CAN YOU GUYS GIVE ME YOUR HONEST OPINION ON WHAT IS BEST I DO?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is not working at the moment. He is turning 22 soon and I am 21 years old. We are both science students studying at university. There is one thing that bothers me. He doesn't even have 1 euro saved in his account as he is terrible with handling money and has recently stopped his part time. On the other hand I have 10k saved in bank and have a part time job which currently am working 5 times a week. Since he doesn't have any income and did not save any money before hand, he now has nothing and us relying a lit on me. Whenever we go out I have to pay and Im getting a bit tired if that. He isn't working as he told me he wants to focus on school but he only has 4 times a week of lectures I think he can fit an 8hr shift per week earning at least 159 euros a month. What should I do? Shoul I support his decision ob focusing on school or tell him how I feel? Sometimes I get so scared of the future with him. He is 22 years old and has nothing, how can we build our future together? Am I thinking to much, overthinking? Please give me your honest opinions. PLEASE HELP ME :(

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

have you tried looking at it in the third person aspect!!!
what would you tell your best friend or your sister if they were in the same situation... you need to focus on your future right now you can not support him and you to your going to have to make a decision
eather drop out, take a break from school and pay all his bills and rent or kick him to the curb and focus on YOUR OWN FUTURE who is going to take care of you who's going to feed you WHO'S going to put a roof over your head who's going to. buy a bed for you to sleep on
ANSWER---nobody is going to help you if you decide to give him another chance after chance throwing good money after bad $10,000 bucks ant going to last you and him no longer than one quarter 4 months and it's gone... now what he's still not going to work your job only buys food and barely pays the rent neather one of you is going to be able to go to school you've made another bad decision and this time it's going to cost you your future you can only take care of one person and that one is you
you are the number 1 person in your life if you don't take care of yourself then you become homeless, carless, jobless, smartless,
you become... LESS... not more. .. the whole point of going to school is to better yourself and you can't do that concentrating on a boyfriend who is slowly dragging you down you won't be any good to him or yourself when you run out of money if he continues going down this path he will eventually run out of everything you don't have to be there with him when that happens you can be in class learning how NOT to be stupid it's your choice eather stay and become dead or leave and live it's a no breaner you stop dating. the schools are full of guys looking for you someone who supports , takes care of, and becomes just like the looser he will ALWAYS be it's time for you to make a decision the best way to do it is
pro, s... and... ... con, s
list the good things you like about him and list the bad things about him. . now list the things you like about him PERSONALLY

NOW list the things that you don't like about him add everything up and YOU HAVE GOT TO GO WITH THE ONE THAT WINS
this way you can ( in a sence ) be blameless because the numbers never lie

[BrokenEMT]

You are definitely not overthinking it. You were just somebody who plans for the future which is totally great. I wish I was like that when I was younger, I was kind of like your boyfriend and didn't save and didn't think about the future.

I would definitely talk to him about it and voice your concerns to him. If the schooling he was going for was to become a doctor or a dentist or something that has a job guaranteed at the end of it. I would say supporting him so he can focus on school would be a great idea. If it's just a basic science degree not a guarantee of a job when school is done. I would say that you need to work as well as going to school.

You do always have to plan for the future. The future isn't for certain and can always change. But you should always try to be one or two steps ahead and be prepared for a what if this happens.

I hope this helps some and I hope your situation works out for the best.

[RemoErdosain]

22 is still young, and having lessons four times a week doesn't mean he doesn't have to study at home too. Maybe you're more driven than him and can fit a job with the studies, while he can't. Anyway, if this is a big deal for you, you could break up and look for someone more oriented towards financial goals

[Wise4myage]

You're dating a boy, not a man and he just wants to leech off of you, and will continue to do so till you put a stop to it. He needs to know how you feel, and the sooner the better.