Do You Think People Are Becoming More Heartless, Less Caring?

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Some of the things I read on here tho, just leave me smh🤷🏼‍♀️... People arguing, breaking up over who's "role" it is to do this or do that.. But if you care about/love someone don't you just do those things because  YOU CARE  or because  YOU LOVE... Man I've had friends and neighbors do things for me that people squabbling about doing for someone they  SUPPOSEDLY LOVE...  🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

"Becoming?" No. Most people have  ALWAYS  been heartless and uncaring.  It's just that now it's becoming more apparent due to underlying sources allowing people to act and behave like immature assholes. The internet is particularly the main issue behind this nonsense. Don't believe me? Just scroll through some of the replies on here sometime, particularly from the "anons."  Nowadays there's NO accountability for one's words or actions, so people don't think before they speak or type. Or if they do, they use the anonymity of the internet to harass or lash out at others they don't like or agree with. Don't want to see someone again, or you realize they're not you're type? People ghost you instead of telling you they're not interested. Just to name a few things... there's a plethora of other issues I won't list or this reply will turn into a mytake. And the sad thing is this type of behavior is becoming the norm, especially with the younger generation.  If I did half the crap some of these kids nowadays get away with, my parents would have beat my ass, grounded me, and took away anything fun in my room.  Did it work? Damn right. You can bet I grew up to be respectful and considerate of my friends, family, and others around me. But I digress...  It's disgusting that people have a selfish, uncaring attitude nowadays: it's always been there, I won't deny that. It's just worse now. People have developed a, "me me me," mentality where if it doesn't benefit themselves, they don't care.

Yads_Is_Back · Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. It’s all about self now, for most people. They fight for freedom to do wrong (no morals anymore), and just look at the decisions that are made every day.

Desconhecida · Answer

People are becoming too self centered. Their comments regarding love and relationships show us they never ever actually loved anyone I'm their lifes yet.
by the way, I loved the last image and its message.

1Sophisticatedme · Answer

yes!!! Selfish and care more about them than people they care and hurt their feelings

Lliam · Answer

I'm not sure. But if so, I'd blame social media for a lot of it. People are less likely to be rude when they are face to face, and they are way more likely to be rude when interacting with people that they are unlikely to ever see in person. When they get more accustomed to speaking their mind and/or being rude, they become more comfortable doing it. It becomes their nature.

People didn't used to have to interact with the whole world. They mostly interacted with friends, neighbors and family. They were tolerant because they all tried to get along. A rule of thumb was to never discuss religion or politics.

It does seem that even strangers back then were more courteous, helpful and neighborly. They were more law abiding and socially conscious.

Politics and media was less divisive. Now days, politicians and media exemplify hate and divisiveness.

Back in the day, people had good TV role models.

Granted, back in the day, people had less access to information and didn't have to think as much. They, naively, had more trust in government and media and the objectivity of the educational system. So they were pretty much on the same page. The economy and their personal lives were in much better shape, too.

Now days, things are falling apart and people don't know exactly why. They are trying to find people to blame. Either that, or they become apathetic. Because of that, they are more concerned about their own survival than about others. If anything, they have become more tribal and think of those outside their like-minded tribe as "the other". Fewer people think of themselves as Americans first. Instead, they have an "I'm right and you're wrong" attitude that makes mutual understanding and respect impossible. People are scared. And, again, that is exacerbated by politicians and media, as well as identity issues.

I think many of the problems I described are by design. But I won't go into that here except to say that we're being ripped off and encouraged to fight among ourselves as a distraction.

Jjpayne · Answer

I wanna say that in a number of ways Reese's commercials "not sorry" and just the culture we are in is Twix "all for me, none for you"

We are so focused on our lives that we put ourselves into a bubble especially with social media and our phones. We really don't need to talk to people because we have everyone we need right in front of us at all times

But I do have hope hersheys "give a little bit, give a little bit of my love to you" and covid heart warming stories

I think selflessness is still out there. I think we can still care for each other. Even users on girls ask guys do that too. Depending on the question and user of course

But I do hope if there is one thing the older population can pass on to the younger is that we need to all help to care of each other, anyone and everyone. You say it's only my neighbor I don't owe them anything... But I say that life is about sharing and supporting others whenever it's fair or reasonable.

I did this already yesturday. When you are in an store isle say hi and ask how they are doing maybe ask if they have plans for the weekend. Sure it could be cold and dead but the guy I talked to was very warm and friendly and I'm glad I said hi to him

Anonymous · Answer

Yes because everyone is stuck on their phones and watching a lot of things that normally we would have never watched and the more you see edil things, the more you become accustomed to it without having the initial feeling you had before.. even here there’s a bunch of people posting naked stuff, and then there’s websites like liveleak where there’s really crazy things, 4chan where people post even people being murdered, porn chats where you see naked weird stuff , dating online streaming where feelings become less meaningful where you’re dating multiple people behind a screen on a cam.. less true strong feelings as we used to have before.. YouTube / dateline , twitch,

Too much visual things on the screen we wouldn’t normally see is taking away from the real excitement when you see it in real life
we didn’t used to see all the naked people
we didn’t used to see all these people being killed or dead bodies
we didn’t used to see tragedies on the daily
and now we run into them from time to time online that when you see it in real it’s like whatever.. because you’ve seen it too much in here already it doesn’t face you
technology is changing us

hellacray · Answer

Oh don't get me wrong I can be very giving and loving. My issue is I don't trust most people.

Just as an example I stopped giving bums money when one time I offered him some leftover food I got from a fast food restaurant. He said he didn't want food he wanted money... I'm guessing he wants to use the money for drugs..

And then for charities I would rather volunteer than donate money. After reading an article about how some charities basically takes most of the money than giving it to the cause that pretty much tells me to never make cash donations to a charity.

by the way with the BLM thing still going. Does anyone know who's actually getting the blm donations and what they plan to do with it?

And then let's talk about women. I've had women try to use me before like to get answers for my homework, textbooks, free rides, and etc... I've had trust issues with women for a very long time. Most of my interactions with them has been either they want something from me or they don't care. It's only my guy friends that actually gives a damn and helps me when I'm in need. Not sure if it's a mentality thing but women never offer help unless it's their job. Their the ones that seek help or favors done for them. I mean afterall ladies nights exist...

So.. I'm not sure if that fits the heartless category. But I only help people I feel deserves it.

Gustav1 · Answer

This has been a thing in Christian circles for some time. If you were to ask Christians that stay up-to-date on the latest biblical prophecy developments, they will tell you that we're living in The Ending Times. People's heart will grow cold and lawlessness will increase (Matthew 24:3-14)

Signs of the End of the Age3 As he sat on the Mount of Olives, the disciples came to him privately, saying, “Tell us, when will these things be, and what will be the sign of your coming and of the end of the age?” 4 And Jesus answered them, “See that no one leads you astray. 5 For many will come in my name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and they will lead many astray. 6 And you will hear of wars and rumors of wars. See that you are not alarmed, for this must take place, but the end is not yet. 7 For nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom, and there will be famines and earthquakes in various places. 8 All these are but the beginning of the birth pains.

9 “Then they will deliver you up to tribulation and put you to death, and you will be hated by all nations for my name's sake. 10 And then many will fall away[a] and betray one another and hate one another. 11 And many false prophets will arise and lead many astray. 12 And because lawlessness will be increased, the love of many will grow cold. 13 But the one who endures to the end will be saved. 14 And this gospel of the kingdom will be proclaimed throughout the whole world as a testimony to all nations, and then the end will come. –Matthew 24:3-14

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

It does seem that way, at least on here - I doubt some of the ones online would have it in them, to say that in person though, Cynicaldreamer summed it up pretty well TBH.

It feels like people just do it on purpose and go out of their way to offend others and then almost laugh at you and accuse you for being 'offended' - the same could be said for anyone who posts anything, expressing their disapproval, because we don't know a person's tone, we're just basically reading what wrote, so word choice matters too.

It does make me think sometimes, though, are these people's real, racist/sexist opinions that they just aren't brave enough to state in person or are they just genuine trolls.

It's a shame, but I think it's mostly online and is most likely to happen in person when people are in groups or with friends.

AndrewMG · Answer

I'm a cynical guy as a rule, but I don't necessarily believe people are more heartless and less caring. I think the perception in a social media age suggests they are and also the fact the smaller the world appears to be in a digital age the less reliant we are on local communities, but I can only talk from personal experience, and that has led me to believe that the majority of people are decent and caring, it's just that the minority of people who are arseholes have a bigger and wider platform to express there extreme/bigoted/selfish views. But F*ck them, they don't represent me, they don't represent my friends and they don't represent the majority of everyday people that I come into contact with.

ohshee · Answer

Yes I do and it really sucks it has become a me me me world people are bolder they don't car what they say or how they say it,,, it's all about them I have a couple friends like that and I've walked away i dont care if i ever see them again it kinda pisses me off but thank you for the question because now that i think about it i guess we or I have to live through it,, i dont have to take it. But I will live through it I guess in time people will see it for what it really is and back off,, or they are going to take it the distance and that when everyone will be fighting everyone else

Mollynotgemma · Answer

Yes because it’s so easy to move in from relationships. People are so accessible now and that means no one makes any real effort!. The respect for partners is gone because if one relationship ends... another will start very quickly!
We all get into relationships so quickly now. But always judge one another and fight etc. because no one respects themselves anymore!
Everyone wants to be popular through social media platforms and don’t enjoy their lives!
People on holiday spend more time taking photos then actually just appreciating where they are!
The sadder the person. The more prominent they are on social media!
The sadder the person the more likely they are to jump from relationship to relationship because they need to feel wanted so when they get a partner they need to see if they can get another!

pigoat · Answer

I was at wendy's the guy at the cashier took my order the lady behind me was next and the guy just walked away with out saying anything and went to the back

The lady stood there a couple minutes she asked the manager where is the guy who takes the orders the manager said he went on break, the lady asked when is he coming back and the manager just turned and walked away didn't answer her

The lady kept yelling can someone take my order and then an employee came out and said yeah i will take it

Lmao good thing the costumer made you do your job because the manager sure as hell wasn't going to tell an employee to take over

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I think most people who are less caring or heartless are have been hurt in some way-- so they're less trusting (towards the opposite gender in relationships).
Some others just lack sympathy or empathy or it doesn't affect them as deeply.
I don't understand people who are not caring at all. Probably had parents that are not caring and that's the behavior that is modeled for them. That's not an absolute though.

MrOracle · Answer

If you ask my friends, they'd tell you that I can be generous to a fault - but I also don't allow myself to be taken advantage of, and so I will definitely stand up for myself and I definitely expect others to pull their weight in situations where responsibility is shared (if you want authority/access, then you need to take responsibility as well).

The real problem is that far too many people are unwilling to take any responsibility, even for themselves. I'm happy to help someone who is making a real effort, but I'm not going to help someone who does nothing to help themselves. I work too damn hard to do that, and they need to learn some responsibility.

As far as romantic relationships, though, I've never had much of a problem with this stuff. I tend to pick reasonable, grounded people to date, and so it rarely takes a lot of adjustment to make a relationship work for me.

SjE78 · Answer

I believe people are yes, I have seen over the course of the last 10 years especially people have become less caring and more hateful and unaccepting of other people... and those who are demonised are actually proving they are not the bad people they are made to be

JackSmy · Answer

YES!! Definitely, and more clueless, more stupid, and more AGGRESSIVELY HATEFUL!!!
I GET HATE posts from these little children, when I disagree with their unfounded, biased, and DELUSIONAL posts, EVEN WENT I SAY IT IN A NICE WAY!!!
I know, don't go there, because you know me so well, but YES, I can be Nice, and DIPLOMATIC!! :)
Some of these kids are just downright OFFENSIVE and MEAN, if you simply disagree!!!

JSmith925 · Answer

Yes I do. Having lived more than half a century, I can tell you from personal experience that people these days are very cavalier. This is even more true in big cities but the trend is everywhere thanks to satellite TV and the internet, the great cultural flatteners.

~JSmith

Syrian_survivor · Answer

Look at meme first

Social media and changes of politics are only making heartless people show more, people who don't give a shit about others are sadly too common, but these days they are rewarded by being given the entire world's attention and clout because media is fucking toxic and modern liberal journalism is ironically all about raging emotions of hate and anger.

Thank you.

Do You Think People Are Becoming More Heartless, Less Caring?

Unit1 · Answer

Damn right, Ms. Triple B!

Hence I am cynical, have low expectations of others and am obsessed with money. At least money gets me out of sticky situations, won't abandon me during difficult times and won't put me into difficult times. There are friends of course but they can't always be there - unlike the bank.

Money trumps everything!

FatherJack · Answer

Yes , sadly , and it has been deliberately engineered that way too , by toxic societal engineering and the BS controlled " media " , too many do not think for themselves , and allow these 3rd parties to think for them , combined with a herd mentality. And why I keep self to self as much as possible , give me ferrets and dogs over fecking people !!

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Yes, I do, in many ways. We are becoming desensitised to violence and the suffering of others. A good example is some of the posts on here concerning coronavirus. Some say it's not real, some say that a small number of people are dying; so that this virus is not to be taken seriously. They ignore the high toll of suffering, including bereavement, that coronavirus inflicts on its victims and on the victims' families and friends.

Kurαȷ · Answer

No, I don't think so.
I just think that people nowadays are more free to do what they actually want to do with their life, thanks to greater economic and social freedoms.

You no longer have to put up with toxic and restrictive family structures, unfulfilling relationships and harmful connections.
Nowadays, thanks to free access to education and job opportunities, you can just cut those kinds of connections off without worrying what will happen to you.

Who cares if you get disinherited by your family, or divorce your sole provider of a husband.
You can still continue living your life.

Now you can "make it" by being a career woman, or pursue a childless life of an academic.
You don't have to pretend to be a certain way to earn the safety of support from people that you would have to rely on in the past.

McSlav · Answer

Yes, it is because compasion, kindness and happiness don't benefit capitalism, but selfishness, and misery does, because they can exploit you for your money even more that way, plus kindness and compassion are a communist thing, and comunism is the polar opposite of capitalism.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Love, to me, is literally seeking the best for the other. On the other hand, I will insta-dump and turn off the love if she cheats, so maybe I am heartless in that sense. I just don't believe in expending a lot of energy on people who prove themselves unworthy of it.

allenwants2 · Answer

Well it's looking to me like it's more game playing than real life experiences sharing each other in pursuit
Of happiness causeall I'm after is a secret kinda girl so I can show her what real love is all about before it's to late for me to be of use here on eartg

Pasiton5 · Answer

No we are going through a great revolution in human history we are becoming aware of our mortality, realizing just how fragile out lives are and make better choices during our time here, there's always chaos before calm no need to panic it go negative must always remain positive

Yes2fruits · Answer

Yes people are, and that is the devils plan. To make people become more isolated and selfish. Because not caring is strength, and people let the egos get the best of them. The whole being heartless thing is only going to get worse as time goes on and towards the end of times people will forget about God.

likelyOK · Answer

Yes they are becoming more heartless and with the prevalence of hook up culture people are becoming more detached. Trying to make their heart cold so they either don’t get hurt or rationalize treating other people as disposable.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and the murder of a famous actor Sushant Singh Rajput has proved it. So many people killed him for his money. That poor guy was innocent, was successful without nepotism and generous with his money. His ex girlfriend fired all his staff, used to give him drugs then big Actors and politicians murdered him. Now when we Indians demanded justice the criminals are lying about that innocent actor by sabotaging his image and threatening his family. This bloody Mumbai police and government is protecting the Bollywood mafias. Hollywood is much better but this gutter Bollywood has underworld connections and prostitution. I hope the dirt gets cleaned up. This explains that humans are evil. I hope this world ends and good people get new life in a better planet.

Coolj · Answer

People have that it's all about me mentality because that's all they've known from family to relationships to friends. No one gave them a helping hand or loved them right. So with that being said why or how could they give love when they've never had it.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I get the sense that people are becoming more antisocial. Not that they are heartless or careless. Just less interactive and uncertain of how to behave in settings that were once natural to even most preteens at one time.

douride2 · Answer

In my humble opinion people definitely are become heartless. I really like the one here about the 3 types of people in your life. I have had them all at one time.

BCA6010 · Answer

I think people are becoming more obsessive about various things, often at the expense of people close to them.

monkeynutts · Answer

Yeah I agree, I think some people are incapable of actually caring about others. Sometimes these people have intimate relationships with each other, and they never truly spend the time to actually get to know the other person properly.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes people are Heartless and less Caring, People today care for themselves and no one else

sensible27 · Answer

The fault in our stars, the story of our hearts. We've started rationalising things for rationalities sake and the worst offender might be me.

007kingifrit · Answer

yes, you have to understand the past 75 years have been the most luxirious and peacefull in human history. that time was never going to last. it allowed people to adopt some very fanciful heartfelt morals but those morals will be unsustainable going forward

humans being heartless isn't new... its the normal

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Kaneki05 · Answer

Most people are like that especially if they haven't ever loved someone before just thought they did. Or if they haven't lost someone either. These 2 things easy put into perspective what truly matters.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

In general, yes I do. I think people are becoming. more desensitized by everything going on. in my opinion that's when we need to be more loving and caring. I love the third meme / pic.

JesseCraft07 · Answer

Unfortunately yes... All of my past friends have used me and left. I only have 2 friends now, that's you and @Secret6620. I just hope people would start caring about eachother more..

legalboxers · Answer

Its whats on the television and the people and persons behind who is telling these people, and persons what to do and how to do it. We become desensitized for the past 4 years and its getting worse..

TCredo · Answer

In the online world, yes... absolutely... unfortunately :(

Petra150 · Answer

Yes yes yes, when I hear in her that my fellow sisters are just as horrible as them on Tinder , as they gladly demand there guys taller and love putting a height requirement. So yes women in general ar becoming far more heartless and horrible

the_sinner · Answer

Yes I feel so. I think there are multiple reasons like spreading of hatred, religious issues, selfishness, internet and television, etc which are manipulating people in many negative ways.

Anonymous · Answer

Online and Offline.

CoolKatie · Answer

Heck yeah they are. they don't even bother. even my ex boyfriend didn't care about me. I already grown.

jirwin7979 · Answer

it would seem so i am still just as caring and warm hearted as i have always been

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. People are becoming too logical, too information-based or too practical to the point that intangible stuff are pointless to them

wellendowedwonder · Answer

I think people are too consumed with their own lives.

Slim57 · Answer

I was thinking about this last night, so many people could care less about the suicidal

Shiningtempest · Answer

@brainsbeforebeauty I believe people are developing Machiavellian mindset.

Dreaminginpixels · Answer

I think yes, and yes. The trick is to find balance for yourself. What you can take, and what you can't take without compromising your value to others. Being true to ones self is more than a cheesy quote, it's a far more rewarding life. Don't get too involved in how others treat each other, mostly, people are good and the less time spent trying to control the world around us (especially other people) the better off you'll be.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think people are becoming heartless mam, they are becoming a bit materialistic, but can they be blamed for that.
Cause in the end most of the people care more about those who they love, instead of everyone. So if you don't love someone that much, so that you could keep them ahead of yourself, isn't it better to be by yourself.
Hope this helps you mam.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

They've always been I guess.  Now internet just made things easy.  Luckily I'm still a student and don't have to feel the challenges in adult life

Bella9191 · Answer

No i just think the internet and social media etc wasn’t around much before. so now everything is being reported on etc we are just hearing about it more

WolfyGirl2077 · Answer

we have actually become more caring just look at the 1300 and 1500 people didn't give a shit about anybody else that time

Anonymous · Answer

Woke millennials are at the heart of it, selfish, therefor heartless. It’s a me culture, a ghetto culture.

IlluminatiExposed · Answer

I think the younger generation are more hearltess because that is how we treat them.

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Yes they are. People do not have compassion like they used to.

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