How to prove to my boyfriend that I am perfectly happy with him?

[mr4206969]

This is a gay relationship, I am bi though.
My boyfriend who is a bottom found out I am not strictly a top. I'm a virgin, but over the years my preference to bottom for someone dwindled away and I now only want to top. My boyfriend feels that 1) because I am a virgin and he's a bottom that I won't get to experience what I want to experience 2) He doesn't see me as a masculine person anymore (which I feel makes him not feel like he is attracted to me anymore.
I tell him that I am not missing out on anything, I love being with him for him. he tells that is a lie and he doesn't believe me. He tells me to prove that I don't want to be a bottom for anyone. I tell him that's a physical experience. He then tried to break up with me so that I can go sleep with someone and experience being a bottom, then come back to him afterwards. He is angry with me now, he wants me to prove that I am not a bottom and that I am perfectly happy being with him.
what do I do?

[Anonymous]

If he knows that you're bi I guess he is insecure. If this is your first gay relationship than he is definitely insecure about your gayness. And perhaps in previous relationships he was used to alternate between both positions and now he can't express himself in that way to you.

However, all that doesn't matter. He is trying to force you into doing things you're still not ready to do. He is nagging you and emotionally draining you. This is toxic. Apparently that's his behavior if he doesn't get things his way. And that's a red flag.

The short answer is that there is nothing you can do. He got issues. Don't let people treat you like that. If my boyfriend said to me because I won't have anal with him that I should 'prove to him' that I won't have anal with anyone else. Then I'll prove to him that he can take his controlling attitude to his next relationship as I'm not dealing with his ass. You are 22 and you never had it. That's his proof. So either he believes you, trust you and respect your love for him. Or you accept that this attitude will be something you deal with whenever you don't do as he wants. That's something you need to ask yourself and decide.

He is willing to hurt you by breaking up with you so he can have peac of mind by getting his proof?
He is willing to fight with you over and over and cause you pain just because you said 'no'?
He hurt you by not believing what you tell him and think that's okay?

Dude that's not love period.

[Opinion Owner]

You can explain to him how hid behavior makes you feel and that you would appreciate he stops blackmailing you into giving him what he wants.
Tell him his trust and faith in you matters so much and you feel pain every time he argue with you about it.

But you can't do more than that. You can't change people and you can only make a decision to leave or stay.

[Ciarle]

He tells me to prove that I don't want to be a bottom for anyone...
^
I'm sorry but that sounds so toxic

[mrhappy69]

Fuck that guy!! Toxic af.