Some of these comments are so disappointing. Most trans people do not expect everyone to want to be with them, bottom surgery or not, because they acknowledge people have their own preferences. It is fine to have preferences, we all do and to say you don’t would be, in most cases, a lie. However, as I said prior, most trans people KNOW THIS. Most trans people are not mad or angered by people not wanting to be with them due to the simple fact they are trans. What DOES make people mad or saddened is the ignorance some hold against people who are transgender. Some people really lack compassion, the ability to feel what others feel, for me, I couldn’t even imagine the difficulty mentally someone born in the wrong body must go through... the confusion, fear. It’s heartbreaking and I’m so happy that so many people have been able to transition into the gender they truly exist as. I just don’t understand why the concept of being transgender is so difficult for some to understand. A person is born a female but is in the wrong body, they transition into the body they know represents who they are. They then use the pronouns that go with that gender, as well as USE THE BATHROOM to the gender they are. Why? Because it’s THEIR GENDER. For me, I chose that I would be with and sleep with someone who is transgender even if they didn’t have bottom surgery. Actually, since I’m a straight woman, it’s more likely I’d prefer a trans man without bottom surgery than with. I get why this is a discussion, I’m happy these topics are being communicated, but I’m disheartened by the way some people are belittling and berating transgender men and women. It is 2020. Some of you need to start worrying about yourselves and STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO WITH THEIR BODIES. And that’s on personal rights.
It's not belittling to refer back to the facts. A man can look great in a dress but still be a man, and I don't care which toilet he uses. I haven't even seen anyone arguing against someone fantasizing about being the opposite sex, just saying that regardless of their delusion, they intend to honour the facts. Do you get upset about people not supporting anorexics desire for weight loss?
I want to say I would but I don't think so... I am totally accepting of trans people, I have absolutely no issues with it whatsoever. I'd like to think that since I'm a cisgender hetero female, that if they presented as a hetero male (with surgery to have male genitalia), that I would consider dating them. But I think that finding out they were trans might change that for me, which actually upsets me a little because I can't work out why. I don't believe it's 'unnatural' to choose a different gender to your sex or have surgery, and I don't have anything issues with transgender people, so why does this matter to me? I'd be interested to know if anyone else has thoughts about this!
I don’t know. You’d have to somehow love them in the fashion of agape (courtly love), and convince yourself that you love them for their mind and personality. However, you realize that sex will possibly not go beyond 2nd base, and each of you may have to separately masterbate to achieve anything close to an orgasm since the organs may not be compatible. If the couple can be okay with that, maybe it would work.
I would date them but only as friends with benefits. their genitals dont matter for sex. But romantically I only have attraction to pussy. Theyd have to pass as my gender. And I could only masturbate. I dont like butt sex. Yuck ! i do think big dicks csn be attractive. But emotionally i only like feminine gender. I am also a boob guy. Theyd have to look as hot as you.
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Not a chance. Wouldn’t date one with or without the genitals they were born with. Changing your genitals, growing or loosing your breasts and taking on a more feminine or masculine appearance, depending on which gender you’re switching to doesn’t make you that gender.
There are massive differences between the sexs beyond genitals, for example, neurological, bone structure, muscle mass, fat content, hormones and the amount of the hormones present, coordination and stamina to name a few. Many of those things cannot be changed, especially the neurological differences and brain structure differences. So in truth there is no such thing as switching genders.
I also refuse to use gender pronouns for anyone who identifies as a gender other than the one they were born as. I believe in calling things what they actually are and refuse to cater to transgender people regarding this.
I think it's completely possible to be attracted to someone who "presents" as the sex you prefer. However, if you'd like to have a sexual relationship with them and they don't have the matching genitals, I couldn't get into it. We could be friends... I'm sure we could date until the revelation...
I only want to date and marry a biological female. And I want her to look like a female, because I think girls are pretty and that is what I am attracted to. But her self-identity would not be an issue for me in terms of being a disqualifier. People are individuals, and everyone expresses their gender and sexuality in their own unique way. People are people first. Your partner is a human soul. You shouldn't judge them because they don't ascribe to certain stereotypes.
I'm never going to accept trans-gendered people if girls on here would freak out if their boyfriend or husband asked them to get breast implants but then those same girls are perfectly okay with getting a sex change... what is the common sense in that? It should go both ways, right? God never said it's okay to change what I helped create you as. If this entire world turns gay then eventually life would cease to exist... and the reason why the LGBTQ pushes their agenda is that they don't care about an afterlife of heaven or hell. They strictly go by their principles. It's quite sickening how the LGBTQ pushes their sex-heavy agenda on little kids I mean let kids play, draw and watch clean cartoons but the LGBTQ community thinks "Nah, lets corrupt the minds of the youth"... I don't care who gives this comment a thumbs down. On the Day of Judgment, those who are perfectly okay with this mindset can answer to God.
As for your breast implant analogy: There's a difference between choosing to modify your body (gender reassignment surgery), & having someone tell you to modify your body (being asked to get breast implants)
Well I could say people should accept their gender then. I’m 5’9 should I cry that I am not 6 ft 6 and become a girl? The lgbtq community has said very harsh things about straight people and religion therefore the lgbtq community is not about love. I see people loving their money but waking by people who are homeless not giving a crap, it means people are selfish and pretend as though more money will make them happier/better person same goes for the lgbtq community. You can disagree with me 10000% people can do what they want but we all have an expiry and our souls are returned to our creator for judgment in the after life just like we are judged in this life for results in school, at work, or through the legal system.
I have zero sexual or romantic interest in males, and in any flavor of transgender.
I support transpeople's right to do what they feel is right for themselves, but I'm not under any obligation to be attracted to them. It's great that some people are, but I'm not one of them.
Fair play to you.
I'm bisexual but I would only ever date someone with intact genitals. I'm sorry but if you have had surgery to change the way you look then you are broken in my eyes and I would be scared of you falling apart. It's never good to try and change your junk to the opposite thing, I've seen pictures and read the stories. It just sounds horrible and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemies. If you have to pretend to be a different gender, whatever you do, don't mutilate your bits!
No I would not, because in addition to reasons given in your answer choices, gender dysphoria is a mental disorder that very serious ramifications. Someone who can't accept their own body is just the tip of the iceberg, and the bottom of the iceberg is the highest suicide rate of any demographic in the world, and one of the highest of any demographic in history. It's all a bunch of insane drama that I want nothing to do with under any circumstances.
I couldn't date them, period. I'm kind of a purist, and prefer to keep things natural. Born a male, always a male to me. It doesn't matter how you look. You cannot give birth so what biological purpose would serve us beyond physical attraction? Nothing. I have a biological imperative built deep into my mind to procreate. The moment my brain learns that it isn't possible, attraction is lost. It's just natural. This is just my temperament. Others might feel differently.
No I want to date them and I wouldn’t date them if they did have the surgery so basically if they after surgery and then trick me into sleeping with them and never tell me that there were originally a guy we would probably be fine if they did tell me they were originally guy I would show him the door I don’t date people with Y chromosomes
It's not just about the genitals. Even after having his genitals surgically mutilated, he would still be a man with body dysmorphia. I don't mind him carrying out a feminine role in a homosexual relationship, but I have no interest in this. I am attracted to women.
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@baked_bean No. If he has a Y chromosome, he is a man, regardless of how mutilated his genitals or hormone supplemented he is.
I'm not having a go at your opinion for this. Just wanting to share some info you may/may not know.
Gender can be seen as a spectrum and some people's body's align with where their brains/souls are. however for some their body can be at one end while their mind/soul/who they are is at the other end. It is then that they have to choose whether to try and live as they are or to change/transition their body's to what it feels like it should be.
I believe that this one fits a bit better.
You ever kick a toe or knee a wall and you can feel the bone is broken but everyone around you says it's not and to not worry about it. However it's in your body so you can feel it.
Then you tape the toes together to try and fix em best you can so you can continue on with your life.
@baked_bean the difference is that a medical examination would show a damaged bone. This is not about acknowledgement of damage, it is about dysmorphia. When we were younger, my basketball loving brother and I thought we were meant to be 6'6" negroes. I am glad that there were not surgeons telling our parents that they could help us achieve our natural state by pigmenting our skin and and lengthening our bones.
Was that something y'all wanted to be or felt you were tho?
A therapist could also help show you whether or not you are transgender kinda like a medical exam.
It costs a lot of money for people to actually have some of the surgeries so they wouldn't want to chose to have to have it.
There is still a lot more to learn about what it means for someone to be transgender, humans dont know 100% yet why/how this happens there are studies being done everywhere tho with new information all the time.
I wouldn't date a transgender person, regardless of whether they are biologically male or female.
As a straight male with regular gender identity, I only wish to date other straight people with regular gender identity.
No bi, no pan, no alternate gender identities.
Nope, as a bisexual woman, I would only date a biological woman or a biological man.
So a biological man who looks like a woman but still has a penis just seems odd to me. But I also wouldn't date someone who had surgery as well cause I want the real thing.
I know the question was not meant for bisexual. But, not every bi person would date a trans though. I think that's why they created the word pansexual. But anyways just wanted to share my opinion :)
I am simply not interested in Trans Women. I fully support their fight for inclusion, acceptance and pride. I have never cared on way or the other who bumps uglies with who. I personally have not attraction to Trans women but everyone has their preferences. Solidarity with your struggle though.
I don't think I would date a transgender person. I'm very impressed by those who are comfortable with it. I think I'd miss the male body part. I personally think that having the genital operation is a very big decision and possibly life threatening.
I chose this one because you said "couldn't be attracted"
Of course I could be, but once I found out, the attraction would go away.
In my opinion, it's just crossdressing with or without the surgery. They are still genetically the gender they were born with no matter what they do to themselves.
Nope. I'm only interested in women who are 100% female from birth and have natural female anatomy. Men who manage to look female through medical procedure aren't female and they never will be.
There are 2 types of transgender in my prospectives:
1) Transgender that looks like a man and trying to be a woman = Red Flag
2) Transgender that looks like a actual women. It just a woman that traps in the man's body which is naturally fine = 😏 I don't mind at all
Transgender is Transgender, whether they pass or not.
You're just showing how judgmental and picky you are.
. . . Off you go
Im a lesbian, I only date females. Not men who feel like they're women and believe in brain sex. Im not attracted to feminity, I'm attracted to females. Trans men I probably wouldn't date because most would be pissed that I, a lesbian (someone who only likes women) like them.
So no, Im sticking to exclusively non trans females
Unless a trans woman is physically indistinguishable from a biological female, genitals and body overall, I wouldn't be interested to begin with. But even if that was the case, the problem is that with the scientific technology we currently have, trans women aren't able to have kids. That will probably change very soon, though, but until then, I won't, since I want to have kids eventually.
I would not dismiss the idea of dating a transgender person.
All really depends on how well we get along with each other.
But I do hope they plan to one day have the full conversion in the future.
Unsure how I feel about having sex with a shemale / trans woman.
I would date and have sex with a transgender woman. I have no issue with people being who they really are.
I do feel a little guilty however that I would realistically probably only date a 'passing' transgender woman.
In terms of sex, a penis on a woman is less of a hindrance and more of an attraction for me to be honest. Although again I'd feel guilty for potentially reducing this person to a fetish.
With 50+% of population being women why in the hell would I go for a trans. No thanks surgery or not I think I'll stick to actually women.
i don't see myself myself dating a trans-though i have seen some that are hot as hell. even though i'm straight-i prefer this-i've seen seen and heard enough about the results-both instances-the dick is still there-just one is inside out... it's not pretty. i didn't go looking for it-but i do spend a lot of time online.
in fact-i stumbled across a vid of Blair talking about the surgery.
Guess its hard to change millions of years of evolution embedded in my genes.
I'll only be attracted to biological woman.
If I find out she's trans, I will lose all form of attraction.
You're not wrong
To be a man or a woman is a bit more than just having specific genitals. To me there is no 'trans' but only 'imitation'. I am not a social worker for the emotionally disturbed, and so will stick to originals only.
So, you're arguing against science?
Not. I am arguing PRO common sense and PRO choice. MY choice in this case. Interested: which branch of science, and which theory do you refer to?
Transgender women tend to have brain structures that resemble cisgender women, rather than cisgender men. Two sexually dimorphic (differing between men and women) areas of the brain are often compared between men and women. The bed nucleus of the stria terminalus (BSTc) and sexually dimorphic nucleus of transgender women are more similar to those of cisgender woman than to those of cisgender men, suggesting that the general brain structure of these women is in keeping with their gender identity.
In 1995 and 2000, two independent teams of researchers decided to examine a region of the brain called the bed nucleus of the stria terminalis (BSTc) in trans- and cisgender men and women (Figure 2). The BSTc functions in anxiety, but is, on average, twice as large and twice as densely populated with cells in men compared to women. This sexual dimorphism is pretty robust, and though scientists don’t know why it exists, it appears to be a good marker of a “male” vs. “female” brain. Thus, these two studies sought to examine the brains of transgender individuals to figure out if their brains better resembled their assigned or chosen sex.
Interestingly, both teams discovered that male-to-female transgender women had a BSTc more closely resembling that of cisgender women than men in both size and cell density, and that female-to-male transgender men had BSTcs resembling cisgender men. These differences remained even after the scientists took into account the fact that many transgender men and women in their study were taking estrogen and testosterone during their transition by including cisgender men and women who were also on hormones not corresponding to their assigned biological sex (for a variety of medical reasons). These findings have since been confirmed and corroborated in other studies and other regions of the brain, including a region of the brain called the sexually dimorphic nucleus (Figure 2) that is believed to affect sexual behavior in animals.
It has been conclusively shown that hormone treatment can vastly affect the structure and composition of the brain; thus, several teams sought to characterize the brains of transgender men and women who had not yet undergone hormone treatment. Several studies confirmed previous findings, showing once more that transgender people appear to be born with brains more similar to gender with which they identify, rather than the one to which they were assigned.
nterestingly, while the hormone treatments may have caused issues in the previous studies, they also gave scientists clues as to how these differences in brain anatomy may have arisen. Brain development is heavily influenced by the prenatal environment – what hormones the fetus is exposed to in its mother’s uterus. Some scientists believe that female-to-male transgender men, for instance, may have been exposed to inadequate levels of estrogen during development (Figure 3). This phenomenon could have two causes: 1) not enough estrogen in the fetus’s immediate environment, or 2) enough estrogen in the environment, but poor sensitivity in the fetus. Think of it like a cell phone tower controlling remote calls – the tower may not be producing enough signal (scenario 1), or the receiving phone may be unable to process the message (scenario 2). In either case, the call doesn’t make it through.
Possible scenarios underlying insufficient feminization. During normal feminization, sufficient estrogen is present in the fetal environment. The estrogen is recognized by fetal cells and triggers the development of a female fetus. In Scenario 1, very little estrogen is present in the fetal environment. Even though the fetal cells are capable of sensing estrogen, very little enters the fetal environment and the fetus is insufficiently feminized. In Scenario 2, there is enough estrogen in the fetal environment, but fetal cells are effectively “deaf” to the estrogen and the fetus is insufficiently feminized.
The amount of estrogen in the fetal environment is a little tough to measure – but there appears to be some evidence for transgender individuals having poor hormonal sensitivity in the womb. A team of researchers found that the receptor for estrogen (that is, the cell phone receiving the signal) seems to be a little worse at receiving signal in female-to-male transgender men – think a 2001 flip phone trying to process photos from Instagram. Thus, the signal doesn’t come through as clearly, and the externally “female” fetus ends up more masculinized.
For many years, psychologists characterized transgender identity as a psychological disorder. Some, for instance, believed it was a coping mechanism to “rectify” latent feelings of homosexuality, or the result of environmental trauma or “poor” parenting. No studies have been able to demonstrate this, however, and these “findings” are considered outdated and have been highly criticized for their discriminatory implications. Other psychologists have attempted to differentiate groups of transsexuals based on factors such as IQ and ethnicity; similarly, these theories have been overwhelmingly rejected due to poor study design and issues with ethics.
And so, while the list of causes for transgender identity continues to grow, it has become quite clear that it is not a conscious choice – similar to what has been described for the “reasons” behind sexual orientation. Still, at least 63% of transgender individuals experience debilitating acts of discrimination on a regular basis, including incarceration, homelessness, and physical assault. When about 1.7% of the population is in some way affected by cases of ambiguous genitalia at birth, these findings seem staggering.
So, where do we stand on transgender issues? Science tells us that gender is certainly not binary; it may not even be a linear spectrum. Like many other facets of identity, it can operate on a broad range of levels and operate outside of many definitions. And it also appears that gender may not be as static as we assume. At the forefront of this, transgender identity is complex – it’s unlikely we’ll ever be able to attribute it to one neat, contained set of causes, and there is still much to be learned. But we know now that several of those causes are biological. These individuals are not suffering a mental illness, or capriciously “choosing” a different identity. The transgender identity is multi-dimensional – but it deserves no less recognition or respect than any other facet of humankind.
That was interesting to read. I'll reconsider my reasoning; but still this will not change my own position of not being willing to be with a trans as a partner. I guess that this is my right.
I have absolutely nothing against that, everyone is entitled to their choices and their preferences.
👍...
Definitely not. Also, most transgenders still have masculine features so I can generally spot them relatively easily, so even without the dick I wouldn't. The dick just makes it more disgusting in my head.
You just think they have masculine features and you can spot them easily because you assume all the passing trans people aren’t trans.
No... it's in their facial structure. They have a bigger jaw, cheekbones are shaped differently, then legs and butt are shaped different as well. Ribcages are generally larger and more noticeable. Even their hands look bigger and more square-ish. You sound pretty ignorant to others opinions.
It’s not an opinion that you have. I’m telling you right now with 100% certainty that you have seen a multitude of trans women who you had no idea were trans. Good to know you’re really inspecting them, though.
I mean, sure, bud. I’m not the one creeping on people.
Okay. I didn’t insult you at all. If I wanted to insult you, I’d call you fragile.
No I wouldn't be able to, I'd lose attraction once I find out they're trans. Not in a phobic way obviously, because I don't mind people who are trans. I just personally wouldn't be able to
Sure why not, but can't say for sure till it happens. Things happen to change when it's in front of your face.
I may run or embrace it. You just don't know. Unless your in that situation
Blair is decent person. I have nothing against her. I however, wouldn't date a trans girl who did somehow manage to get a surgically installed pussy. Gross.
Yes I would but I wouldn't be in a relationship with them. I would mainly do it because I was curious about how they look and act like.
I think if their an outgoing person sure, everyone deserves a chance. Maybe keep the twig and berries away from the Netflix.
I'm just not interested in them romantically. I only like cisgenders. If I was a man, though, I'd try everything.
I wouldn’t date a transgender person period if I knew they were! I go by what you are born with, not what you turn into, identify with or have mechanically changed. And i say that in the nicest way I can! I prefer a mature female women!
I've been with a trans guy before. (Female to male) he was better than most cis guys.
I’d never date another biological male no matter how convincing his ability to look female is. He’s still a male.
Yep, I'm bi anyway so I'm fine with either genitals
I agree with @neesa your really suspicious @DaMack999
I have nothing against them but I would not date them
I've spoken to and met transwomen. I can and have been attracted to them, but only post-op ones. I'm heterosexual only.
I do have some reservations, not because they are transgendered, but because they can frequently be mentally unstable.
I'm interested to know what information you are basing that last bit on? I am aware that in the media there are a lot of issues with this but we always see the 'dramas' not the boring normal stuff, and even then the drama is sensationalised. Perhaps this isn't an accurate representation?
Or is there more science or information that would indicate this actually is the case? I'm genuinely interested to know if any research or work has been done in this area, I just wasn't aware of any.
I wouldn't but don't mean I'll be disrespectful. I've been hit on by trans,. And gay men. I'll talk to them and when they cross the line I just remind them not interested. I really started seeing how women feel lol. Good learning experience.
I'm transgender and for what its worth, you sound like a nice person. It's nice you can see people and accept them for who they are.
Exactly. :)
I like to think that I'm socially progressive. However, I don't think I could date someone who used to be male. Especially if they still had masculine aspects such as a masculine voice, facial hair, etc
I'd never date a transgender, just not my thing, but I'd happily be friends if we clicked.
well if they sound, look and have women features, i probably wouldn't even notice if they dont tell me
Never, surgery or no surgery!
A man needs a woman and vice versa.
Only a man and a woman complete each other from all aspects!
I would want my own biological children, and a transgender cannot do that. Yes I know one can adopt but I want children of my own if my life conditions were right.
Actually, eggs and sperm can be stored prior to taking Hormone Therapy. So, transgender people can have a biological children, many have and many do.
Id only date a woman who was born a woman.
If you are trans you still have the Male chromosome pair. No amount of surgery will change that.
Fuck no. Not even after they cut their dick off. It's still just a fucked up man. Y chromosomes make a man period. Do what you want but I sure the fuck
ain't
No because they're portraying to be a gender they are not. I'm only attracted to women, a man pretending to be a woman no matter how close he resembles them is still a huge turn off and makes me feel weird.
Please educate yourself more.
@whipitout As I said, he needs to educate himself.
Doesn't even know the difference between gender and sex.
Yeah definitely, I think trans people who haven't changed their genitals are super hot haha
No if transgender is 100% transformed i might fuck her if i don't know she i ssd's trangerder
Absolutely not. He is a man and I'm not gay. I don't consider someone a woman unless they have a vagina..
I don't date men irrespective of whether they've mutilated their bodies or not.
I wouldn't date a transgender person at any stage in the process or after.
Sure if he looked smelled and like a female.. I might even tap her if our connection was good enough
That's something I know I just wouldn't be able to do.
No, because I'm not gay, and no matter what you think you are, a an is a man, and a woman is a woman.
Duh?
@SimpleRhubarb What about using real words in a real sentence?
Have you tried it?
duh
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exclamation: duh
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You asked a question, I gave you the answer. Sorry you can’t handle it, I guess.
I mean, you’re the one who made a stupid comment. Obviously a man is a man and a woman is a woman. I learned that by age 3.
Since I have to break it down for you.
@SimpleRhubarb You keep talking, but you don't say anything. So either you go straight to your fucking point, or you shut up definitely.
You’re either not listening, or you truly are extremely dense. This is painful to watch. Don’t embarrass yourself like this.
@SimpleRhubarb What's embarrassing is watching you write the same kind of shit again and again, never saying what you really think. And judging by your other comments on that question you never say it clearly.
Are you one of those people who believe that someone is the gender he chooses?
Someone’s gender is who they are. I’ve said something different every single time, you just have nonexistent reading comprehension. You are a failure of a human being.
@SimpleRhubarb That doesn't mean shit and you know it perfectly. This is, also, not what I asked you.
So, again, answer, or shut up.
Even tho I already know the answer. But I kinda like seeing you trying to never say it directly, just so you can pretend you're somehow better. You're just a ridiculous idiot.
I think most guys should date them exclusively. They just would have more in common with a transgender female. 😊
I wouldn't date a transgender, I'm strongly against them.
Yeah sure. If they wanted to be a woman it wouldn't change my view.
I wouldn't date a trans women pre or post operation.
Cuz the thought that I'm having sex with a man not a girl even if every thing about her is a girl but I can't get rid of it
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