I use to believe there was good in everybody. I was very trusting, maybe even over trusting. People lied, deceived, and made to look like a fool.
I no longer follow those same principles. If I don't know you then I automatically assume everything they say is untrue. If I do know you I have recognized all your tell tale signs that you are lying. I know they are lying but I never give them confirmation.
I have a built in lie detector. I once asked my ex that was a compulsive liar a question I already knew the answer to and knew she would lie to. Right before she answered, her pupils gave her away and then I knew the lie was coming.
My friends think that they are slick because I never let them know I caught them in a lie.
When strangers approach me they try to feed me some BS but they follow under the first rule, already assume they are not telling the truth.
I have developed all these techniques because life is way too short to buy into people's fake sob stories, their ability to prey on the religious, or count on the empathy of the nice and naive.
I love to use their bullshit on them and watch them back paddle and squirm when they have been caught but I don't let on. I just watch them sink in the quicksand.
I think this question it self is a description...
Few people would willingly like admit they've been conned... And there's also the issue of... If he's that good.. it's very possible that you feel for a lie and don't even know it was a lie...
The situation itself makes it very hard to mesure or gage the actual value of off you've taken for it...
I answered no I don't fall for them... I generally take most people at face value but I also don't expect anything... So if they do lie to me then it's not exactly unexpected...
That being said I know I've fallen for stupid shit several times and if he was that good I guess it would really come down to... If I knew he was a manipulated or not... If I didn't know that I'm pretty sure if fall for SOMETHING at some point... Even if it was so small it didn't matter if he was telling the truth or not... (Like the name of his dog)
So I think unless you already knew he was a manipulater or a con man... Or you just don't trust anyone ever...
Your probably going to fall for at least one lie...
I never fall for lies. Because I have enough experience interacting with people. I’m also very skeptical as my natural nature.
Before you place any trust in other people. Just keep in mind :
If that person betrays your trust by doing the wrong thing , you have your fault in trusting the wrong person
never give someone the benefit of the doubt. If you do, you are agreeing that you are open to the possibility that this person may not do the right thing
IF it sounds too good to be true , it probably is
Follow your gut. It is always right
I see right through them and usually always have growing up thankfully. The second someone tries to, I catch on to it and I like to see how far they’re going to go with it and how they underestimate me and the fact they’re trying to fool me.. smh how there’s way too many trying to manipulate out there
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I can Spot One, Hun, But No Problem... Nice to Hear, dear. xx
I don't usually fall for this sort of thing. 2 incidents of note -
About a decade ago, an enterprising man WAS running a scam. His con set-up time was almost 6 months and included dozens of email exchanges, "focus group" type of questions. The final scam buy-in - where he totally stiffed us - was $49. I'm not even sure he cam out ahead, if he booked his time spent at a nominal par wage.
New driveway. The dude was working under an assumed- or totally bogus- company name. He had color postcards printed up with an address- the whole nine yards. We checked out the address- looked like a vacant lot. He wanted the down payment in cash- $1,000. Not a big problem since the job was 3x that. After talking to the police, I paid off the contract with a personal check made out to the company name. I was under no obligation to make out a check to his name, since he had a "company". I fulfilled my part of the contract. But by cashing the check, he would have perjured himself by admitting to a company name which didn't exist! He gave me the check back in a huff and said it was "no good to him". I mentioned that I spoke to the police and that they had said the check was a perfectly valid way to pay. He left the neighborhood shortly after that, probably onward to pester another town in another state.
I can't say for sure.
My first reaction to meeting people is to doubt them, and their seemingly helpful mannerisms.
Not that I don't want to trust people, but from experience, it's better to doubt and expect than trust and get heartbroken.
Because of this, I don't fall for manipulators often;
There have been a few times I've gone about ignoring red flags, just so I wouldn't have to deal with what was happening.
At that point, if it was a friend or something that was doing something manipulative, I would've became more of a spectator than a companion.
But it obviously depends on what exactly they were manipulating and whether it was just for a joke, or a harmless favour, or to get someone in trouble or something.
due to what i was subjected to and who my parents were and what they were like i've heard all the BS and lies over the years so it made me aware of all the different types of lies and such, however with that being said i have heard some doozies over the years from women, even friends who are trying to go out and (for want of a better term) "pull" and a couple of women over the years have actually been that good to make me ignore a couple of not so clear flags, which after a few weeks or years became highlighted for me but it is a rare thing for me to not see through the BS especially when i can read their body language quite well and tell their lies early on (for the most part)
“I've noticed people will allow themselves to believe something that they know is a lie just because they want it to be true.” This sounds like you just described the entire liberal-Marxist-Democratic manifest. lmao
There is another layer to the manipulation onion, manipulative people and this is the best part; make them believe they have you in their trance and play along. Suck them in with perceived innocence and ignorance and at the most opportune time, reel them in, and fry their asses. I will only f-ck with the manipulators that deserve f-king over.
I usually dont fall for lies (usually since sometimes its quite believable and hard to notic that its a lie and some you probably never notice) because I was a pretty bad liar as a child and with the time I started to believe my own bullshit and when I realized what I were doing and that there isn't even a reason behind it I started to despise lies and with the years I learned to avoid people who lie since I am a person who looks at the small details anyway and knowing how lied made it quite easy for me to notice almost every lie. I won't say there are no people who can lie to me, Im sure there are really "good" liars but if people dont put enough effort into hiding it I will most certainly notice it.
Nope. First question to myself is when I hear a lie is "what is the motivation of the person to lie". Compulsive liars don't lie because of some rhetoric, but they think if you believe their lies they gain some power over you. I can give them what they want or giving them to understand they should forget it. Sometimes it's a good tool to manipulate the liar, because there is no less aware person in the world than one who thinks someone eats their lies like it's honey.
However this is very situational and people who lie without good reason aren't people I use to have closer connection with.
Right now... Unfortunately... I'm so desperate for affection... I would likely be willing to be walked all over... Just to experience something... anything...
But I hopefully would catch myself before that happens but when you are desperate with rosy colored glasses it starts to get harder and harder to have clear judgement
I usually trust people and believe what they say. The only time I become suspicious is when they become unreasonable in what they say. For example, a person may be bragging about his career and wants me to donate $$, for some unknown reason, I become suspicious.
I believe people until they want me to do something.
Being manipulated is the modern excuse for not being smart. Mostly used by girls, even though they themselves manipulate way more than men. Do you know why? because most men are dumbasses that doesn't even know they got pranked, girls on the other hand know how to manipulate so they know when they're being manipulated.
I can spot many if not most lies from miles away.
I hear what they say but more importantly I observe what they do 😏
"Biology, nature, tradition, gender role, we're the child bearers, so you pay!"
Oh shaddap!
"I don't care about men's money *proceeds to date only men, who are loaded with $$$*"
Not caring about money my ass.
"I love you"
Show me.
I got scammed knowing she was manipulating me. I thought it was my insecurities that making me to distrust her. She was even reassuring me that she would never hurt me. Onlly happiness i have is even how badly she was trying to hide her identity, i could find her real details and exact location she lives lol
She was even using burner numbers
I feel like that for the most part everyone knows deep down when something or someone is to good to be true, but I've also learned from experience that after awhile of searching for something real with no success we allow ourselves to be manipulated so if only we could at least be under the illusion of love because it's easier to accept the lies rather than hear the truth.
I usually *don't* fall but sill have to vote A as sometimes people still just screw me over.
I can anticipate shit happening when I can see the other person's interest in betraying me. But some people just want to lie to you without any significant benefit to them... Feels so bad. I can respect if sb backstabs me and gains advantage from it but if they simply do it because they are too stupid to realise their mistake... duh...
I typically don’t fall for the lies. But I’ve gotta be honest, there was once a time I knew I was getting manipulated but I just went along with it cause he was really good looking, and I figured I’d be able to handle it when things finally went sour. Even though I saw it all coming, it still hurt.
People fall for hot people, confidence, smooth talking, career driven mean nothing at the end of the day, it’s all about physical attraction, the only exception is for money (Golddiggers) but that’s not falling for someone that’s using them
I used to fall for lies, I knew they were lies, but it was easier to believe it than confronting it. Now I don’t have the patience to deal with people lying to me, so I call them out on the spot.
It's called "Advertising" deary.
Apple use it to good effect, for selling their glorified, Chinese made, electronics.
Happened once long time before and never before. The second i hear someone talking smooth gourmet BS i just walk away.
I'm usually pretty good at smelling the B. S., but a couple of people had me hoodwinked for a very long time.
I'm glad I finally saw through it.
