I dont like who I am when single. I feel like i wanted to be this better person when 2020 hit but i feel myself slightly reverting to 2016 me... and that ain't good. I’m wildin and i need to be on lock 😂👌 The lyrics in these vids below speak volumes... #FeelFreeToList#TieMeDown
I feel trapped and wanna get out
I feel at peace with self control
I feel good losing a bit of my freewill when committed
When I was younger I guess you can say I kind of feel trapped but like when a guy says he's tied down and don't even women take it to be bad it's not a bad thing he's tied down he's happy to be tied down if he wasn't happy to be tied down he wouldn't even say it women and guys they need to work on the interpretation of how things are said announced how are you going to say it because a lot of issues could be avoided if you interpreted what we are saying right or vice versa we interpreted what you were saying as you take it a lot of things could be avoided a lot of relationships probably still be going on but the older I got no I didn't feel stuck or trapped it was something I wanted
For me rather B. Maybe you need to flirt a little more, to vent some of these feelings? And who know, maybe you being single will than end soon... Also an idea could be to ask yourself the question what keeps you single. Maybe your requirement for a guy are unrealistic and you need to compromise a little. Thumbs up you'll be able to solve the situation :D
I have no idea... I trust me but I don't trust men... Dad was a dog and all the men I've dated have had alterior motives or hidden agendas... And what I'm saying is that I'm not here for being made a fool of again. I what I want is a boyfriend that accepts me for who I am and not how he can mould me or take from me like the others tried to... I'm learning that I probably won't be able to date anyone really as I've been bullied too much, had too many people take advantage of my kindness and or make nasty judgments on my character unnecessarily... Soo.. Trust is not a good thing for me, I only trust myself...
No i went through the same with bullying and being taken advantage of. Even came down to me prohecting that on others by trying to mould them into what i want. But im workin on it
Maybe therapy and exercise. I don't think a relationship is the answer to feeling tamed.
I'm not wild in nature and I only get bored like 2 times a year so it is hard to advice. Being born an introvert we tend to have brains that never shut off so we don't need that much external stimulation and strive for calm.
No I like long term, committed relationships. The only people who thinks it's burden and feels tied down are the ones who aren't ready for a relationship and need to stay single until they mentally and emotionally matured to handle a relationship. Otherwise it's wasting your time and the other person's time, there's no point being heartbroken for no reason.
Nah i think its more so like my case of the ex where i loved him but he showed his true colors later in the relationship but i loved him so much and didn't wanna waste time starting over that I began to settle yet felt trapped. I literally had to let him break it off so i could feel set freE
I'm with you, dd. When I'm in a relationship I don't feel tamed or restrained but more like civilized. In some ways, a good partner is like a mirror that allows you to see your own behavior and attitudes. That partner doesn't seek to change you. You simply want to be the person that they admire.
Neither, being in a relationship doesn’t make me feel “tamed” because I’ve never been anything but tame. I’ve pretty much only been in one real relationship, and I’ve been with him and only him for several years. He was my first kiss, my first sexual encounter, and my first everything. I ain’t ever hoed lmao, and I’m perfectly happy being committed.
I feel like some of us are made to be single and the rest are made for relationships. If you never feel lonely by yourself, the bachelor/ bachelorette life is for you..
I've always wanted a partner, someone to worry about, someone to cuddle in bed, To ask how her day was And tell her how mine was. Someone's neck to kiss and hips to hold when she's busy, Someone to be always in my corner and someone worth fighting for.
I haven't been in a real relationship as an adult. People look at me like I have 3 heads when I say that lol. My last relationship ended when i was 20. I spent the last 5 years in a situationship. I don't like who I ended up becoming inside of that situation, but I'm good to my partners in relationships. And I'm also ok with being single.
I love who I am when I'm single and who I am in a relationship. However my favourite me, is the person I am now. The person I'm with now has helped shape me into a better person. I'm more confident and laid back. Always looking for an adventure. I expect these were all facets of my personality, it just took someone equally as amazing as me to bring it out. My one, my counterpart
A stable relationship makes me feel secure on an emotional level, and I like having someone else to lift up and love. The reduction in insecurity and uncertainty makes me feel more free. (Not saying I rely on my partner for my self esteem, but it doesn’t having someone say they love you and out of all the women in the world they want to be with you.)
I just created a poll with another phrasing of this q. For some reason most people do not feel like they are single and available UNTIL they are with someone (mommy or daddy replacement person - someone who accepts them for who they are and doesn't insist they be different to be able to date) Family shame is behind it, but most won't bother curing that.
The whole bs of rebound relationships is superseded by that - we all first want unconditional love, so simple acceptance of being - to then come up with all these 'well now I can finally be myself and do xyz'. Seems to come down to how grateful you feel for being accepted - which is also how happy you were with your parents.
I would feel more at peace if I was in a relationship. I would feel more stable and with more of a purpose. When I'm by myself, I just do whatever I feel like, and that's not always a good thing because I'm kind of random. But if I'm the only one dependent on myself, then I don't really care; why should I?
@DizzyDesii Lol. Who knows how I would have turned out if I hadn't taken that abstinence pledge at age 12. I might have f'ed 1000 women by now. (But probably not, because I am the type of person that prefers a relationship, and that's even beside the fact that I'm a Christian.)
If you feel trapped in a relationship, you should NOT be in it! Relationships for me are almost entirely companionship, as in, I’m not changing myself for them or they’re changing themself for me, we’re just enjoying each other’s love and company.
Voted B 100%. I can't say being in a relationship has ever made me feel trapped or like I need to get away. Rather it feels good that someone else claims you and is really into you, so you don't really feel like you're stuck.
We are NOT monogamous creatures! WE are polyamorous by *DEFAULT*
Now you can try to go against your innate nature as a primate mammalian species, but MOST will fail, hence the high divorce rate and infidelity rate. If you're gonna be with one particular person, at the very least, have an OPEN RELATIONSHIP. Eventually you get bored and want to fuck other people. It's not 'bad', it's just our nature.
You dont need to be in a relationship right now. Maybe later in life, but right now you will only destroy it. Go have some fun until your ready to be more settled down. If you never get to that point, its ok. Live your life and just be happy.
I am a traditional and loyal person and I love the security. I was with my boyfriend since I was 15 and will be until I die. I hope I can some day say we’ve been together for 70+ years. We will get married on our 10 year anniversary.
I don't have the mindset of feeling held down by being with a woman. It frees me, gives me energy and life. Being with someone makes me feel more powerful and confident. It doesn't make me feel trapped or anything. Quite the opposite.
I’ve never been in a relationship with someone who I didn't want to be with. It doesn’t feel like you’re stuck when you want that person. If you kinda want that person then it can be
That depends upon your partner's nature. For me, I need a level headed partner just like me who understands that there exists a real world outside the romance and that keeps asking for my time and attention. But unfortunately, I have found that women are born complainants and love to tease men for not being their slave.
You want them to ask for your time and then get mad when they complain? It sounds like you’re wanting them to be your slave, beg for whatever time is convenient for you to give them and be content with however little it is.
It's not about only me dear. I have seen other guys also facing same undue pressure from their girlfriends. Maybe after surrendering their time, love and body, women expect men to be at their service 24 hours, leaving behind their old sick parents, professional meetings and other important activities. You would be amazed to know that two Hindi movies on this topic were made in India. Both were funny yet realistic. How women try to manipulate men after having sex or for other reasons was beautifully shown in both movies.
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