Should I return the money to my Ex Boyfriend?

[iAskYou18]

I let my ex boyfriend borrow 20K for his rent, 5K for his medial check up, restaurant bills which I forgot to count many times, shipping tickets that cost 4K, hotels and etc. which I believe would cost more or less 50K in total

my ex boyfriend has asked me to loan before for a motorbike. I don’t want to but he forced me promising he’s gonna pay monthly. but my family knew about it so they stolen the motorbike and sell it for 42K. Now I am keeping the money.

I dropped everything for my boyfriend to stay with him which I believe I spent more a lot. I sacrificed a lot of things but He only cheated me with another woman. Who he boast to me who has more money and can meet his needs. And now, my best friend is gone, my stable work is gone, my health sucks of std, my body becomes thin.

what shall I do should I return the money or not?

Yes returned it to him

No don’t return it to him

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+1 y

And he asked me not to pay my debts to help him in rent that leaves me 30K interest.

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And only got cheated behind my back after all the sacrifices I made

[Fulbau]

What I can't understand is...
how an he FORCE you to loan him the money.
also, as I read from a few other posts, if it was in your name then it clearly would be YOUR bike, which would have been YOUR decision to do with it as you want. If your family 'took' it from him an sold it back to his parents without YOUR consent, that would be against the law as they're selling YOUR property without your knowledge or consent.
now, as for the main issue, it's your money, you do with it what you want... but if you want my opinion, keep it. That much money being lent to him and he's still being an ungrateful asshat and making comments about how his new girlfriend has so much money then let his new girlfriend handle him. You don't owe him anything more. I'm surprised you're even lending him that much money for random shit like that... he's clearly just leeching/mooching off of you. Shipping fees, hotel and shit, wtf, why is he piling these expenses on you when he should be looking to be making these payments himself or going to his own parents for it not just going to you and asking you to cover for him when it even looks like he's just continuing to borrow money and not paying you back at all. Sounds like quite a toxic relationship in my opinion.

Be glad that you're rid of him. Realize that it's a lot more stress and pressure off your shoulders than it would be with him still being with you. After that it would be a matter of finding the opportunity to get back on your feet emotionally and financially and hopefully find some time to spend with others that you can have a good time and relax with.

[KrakenAttackin]

If the motorcycle was in his name and your family stole it, they are facing a serious felony charge. If you take proceeds from that crime you are also liable for criminal charges.

The other costs you mention have no bearing on anything unless you have proof of the charges and that he is responsible to pay you, in which case you have a CIVIL complaint. His complaint against you and your family will be CRIMINAL (that is you will go to JAIL).

Don't let your hormones send you to jail.

[iAskYou18]

its under my name, i think you misread that he asked me before to loan it. but his family paid for it because my family got mad.

[KrakenAttackin]

OK, than all is well. Let him sue you for the proceeds if he wishes.

[Fatherhere901]

You keep the money for the motorbike... it was your bike. If he wants the money, bring it before a judge.
As for future money given to him, have him sign either a receipt book (get at any grocery store or office depot, or a statement saying how much you are giving him and a "repay by date". If he agrees, great, he will repay or a judge will ask "then why did you sign it if you won't pay it back".
If he won't sign... more money for you.

[yaranzo]

What the fuck? They stole his motorbike?

Dude, give him the money back. Why are you even considering? I rarely get pissed off but this is one of the most obnoxious things I've seen on this site. That's his personal property. I don't give a shit if he's wronged you in the past, just get over it and move on. Why did you loan him money in the first place? You didn't explain how you were forced into doing it.

[iAskYou18]

It’s under my name that’s why it’s stolen

[yaranzo]

You made a promise to him that you'd loan. You didn't have to do that.
So instead of compromising with him your family takes the motorbike and sells it, then gives you the money. Dumb situation. Dumb explanation. I can't even understand your post.

Is it even stolen if It's in your name?

[iAskYou18]

You don’t understand isn’t it. Can your reread before speaking? He forced me to loan so why are u saying he “you’d promise to him that you’d loan”? Can’t you imagine the situation the bike is originally written under me because I was the one loaning it. His family forcefully paid it full because my dad has stolen it because originally the orcr is mine. That is how stolen. And I spent more than the cost of the bike to him to be honest. That’s why I am asking this question

[iAskYou18]

To give u more detail, I know his parents paid because they are afraid he will get into jail because of this. And my family is more wealthy than them. Understood?

[iAskYou18]

Which means my family has more money to face in court.

[AmeenKA]

Do not return it to him. If he owes you money, he has to pay it back, and 42k does not cover the almost 60k it seems he owes you. So 42k should not be something he should need back from you considering he still owes you money.

[jamesgoldman]

My only question here
What kind of bike is fence able at 42k?

N. B. My uncle used to be a vehicle chopper and would be lucky to get 20¢ on the dollar for easy to sell stuff

[iAskYou18]

Bike in Philippines is very cheap. 😁

[iAskYou18]

You can buy a lot here if that is your case

[jamesgoldman]

Now that makes sense

[Liam_Hayden]

So you voluntarily gave him 50K and then your family stole from him and gave you 42K? Honestly you should have never given him the money in the first place, but that was voluntary. This latter thing is theft.

[winterfox10]

Keep the money... put limits on your generosity in the future. You've been getting used.

[OddBeMe]

Def keep what he owes you. Maybe keep the rest too for the trouble. But giving him some may help him.

[najekim]

He owed you so keep it. Remember, you could have said "no" when he asked.

[one1wild00]

Sounds like he owes you that much and more back.