She/He wasn't my type but fell for her/him anyway. Do you have such a story?

[sejla]

[hates2wait2]

Most definitely do have such a story... I was a young man I guess that I was like everyone else and would go out on the weekends looking for love or a one night stand... I was at a night club in a small town I had attended school and graduated from... There was a little bit younger woman than myself playing pool... I watching and I noticed every time she bent forward to shoot that she was not wearing a bra and I could catch a quickie of her kinda small but firm breast... When the game was finished I asked her if she wanted to take a ride... I already knew by her looks that she was not really my type, but hey I was young and horny... hahaha We did end up having sex that night and she moved in with me not long after we met... To make a long story short, she got pregnant and I always told myself since my childhood, that if I ever got a woman pregnant when I grew up that it does not matter if I love her or not, I will marry her and raise my child... I guess because my father left my mother when I was 6 weeks old it caused me to feel and think this way... I was keeping my words to myself and that is one of the most important things to me... After 10 1/2 years of marriage, I began to notice that her behavior was odd and I knew that she was having an extra martial sexual affair... I found out for certain and positive that my suspicions were correct... I told her that she might as well go live with him, because I did not want her anymore... I truly hope that you people in here will think badly of me for this... I am a very firm believer in being truthful, loving and most of all faithful in a marriage or relationship...

[sejla]

You gave it a try and it didn't work 10 1/2 years isn't a bad run for a relationship that started a bit shaky.

[LuckyCub]

My Opinion is that nobody really has a type. If you have a type then your looking at love as something that is closed limits in a box. We think we have a type but usually our peers and family members decide who these people are, because you can marry a poor man said the rich girl because what would I say at all the family gathering. This is real life not the notebook.

[sejla]

Maybe instead of a type one should have a list of deal breakers or a minor list of things one can not live with. It then doesn't rule out a lot of different types.

[LuckyCub]

Good idea

[kaylaS91]

I always thought my ‘type’ was someone who was taller than me (5’10+), catholic, and well educated. At the very least. After internalizing certain things that friends/family/the media would broadcast.

When I ran into a guy at uni who was an acquaintance more than friend back in hs, 2-3 years prior, I didn’t think much of going to coffee/sushi together everyday. He was shorter than me, Asian, in the middle of his degree and atheist so ‘not my type anyway’. Which, over the course of the next 4-5 months following that first coffee outing, showed me that there’s no such thing as a type. Having a type is not much more than an idealization that assumes everyone will be reduced to fit into pre-set cookie cutter forms. Which, after being with this guy who was not my ‘type’ for 6+ years by now, most of which have been happy and quite fulfilling. I can see that might happen when people try to oversimplify things in an effort to try to find the right person as quickly/easily as possible.

[hemanthChinnu]

I'm 5'11 don't misunderstand me just saying lol🤪😂😂

[sejla]

A friend's sister is trying to stick to dating within her cultural group and so far the guys haven't been that great. Because of her age early 30s she is considered old and in one case when she met one of the men off the app he was just plain rude.

[hemanthChinnu]

Ohhh fuck! 😬😬

[hemanthChinnu]

My Instagram I'd : hemanth_chinnu___

[kaylaS91]

@hemanthChinnu
Dude.. this isn’t a dating site
🙄

[hemanthChinnu]

Hahaha lol 😂 just for fun buddy

[Cynicaldreamer]

Yeah, my ex is a perfect of that. He was definitely not my type as we were complete opposites! I usually go for the quiet, geeky simple types. Not a drinker or smoker.

My ex was a goth, smoked, extroverted, and way too sappy! But overtime I slowly fell for him.

Now you all heard the old saying, "opposites attract?"
Yeah that's not the case for everyone...

Long story short, he fell out of love with me and cheated after I started to like him 😑

From now on I'm sticking to my type, lol

[sejla]

Maybe you will find an out there guy who doesn't smoke or cheat but I could see why sticking to your preference might be better. I personally am looking for a lot less drama in my life too man wise.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Yes, and it was a waste of time in the end.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend wasn’t really my type. I usually went for muscular tough guys, and he's more on the geeky nerdy side lol. I thought he was cute but I didn’t want a relationship out of him. He has more of a smarter sense of humor and I like dumb humor. Even in the beginning of our relationship I was still like eh. But we’ve almost been dating for a year and he’s honestly the best boyfriend ever. He’s so sweet and I honestly can’t imagine breaking up with him. He has his flaws but he’s stuck with me forever idc. Yeah we’re different and yeah he wasn’t my “type” but I’m glad I said yes when he asked me to be his girlfriend.

[pats73]

Marry him,
If you break up,
You will suffer for a lifetime

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I know. It kinda sucks because he’s my first boyfriend and I wanted to experience other guys, but I’d REALLY regret breaking up with him because there’s nobody like him. So I’d rather just be with him forever than break up with him.

[sejla]

I know quite a few people who married their high school sweethearts or their first real boyfriend. If he's great it might not really be worth trying around. My parents were each others first when it came to sex after marriage and they were together over 50 years.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you’re right. I’m definitely sticking with him.

[New_girl333]

This has just happened to me! After years of dating professional men (pilots, doctors etc) I realised that I could see a pattern of being treated like I was either just a commodity or there to please someone else. Sadly I didn’t find love that was reciprocated with those men. They loved themselves too much...

So I took a chance on a guy who wasn't my usual type AT ALL. Turns out... he is perfect for me in every way. We have completely different backgrounds but somehow we just work. I feel like we were meant to find each other and I’m pretty sure he feels the same way. My family weren’t particularly pleased that I chose this guy to start with but I think they are slowly coming around. He makes me happy and that is all that matters

[hemanthChinnu]

I'm a student will u please give me a chance to take over 🤪 then u'll cover all types I'm sure u'll not regret 😂😂

[sejla]

That's a sweet story.

[hemanthChinnu]

Hey!

[New_girl333]

It’s a true story ☺️

[Ebivion]

There was this girl that liked me and well we started talking. I don't know I thought I could give her a chance and asked her out we had fun and I told her I liked her. Then she kissed me and we became a thing we where together for 5 months the first 4 where the best 4 months of my life and the fun thing is we where nothing alike but I don't know things ended badly

[Anonymous]

I got to know my ex on a course I went sent on through work . He sat next to me on the course. I didn't find him physically attractive at first; not my usual type. But we got on so well from the start. We talked liked we'd known each other for years.

Over the course of a few weeks, he became more physically attractive to me. His awesome personality changed how I saw him, physically. It's weird how it happened, but it did. A relationship developed and we were together for about a year.

[sejla]

It is interesting how people get more attractive when they have good and/or kind personalities.

[Opinion Owner]

It is. The more I got to know him as a person , the more physically attractive he became

[Countrywildmangirl]

Yes... met on gag., he wasn't my type at first but i realized later that day that just because he isint ur type... doesn't mean shit.. he may be the one for me. Eventually it was right. Since 2017 we been together ever since and I love him way to much. Not only he looks hot but he is very caring loving and so much more ,

[Anonymous]

Yeah. What I told myself I'd never have was a German guy, who doesn't believe in God and has no interest in art.
Hey look who I'm in love with and share a home with... xD

It works well because he has other qualities I didn't know I actually needed to have in a man to actually not fail at the relationship after the first 6 months

[sejla]

Oh how nice.

[eyesopenwide]

I fell in love when I meet my wife of 17 years. But once we got a place together, it was clear to me that i. was there to be a dad.
She would get home from work and eat dinner and be gone til bed time hanging out with our. friend in the aptment complete, she never just stead home

[waleedv3]

She wasn't my type, I like that really hot popular foreign girl then till we had a fight and kept texting and talking to me everyday to apologize... Kinda fell for her and she ended up being with another guy since like 8 years and pretended to have cancer for 9 month... So yup..

[StarGayle]

I wasn't very attracted to my ex initially. However I can fall for someone's personality and they will be more attractive in my eyes. Same with someone I find attractive initially.

[sejla]

I'm surprised how I find some attractive because they are nice guys but others will pass them over. There is one man know, not in my age range, who physically I'd say is not that attractive by societal standards but he's smart and great wit which makes him interesting.

[StarGayle]

Yeah it's weird. Most guys I don't find attractive because of their personality. I can only think of a few times. But its amazing what a personality your drawn to can do.

[shebakaran45]

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[LuckyCub]

I've got a theory, that the truth is never told between the 9-5 hours

[TacocaT6969]

My current boyfriend was my type but I found him unattractive.

The more I got to know him the more attractive he got.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. And overall, she wasn’t my type. I mean she was above average in looks but personality wise, she was quite the opposite of me. Still, I fell in love with her appearance and sense of humor. I just wanted to have an attractive girlfriend. Being totally honest here.
Moreover, we shared the same interests, hobbies etc.

[listeningfool]

Yeah. But it was for the love of the most beautiful woman inside that til the day I breath my last breath I will aways think of her as the love of my life. She didn't always treat me badly.

[Anonymous]

I wasn't really that into my ex when we first met.
But then I fell for his confidence and what he did to me.

[sejla]

Sometimes it's the little things.

[pigoat]

I hear that shit quite often

Just shows the randomness of life

[winterfox10]

In my case it wasn't love, it was lust. But yes, that has happened

[TacosRAwesome]

Yeah one of the biggest fuck ups of my entire life. Wasted 4 years on them.

[Angel_33]

When find haromony inside yourself alone others things not are important. Not let know other about you know good. Every way people is different and they people who want in your life simple stay.

[funtimenow]

My x was older but i loved her found out later she would rather cheat on me then break up. Liked my fake friends more then me

[sejla]

ouch