Parents won’t let me see my girlfriend during this corona virus pandemic and I’m getting stressed out because she is upset, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

What do I do ,

[SnowyOwl]

Well, this virus is highly contagious, survives on dry and wet surfaces for like a week, that includes the sole of your shoes. You don't want to walk into a house where you cannot be sure of the hygiene measures taken. You dont wanna contaminate someone's house just by walking in. And you dont want your house contaminated by having strangers in.

In my honest opinion, a strong/real loving relationship can survive this distance. You can still talk on the phone, or video call. Stay isolated to protect both of you. If both of you care about each other and your health, than this is no issue.

I know these times are stressful, and I'm sorry that your girlfriend is also feeling that way. But this is a chance to do whatever you would do bu usually can't cuz of people interrupting you. Like, I'm learning an instrument and making paintings for my house.

And as I said, you can still talk with her, ask about her day, tell her about yours. She should understand and you should too that you parents are protecting your health, but also your LIFE. I repeat, highly contagious, has killed thousands. Protect everyone and stay home. Thank you
https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/

[Anonymous]

Try not to worry, I can't see my partner of 3 years, im not even sure when we will be able to see eachother, maybe in a month, maybe less. it depends, but our situation is different, we had a row, and he wants a bit of space and ovbiously this whole pandemic thing thats going on atm is like the perfect excuse for a bit of a break, and so his mum doesn't want me in their family home atm because i came back to my family home for what was supposed to be for a few days only but now his mum has said she doesn't want me back atm which was pretty hard to accept but now im fine, because i see the bigger picture, its far too dangerous, id rather be apart from my partner for 3 months than see him earlier and potentially make everyone sick if you do carry the virus, just try to hold out, this virus won't be forever, trust me when i say this, i reckon a lot of people are going through this same situation, and others will find it just as hard, and also think about the mums or dads or carers who can't see their own children due to this problem in the world, people will find it hard but its a small price to pay.

[Thomas_Friend]

If you can't move in together temporarily (which there is probably a high chance of), I'd suggest that you arrange for a time to meet in a park so there's wide open space, and go there separately at the same time and talk to her. If you want to keep a 2 metres distance, you do that. If you don't, then consider your parents' careers (as this may be part of the reason why they are reluctant for you to engage in social contact) for a second, and if everything's good, then walk with her a little and talk. Also, if you have a health condition that makes you vulnerable to the virus, this may be why. Relationships are suffering because of social distancing, but there's still things we can do to show those we love that we do indeed love them. Show her you care, tell her you're not okay with being apart from her, but be mindful of your parents. If they have a habit of prying, you'll need to have your wits about you.

[MuffinBoi]

Wow. Honestly, your girlfriend isn't the most understanding that's for sure.

Well I read some other answers and if she's claiming facetimes are stupid and there's The Big Corona on the loose, there really isn't anything you can do I'm afraid. Personally, I think you deserve somebody more understanding and mature but that's not for me to judge.

Your only option is a video call and if she's not accepting that, well then, tough luck for her. You're not going to sneak out the window or teleport after all.

[Angelina25]

Uh what?
It's a good thing that you're not allowed to go out. Wtf? Can't you not see your girlfriend for a month?
And if your relationship can't last this course during this crisis, it's not real.

[Antelope]

(Okay but it's gonna last more than a month)

[Angelina25]

@Antelope the lockdown? Yep ik

[Fuego69]

Yah fucken stupid the bro said his girl is stressing him Bc she upset that his parents don’t let him leave the house so wtf is y’all asking him “can’t you not see your girlfriend for a month” like wtf w all yah acting like scared little bitches how you know it gon last a month or a year or for a decade. So tell me why tf ya so stupid like people are out here going to work still Bc it’s in the industry where y’all ain’t in it so if those people still alive working n healthy by going to work from home n back shit why can’t he hop in the car n go from one home to another? Tell me? 🤦🏻‍♂️

[Fuego69]

&angelina25 “yep ik”🤡🤦🏻‍♂️🙄

[KitKnickKat]

If you can’t see her, then you can’t. The best you can do is Skype/Facetime and tell her everything will get better eventually. I know a lot of my friends won’t be able to see their SO’s for 6 months due to the virus but they are still making it work because they love eachother. Sure, your girlfriend is allowed to be upset about the situation, but she can’t blame you or get upset with YOU. Try and help her calm down, if you’re stressed because you think she might leave you then she’s clearly not worth it. My boyfriend told me we have to start hanging out less because of the pandemic, sure i’m upset but i will manage because i love him.

[theronaldmcdonald]

Video chat, I know it’s not the same, but it’s better than one of you getting corona and dying. Then you really won’t be able to see each other. You can have fun on vc regardless, my boyfriend and I got blasted Monday night over ft and it was a good time. You can order food from the same restaurant and have a breakfast/lunch/dinner date. Watch the same movie together over chat. Get creative.

[BlueGoddess]

Your parents are right. Listen to them.

A lot of people aren't taking this pandemic seriously and everyone needs to.

The guy I'm seeing has covid-19 and in a bad way. I would love to go and see him but I won't.

We all have a responsibility.

Talk to your girlfriend over Skype or face time. You can be for her that way.

[standingUP]

Dear Heavenly father , Please comfort and heal Blue Goddess,(s) friend, and his family. Protect him in Jesus's name Amen.

[mistixs]

talk over FaceTime or Skype

[Asker]

i know but she said face timing is stupid as an alternative ,

[mistixs]

it's better than getting your family sick with COVID19. she needs to stop being selfish

[confusedgamer]

Listen to your parents, please, even if you only get slightly sick, you could spread it to more vulnerable people. You could FaceTime with your girlfriend, or call (phone, discord etc). You can talk with each other using Internet. I know it is not the same, but post Corona you can see each other in person again

[Anonymous]

Well your parents are smart and responsible. Your girlfriend needs to get a grip. Sorry but if she can’t handle this how the f*** is she going to handle anything real in life when the s*** hits the fan like it always does. Yes of course you miss your partner but this is an opportunity for her to grow up a bit.

[Fuego69]

Fuck what your parents say tf if you older than 18 you work or was working n pay some what a bill id say go see yo girl give her the fuck of this epidemic n tell her to stop stressing you cause you the motha fucken man n spank that ass & grab her by her neck at the same time you telling her so she know who tf daddy is n watch her see you as the nigha she gon do the extra mile for n stop listening to your parents you ain’t the little kid that you was anymore! Do shit that you will benefit from n do what you want that you feel is rite n what make you happy n apparently seeing her is happiness unless the female stresses you often constantly then leave the bitch or set a boundary n don’t let it get to where she controls you my dude onGod

[kim45456]

Reported

[Fuego69]

Bitch stfu bitches love a nigga that knows how to be a fucken man n do tf he want n gets what he wants @kim45456

[kim45456]

Shut tf up you male cunt

[Fuego69]

Cum fucken make me you female slut😈 @kim45456

[BCRanger10]

You mean what should SHE do? She should grow up and calm down. I doesn't matter if she's upset with you or with the situation. Things outside your control are happening. She has no business faulting you for it.

As for what you can do, write letters to each other. Letters are more personal than emails or texting. Face time and Skype are options as well.

[lightbulb27]

it's a girl, they do that. just talk to her... you think you have to solve the problem when in fact, you just have to talk to her and deflect her thinking to something else. send her some peaceful scenery like this..

https://www.youtube.com/embed/_RTMLn7rDRw

[lightbulb27]

e. g. go on a vacation with her as you fly around Scotland...

[AnonymousqueenP]

She’s being selfish, this is a serious thing going on wether she thinks so or not. Sneaking out seeing each other can higher the risk not only for you two but for family as well. And I know it probably seems dumb but it’s better to be safe than sorry, a month is nothing in a relationship that’s real. If it’s real it will last.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to chill out and not be upset. It is what it is man. What can we all do? Nothing. You guys will be there for each other when this is all over. There’s way more to life than seeing your “smoochy bear“ every hour of every day. Does she have any hobbies? Now is a great time to take up a few of them to keep yourself occupied.

[Anonymous]

You are aware video calling exists in this situation. You might not be able to physically comfort her but it will show you care

[Asker]

she said face timing is stupid as an alternative

[Laggy]

Your girlfriend is sort of selfish. She must respect the precautions regarding this sickness. It's like this that more people get infected, because of their own selfish desires.
Your parents are right and smart to keep you inside.

[katjmj]

Use this time to reevaluate if she's really worth being your girlfriend if she can't understand what this pandemic means

[Billie_]

lol, I can't go out and see my long distance boyfriend either. Just gotta FaceTime, my friend.

[NineBreaker]

Listen to your parents.
Use telecom (text, facetime, calll... etc.)
DO NOT BREAK QUARANTINE.

If she has a problem with that, the tough luck.
Don't endanger your health or anyone else's.

[AustinMan]

Tell her it's important to stay safe, that it will be over.

[Anonymous]

Video call.

And wait untill all s**t blows over.

That little inocent date, can bring Corona in to eather or both of your houses and your/her parents most likely are in higher risk group and might die in case of getting it.

Just keep it in your pants for longer and stop being selfish.

[Agape93]

Call her
Text her
Email her
Face time her
Write letters to her