my ex boyfriend has asked me to loan before for a motorbike. I don’t want to but he forced me promising he’s gonna pay monthly. but my family knew about it so they stolen the motorbike and sell it for 42K. Now I am keeping the money.
I dropped everything for my boyfriend to stay with him which I believe I spent more a lot. I sacrificed a lot of things but He only cheated me with another woman. Who he boast to me who has more money and can meet his needs. And now, my best friend is gone, my stable work is gone, my health sucks of std, my body becomes thin.
what shall I do should I return the money or not?
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What I can't understand is...
how an he FORCE you to loan him the money.
also, as I read from a few other posts, if it was in your name then it clearly would be YOUR bike, which would have been YOUR decision to do with it as you want. If your family 'took' it from him an sold it back to his parents without YOUR consent, that would be against the law as they're selling YOUR property without your knowledge or consent.
now, as for the main issue, it's your money, you do with it what you want... but if you want my opinion, keep it. That much money being lent to him and he's still being an ungrateful asshat and making comments about how his new girlfriend has so much money then let his new girlfriend handle him. You don't owe him anything more. I'm surprised you're even lending him that much money for random shit like that... he's clearly just leeching/mooching off of you. Shipping fees, hotel and shit, wtf, why is he piling these expenses on you when he should be looking to be making these payments himself or going to his own parents for it not just going to you and asking you to cover for him when it even looks like he's just continuing to borrow money and not paying you back at all. Sounds like quite a toxic relationship in my opinion.
Be glad that you're rid of him. Realize that it's a lot more stress and pressure off your shoulders than it would be with him still being with you. After that it would be a matter of finding the opportunity to get back on your feet emotionally and financially and hopefully find some time to spend with others that you can have a good time and relax with.