My boyfriend (26m) and i (24f) have been together for a year and a half, and in all of this time he hasn't invited me to anything without making me feel like i owe him. Let me explain, i'm studying and have to depend on my family for money, he otherwise has a pretty good amount of money, like, he just bought a flat and he still has money accumulating in his bank account.
For example, we went on vacation with soke friends, and since a bungalow was pretty expensive for me i told him to just go with a tent to the camping like my friends were, but he insisted on the bungalow, and months later he was still reminding me that he paid for that, the tent space was 20$ and the bungalow 200$, i explained to him that i couldn't afford it, and he told me to not worry, but he still reminds me that he paid for it.
Or if we see a good restaurant, and i don't mean expensive i mean that the food looks good, he would suggest we eat there and when i say i can't afford it he would say "Oh don't worry, we'll go when you have money".
And little things like that, has lead us to never leaving his flat (i don't live there it's just easier to meet there than in my parents house) and always doing the same things.
And i love making little gifts to him, even though the majority of them are handmade since i can't afford to buy him anything, so i feel a little frustrated.
The other day for example, we were in the middle of a heat wave, and even though we were both sweating a lot, he refused to turn on the AC, i just suggested it once since is his flat and he should decide, but if our situation was reversed i would have turned it on before he came to my house or i would treat him to dinner every week, and i know this to be true because a year before i met him i was working and i did this with my friends since i had a little money and thwy didn't.
So, is my boyfriend cheap or am i too high maintenance?
For example, we went on vacation with soke friends, and since a bungalow was pretty expensive for me i told him to just go with a tent to the camping like my friends were, but he insisted on the bungalow, and months later he was still reminding me that he paid for that, the tent space was 20$ and the bungalow 200$, i explained to him that i couldn't afford it, and he told me to not worry, but he still reminds me that he paid for it.
Or if we see a good restaurant, and i don't mean expensive i mean that the food looks good, he would suggest we eat there and when i say i can't afford it he would say "Oh don't worry, we'll go when you have money".
And little things like that, has lead us to never leaving his flat (i don't live there it's just easier to meet there than in my parents house) and always doing the same things.
And i love making little gifts to him, even though the majority of them are handmade since i can't afford to buy him anything, so i feel a little frustrated.
The other day for example, we were in the middle of a heat wave, and even though we were both sweating a lot, he refused to turn on the AC, i just suggested it once since is his flat and he should decide, but if our situation was reversed i would have turned it on before he came to my house or i would treat him to dinner every week, and i know this to be true because a year before i met him i was working and i did this with my friends since i had a little money and thwy didn't.
So, is my boyfriend cheap or am i too high maintenance?
