People don’t “hide” old love letters. They just put them away and often forget about them. Both men and women do this. Unless they really ended up miserable from the ex - in which case they likely burned them... like I did with a certain ex along with all photos in a very cathartic fire. Anyway, why does someone else’s relationship concern you? Especially this non issue? I mean, obviously no one can ever discard mental “memories” of exes in spite of some of us wishing that we could. So what difference does it make?
Some memories you never want to let go off, especially if the assuage the ego. It may be from a time past, but it was a really good time past. On the other hand, in this specific instance, it sounds like she's a real bitch and shouldn't be difficult to get over.
I question the statement " ... she won't allow to see their kid..." She might not allow it voluntarily, but if he wanted to see his kid badly enough, all he has to do is take her to court and get visitation rights granted.
"They have a kid together but she won’t allow him to see their kid or her." That must be rough on him.
I have letters and photos from my first girlfriend and various girlfriends and an ex-wife going back 30+ years. My current wife sees my son with my ex-wife everyday, and I see her kids she had with her first husband everyday.
I don't think much about past relationships, but my past is part of me. I do not know and would not think to ask if my current partner has things she holds on to from her past relationships. We are together, that is the important thing.
Probably just don't like get rid of things. there is people who want nothing of there Ex's there are those who want little things kept. i have my Ex's dairy lmao she never came back for it, i've read a little Just the last couple days we were together never read the rest been a couple years tho now so prolly could but idc enough.
well, find out who cheated. and She is keeping kids, first of all that person can never be trusted ever who left kids and wife or husband for other one. Second, If he/she having feeling for ex then why need to marry again, they can talk and fix things
It holds a certain value. Don't you like when someone sends you a letter saying they love you? I'd say we keep it because it's a good memory, and everytime you see the letters you're reminded of them, and maybe they make some people feel better about themselves!
Because they may be some of his most important memories. Why would you throw them out? We are not born perfect at relationships and not every relationship will last forever; for some you will learn something (hopefully) and move on. You can learn a lot about relationships (and yourself) from your ex's, as while we may be congenitally ill-prepared to see it own weaknesses, they know where our limits truly are.
Its fucking natural to have feelings and still hold them through marriage with someone else. Its a fine thing and understandable. Sorry just needs to be out there more. We should have someone we really connected with more than our current partner its something you know you can work towards.
Let him keep them. Because they mean something to him and his allowed to be sentimental, even if it's about a time before his current relationship. Taking them from him would be like saying you can't think about this or that, thats controlling.
Looks like red flag city to me. It could be that he didn't get closure from his past and maybe he just hasn't gotten over it? I don't know this to be the case, just a likely scenario.
Did you expect him to store emails in his basement?
A handwritten word is more than just a letter...
He should keep those until he dies. Why would you bin memories that are so precise and precious?
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