place we have gone to is red lobster! LOL but idc really. it does get me down at times sure, I am pretty insecure about my looks also so I do SOMETIMES relate him not taking me out as much as her to my looks. who knows? maybe he just isn't making as much money now as he did when he was with his ex?
First maybe she was hard to please so he spent so much to shut her trap
Second you are lucky he spends a dime on u
Third you are lucky he wants to date u
So very few good men in the world and your bitching on materialism?Sounds like my man..in his case she was a gold digging b!tch and your man probably doesn't want to be used again by the way what are you getting him? I hope something equal to what you expect from him or you are a gold digger also
it was probably his ex that made him not want to do it for you. I wouldn't take it too personal. I don't blame you for being upset just don't let it get to you
Wow...just f*cking wow.
You're not all about money? Lies lies lies
LOLOL shame on you
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